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Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by IceColdVeins(m): 9:27am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Sorry about this!! it hurts I know Take this as a piece of advice from your hubby's perception I had done this a few times to my gf before I realised it myself that it was childish , Some people always need to be left alone to heal when hurt or to cool off when angry...depends on whichever way they feel at that moment., hence, they might want you to leave or they leave themselves. Find a way to show your displeasure probably by talking to him, let him know its humiliating to you and selfdisrespecting to him. Then envelope your words with a subtle threat, that you will never come back when next that happens. And when next he says 'leave', tell him 'Coman carry me', see na werey dey do this marriage of a thing o...you go show small werey too. I'm sure he will stop if he values you!! Trust me deep down he never wanted you to leave in any of those quarrels, na ego to say oya come back dey disturb am. Zhuhilat: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by ricki: 9:28am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Zhuhilat: What does the bible says..... Another prostitute in the making. Probably you started problem to get closer to another dick. Off you go......go try another dick and start counting |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Coolgent(m): 9:29am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Zhuhilat: 1. Your Mother should on no circumstance voluntarily give anything which your husbands is capable of buying i.e foods stuffs. 2. Keep yourself busy: work or go back to school. 3. Stop giving too much attention to your husband (personally i dont like too much attention) 4. Review your marital relationship weekly then monthly so that u can find flaws in it. |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by johneddy: 9:30am On Oct 14, 2019 |
I want to quickly ask you few questions madam. Is your family a christian home? did you and your husband go to church? Do you pray together ? If no to the above question there is a problem. I want you to know that marriage is more spiritual , devil is not happy so he find a means to ensure it does not work. My advice for you is to invite God into your family, always pray for your husband.Above all never use any word your husband said against you and dont think of leaving or think of divorce . God hate divorce. I pray God restore your home. |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by BitmapStudios: 9:39am On Oct 14, 2019 |
happney65:Baba werey niyin sir. Shey Buhari dey comot house for 12am ni? 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by franchasng: 9:39am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Pavarottii:lol [img]https://media1./images/a724baedd3ea6c3c14a4dfc5ed4c9b46/tenor.gif[/img] |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by lollybizzu(m): 9:42am On Oct 14, 2019 |
omonikiba: Plenty likes for you ma. You're real and sincere. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by waaclef(m): 9:43am On Oct 14, 2019 |
I think you guys can work this out. As much as we do not have full details of what happens everyday between you both. Please do not talk back at him when he is talking and saying those hurtful words. Let him feel or know that he is still the head of the house. When he is done, you can make your points calmly to him. He will reciprocate the respect! Men have unnecessary egos, that's all part of them and needs to be massaged and when done properly you will have him under your control in a constructive way though. Make him to understand you and the baby look up to him for guidance . Please do not give in to the attention you are craving outside, that is a recipe for disaster. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Authortee: 9:44am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Adaeze Yobo gave a great marriage advice recently on her social media page: ‘sometimes, you just have to swallow your own ego as a woman to make your marriage work. There are times when emotions are high and my husband is about to say nasty things, I just hurriedly tell him that I have to go to the toilet. I will take an hour or two in there to calm down and get my head into something else. By the time I’m out, he’s also forgotten and we end up laughing and staying one.’ No marriage is perfect. Even if you go to another man, do you know who he truly is and what he will also do in the future? 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by seelawd(m): 9:45am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Hamachi:yes for 5years now with kids 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Dickson25(m): 9:46am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Zhuhilat: Madam u no go tell us the bad words wey tell the man ooh...na only the one wey he tell u u go talk for here.... Women self 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by MeeLan: 9:48am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Two things involved. 1. Its either your hubby is a completed azzhole. (Sorry to say) or 2. You are making life so miserable for that man but you aren't telling the truth cos you want sympathy. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Evans2019: 9:49am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Ma, can I ask you a question? Not relating to what you said sha.... what do you do for work ? Cause relating to that word he usually say " you are of no importance " have heard it so many times when my neighbor tell his wife ..... there was a day my neighbor wife called her husband who was at work to buy JUST one exercise book to their kids and the reply from the husband was HELL 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Octopusssy(f): 9:51am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Bryan88:Read my signature... |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Jodasy: 9:53am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Madam just take it easy.Marriage is not as sweet as when viewed from a distance.Every marriage has its ups and downs.One of my friends once called the inlaws to return the bride price he paid for their daughter but today they are still together.Look for a marriage councillor or someone he respects and tell them about it.Please where you want to run to may not be the best at the long run.Courting or boy/girl friend stuff is different from marriage.In marriage there is bordom but understand it is marriage ,because when you leave it for another one, bordom will still set in 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Bryan88(m): 9:53am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Octopusssy:WHAT HAS UR SIGNATURE GOT TO DO WITH UR NAME? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by ghettochild(m): 9:55am On Oct 14, 2019 |
you married a boy n not a man o... marriage no b by force o... ur daughter will understand this someday... these kids are smart... when I was younger I used to think it was my dad's fault that him n mum never lived together.....but as I grew older I realised it was my mums financial independency that made her not to need a man in her life |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Nobody: 9:56am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Hamachi: Is that how you were raised, do you even know the number of times couples fight in there lifetime ... for how long will he come begging. There is no perfect marriage anywhere, these as nothing to do with sentiment, only a woman can build a home, men are not as difficult as women think ... if only they can just take there time out to study there man. men are door buh we get key 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Jimoh7555: 9:58am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Madam, the solution is with you already, STOP ARGUING WITH YOUR HUSBAND, men generally don't like women who challenge their stand. |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by babadee1(m): 9:59am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Zhuhilat: There is a very good chance that he is cheating and feeling guilty about it. Ask him directly about it, but in a non-confrontational and non-judgmental manner. |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by MyChoice1: 9:59am On Oct 14, 2019 |
To me ooo, I can see the man has ego issue! Innocent foodstuffs presented by his in-law became a problem for him. He failed to see the love behind such act rather he felt slighted..he doesn't want to be seen as patronizing cheap stuff especially by his in-laws ...lol! Again his constant remark that you added nothing to his life... hmmm, he is not comfortable that you are earning your own money, probably because you are keeping and managing your salary by yourself.. believe me his intention would have been you surrender your all and all to him oo, that way he will feel like the man completely. But don't do that ooo because you will feel caged at the end. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by EmmGee: 10:05am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Chapter1vs6:I might not know about marriage. I'm just giving her an advice I would give to my sister or relative. She said he has done it 5 TIMES!!! Come on that's disturbing 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Anextin(f): 10:09am On Oct 14, 2019 |
You see this your statement is the reason many marriages are crashing, its not a woman who builds a home, its both parties. If a man and wife doesn't agree to make a marriage work, then it won't. One person doesn't carry a relationship successfully. If the woman study's her man, the man should equally study his wife..it takes two to tango. Ask men who have happy and fulfilling homes, ask them their secret. Not just being married for the sake of it and the kids, I mean being happy in your marriage. ericsmith: 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Ihecci24: 10:16am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Zhuhilat: My dear Sister, please leave the man for a while even though you still want the marriage. No one, I repeat no one! Should endure this level of disrespect! I had a man once, I had more money than him and he knew this, we had a good relationship for a while. Then it began...he started ranting bout small issues, how I wear expensive shirts, buying shoes of 28k and all, how I don't know how to cook anymore, how I call my dad always, how im totally useless in our home, petty complaints. I didn't understand it. I have always dressed well, called my dad and cooked, so what changed? I never for once made him feel unwanted or less of a man, I instructed my bank to send him 30% of my pay monthly so that he won't feel I was dashing him money, I took care of the food and his family but he still wont respect me. So I left him. Didn't look back. After a couple of months and a lot of soul searching, I realized he was just jealous of me. His life was stagnant and I always came home with news of promotion and all, he couldn't handle my success and I was blind to his growing insecurity. Guess who put everything into perspective for me? My dad! He analysed the problems and arguments from a man's perspective and then told me that I could have behaved better if understood but he told me not to go back. My dad made me understand that its not a woman's place to add value to a man's life. Your job is to help him add value to his life! If he is not willing to work on the marriage alongside you pls leave him. And don't for once think that he was speaking out of turns or in anger when he says he doesn't need you or that u don't add value to his life...he means it! Just like that my ex he is still struggling with putting his life together and until he can achieve this he doesn't need a wife even though he needs a woman by default. You can help him but not if he insists he doesn't need your help. Listen to your dad, take care of your life and your son! Travel or take a new course if you can afford this. Please leave for a period to let both of your consider your lives when you are apart and together, only then can you choose which is better. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by dbestuncle: 10:22am On Oct 14, 2019 |
deltateam: Exactly what I wanted to say. Madam ur husband like most men can't handle ur arguments. stop the arguments n proving ur point every time. Be more submissive n this bad side of his will disappear. He doesn't mean it but it repeated because it mayb the only thing he says that put u back to ur senses. Pls invest in ur home n don't fear because no one is kicking u out. |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by iomoge2(f): 10:22am On Oct 14, 2019 |
If you ever leave next time. Don’t come back until he begs you to. But I will say do not leave at all except violence is involved. Instead let him leave. He will come back on his own. And when he does. Have a heart to heart discussion with him |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by lollybizzu(m): 10:23am On Oct 14, 2019 |
ahahnow: I think you're right! You father was stupid enough not to have used a condom for the copulation that brought about a stupid seed. Your background is very faulty. You need serious emotional and psychological healing asap. |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Torontoparrot(m): 10:30am On Oct 14, 2019 |
if most people go into marriage with this kind of mindset i’m reading through most of the comments sir , then the road is shaky Khaleell001: |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by nikz(f): 10:35am On Oct 14, 2019 |
LOMBARDY:Thank you for this response. I have a friend that the husband started like this and everyone kept blaming the woman now it has led to him neglecting his kids no feeding allowance again no payment of fees even his family members are now advising her to move on seek her own happiness that they now see the truth. But must we allow it get to this extent? 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by midnighter(f): 10:36am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Lionpikin: You thought what too? How did you get that she tied him down with pregnancy from my post? I'm curious to know |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by happney65: 10:36am On Oct 14, 2019 |
BitmapStudios: Yes naa,You no know?Person wey comot house for over 3months wey we no know where he dey. |
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