For succesful and happy home i dont mean a house,if want one one
Dont have sex with your partner before marriage,dont mind what the people call[i] "TESTING".[/i]let me know the time your wife becomes a product you have to TEST before use.
let us reason together

Ok what if after getting married you discover that you wife/husband is sexually imcompatable with you like being frigid or has a small manhood or has and uncureable problem of premature ejaculation or he/she is sexually impaired in one way or the other and hardly enjoys sex, what will you do then knowing fully well that sex is very important in a marriage setting and that marriage is supposed to be forever till death puts you apart?

There is more to marriage than sex, but sex is a very important part of the whole package, It improves marriage. I have heard of cases where some married women starve their husbands of sex. I don't want to end up with an asexual as a wife, it won't work. I would love to marry someone who has a compatible sex drive. For that reason, I must have an intimate relationship with any girl who will be my wife.

Bulga:

There is more to marriage than sex, but sex is a very important part of the whole package, It improves marriage. I have heard of cases where some married women starve their husbands of sex. I don't want to end up with an asexual as a wife, it won't work. I would love to marry someone who has a compatible desire for intimacy. For that reason, I must have an intimate relationship with any girl who will be my wife.

this is what i've been battling with for some time now
call it teenage crisis

pls, nairalanders, wht do u think?

I must admit that you are very right, but will also agree that it is extremely difficult

Fhemmmy:

I must admit that you are very right, but will also agree that it is extremely difficult

Difficult but not impossible. It all comes down to the individual and the choices they make.

yeah fhemmy,i actually agree its quite difficult though very possible.aftral,i insisted i wnted to get married to my hubby b4 sex comes.thnk God he supported me all d way.and by Gods grace my hubby cherishes me for dat

Depends on individuals. But it's sometimes good to feel connected before marriage.

It should be after marriage.

Sex before marriage is important

For me , NO dulling !!!

Hmm. This issue requires wisdom and God's great guidance. Sex before marriage advocates that you get to 'test/taste' what you're bargaining for. And you garner experience for a wonderful sex life, plus its a sinful delight. Negatives: you (female) may be disregarded and branded as a slut. You may get pregnant for a man u don't like and foolishly go ahead to marry him because of what people will say. You may abort the pregnancy and ruin your womb.

Sex after marriage says you're respected and valued by your husband, and you're fertile and tight below. My fears: if you husband is impotent, the society expects you to pray and wait for a miracle. It may not happen in your lifetime. Virginity does not guarantee respect. Men beat wives they married as virgins, and treat ex-prostitute wives as queens. It takes the fear of God to command respect. And lastly, Virginity doesn't guarantee fertility.
That's no reason to have sex before marriage! I believe with adequate tests(medical) and God's favour, you're covered.

Its up to τ̣̣ђё Y̶̲̥̅̊☺ΰ. But ℓ̊ will advice no sex before marriage, it destroys.
It breaks, it terminate ones glorious future.