dayveed1:
She's a witch

sassysure:
The "I love my mum more than life crew"
This is one of the consequences of trying to play the role of a "husband" to your mum excluding the sex part.

Mothers like this lack one thing. Love from their husbands.
Your dad must have resigned to his fate with her and who knows( might have been pushed to collect outside severally), she ain't getting the love she desires from her husband so she shifted such to her children. U can never be your dad. Ur love for her is a child's love to his mum and nothing else.

When u dig the root, the tree will shake. Digging the root means telling your mum boldly to stop seeing you the way she sees your dad. Ur mum will be very shocked to hear this from you and it will change a whole lot in your relationship with her.
Most of u guys don't know the damage u do by being to clingy to your parents.
She will continue till forever if u don't stop her. Even grandchildren coming will worsen it. Then she will have good excuse to visit your house or will u stop her from coming to see her grandkids?

And ur sweet woman can change over night if such continues.
There are 3 characters to every lady.
The character she displays when she want to win you for marriage, the one u see when she started answering Mrs and her real character after giving birth especially son to those who value sons more than daughters.
Let's hope she dont change.
And yes, some daughters in law can stop a controlling mum from interfering in her marriage if she feel her husband is a wussie.

So if u are the cool type naturally, u need a mad lady( literally)to put your mum in her place else your house will continue to be her football field.

pocohantas:
E remain make you type reference and appreciation, it'll become a fullblown final year project.

Maybe it is this your grammar that is making her refuse. She is probably not understanding you and your choices.

midnighter:


Lol never

THUNDER4real:
Is this a real story? or fiction to entertain us,?

Aleora:
haba that's too harsh.....how will you feel if someone called your mum a witch...not cool at all..

johndan103:


Sorry if the grammer offends you. I only want people reading to understand instaed of mumbling words that might confuse the reader.

breadplanets:
I only have advise for Hauwa......
Ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuun

Ajaerof:
Plz dnt mind my grammar, I really need assistance from uu guys, dis is contrary to the above topic, plz my marriage is 5yrs nw, he is a nice man in all angle but I noticed he is gay, always friends wit small boys I even hav to pursue one 2yrs again, he nearly pushed me out of d mans live, my husband dnt behave as if he is living wit a woman.... he has never bn moved sexually on me, am d one pushing our sex life and I think am getting tired nw, think after d two kids we have that he will change, to leave d marriage is wht is on my mind nw[quote author=Ajaerof post=82797626]Plz dnt mind my grammar, I really need assistance from uu guys, dis is contrary to the above topic, plz my marriage is 5yrs nw, he is a nice man in all angle but I noticed he is gay, always friends wit small boys I even hav to pursue one 2yrs again, he nearly pushed me out of d mans live, my husband dnt behave as if he is living wit a woman.... he has never bn moved sexually on me, am d one pushing our sex life and I think am getting tired nw, think after d two kids we have that he will change, to leave d marriage is wht is on my mind nw

midnighter:
Manipulation and emotional abuse. Your mother is very selfish, it doesn't matter if she trained you blah blah, that's what she was supposed to do. It doesn't give her license to ride roughshod over your life

If she decides not to bless your union it's her problem. Even orphans get married without any kind of blessing and nothing bad has happened to them till today

Better go ahead and marry the Hauwa and don't mind your self-centred mom. She will probably come around after a few months but you have to keep an eye on her so that she won't start playing stupid games with your wife when she visits

By the way there's nothing wrong with your writing style, I appreciate that you took time to format it and write in clear paragraphs that somebody will easily read and understand.
Most of the time people will just write a huge block of jumbled, garbled gobbledegook that takes about 3 rounds of squinting your eyes to get what the heck the person is ranting ut

Acidosis:


In Nigeria, all mothers are good but all girls are bad.


Better tell your mom the truth and get hold of yourself.

pocohantas:
E remain make you type reference and appreciation, it'll become a fullblown final year project.

Maybe it is this your grammar that is making her refuse. She is probably not understanding you and your choices.

johndan103:



Thanks for your advise.


I will be more firm and stand up to my mom protecting my fiancee and future wife. I have tried to be respectful to my mom but she is interpreted as weakness. I wont allow anyone put my Fiancee down phycologically cos she is a nice person and deserves to be treated right.


Please dont ask Hauwa to reconsider, dont scare my baby. I will intensify efforts with different strategies to get my mom to order. Shes making our lovely family appear disfunctional, and it saddens me.

bukatyne:


@John,


Your MIL is a drama queen: don't feed it. Once she doesn't encroach on your personal space, ignore it. No time for 'she did not greet me back, she eyed me, she served me with left hand, she called me Hauwatu etc etc.

Goodluck to you all.

LewsTherin:
If this is true, I have to ask. Where is your dad?

If this is true, then
Your mum is a manipulative selfish woman
You are a weak-assed punk

If you go ahead to marry this girl against your mother's wish, I give it a maximum of 6 months before you cave in to your mother's blackmail and make the poor girl's life a living hell.

Are you man enough?

johndan103:


My dad is alive and kicking. She has always had her way with all decisions. He allows her decide.

johndan103:


This is my life, so it's true.

My dad believes her judgement and basically supports her decisions.

I'm not weak. No one wants to keep fighting against someone who can rally the whole family against you and make you isolated. You want to be on her good side but I don't care anymore about her opinion on this matter.

Also note that she has made some right judgments in the past.

When I marry Hauwa we will stay far from her and keep our distance to avoid interference. When I'm married there's no room for external manipulation that's why she's fighting it now.

I am man enough because I have made firm choices that keep making life better for me. Hauwa who by all standards will be considered a very wealthy young lady can see how much of a man I am such that she is even Willing to pitch her tent as a life partner.

Chi59:
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Personally, I won't advise any lady to go ahead to marry a man whose mom does not approve of their union EXCEPT you can guarantee that you'd protect your wife from the wrath of mama. No mother likes being disobeyed especially because of another woman.
Cos mothers will always find a way to influence their son, and you can't alienate a son from his mom. Some mothers never forgive, even after the giving birth to male and female children for her son.
Hauwa, can you cope? Think twice.