BLUELemon:

and that's why he is seeking for a solution... Since the wife isn't working yet, what's your solution?

LadySarah:
For tithe;Im still studying My bible.
Close eyes and buy ur food in bulk.It saves You so much money.
Buy beverages in rolls instead of Tins.


pls since All are in school,Madam needs to Go and work;menialjobs,housekeeping etc.She can earn and also raise money for a biz.

You are a Good man.pls cancel anything childbearing.

NL1960:


In Nigeria, most people think some jobs are beneath them. I know of a family that is living from hand to mouth with the wife not really working but the wife thinks it is beneath her to go and do 'errand' job for a comfortable woman that wants that service in the name of 'why should i go to market for that small girl wen i senior'. What does the 'errand' job entails?. Collect list from her and money. Go to market and purchase what she wants and you get paid for the service. There is even compound sweeping or cleaning flats for people that are too busy to do it.

cococandy:
Everyone asking him why his wife is not working. Lol

Cognitive dissonance at its finest

Instinged:
Here is my monthly expenditure every month for every year.
I hardly meet up so i end up taking loans, so i want to know if am
the one over spending or how..
I seems not to understand myself, salary will be paid in few days
and i cant even meet up with some of these expenses.
I have FIVE(5) major places my money goes to
1. FOOD 2. TRANSPORTATION 3. CHURCH 4. SCHOOL 5. HOUSE

SALARY/INCOME PER MONTH
100,000
EXPENDITURE BY DEFAULT
120,000

EXPENDITURE PER MONTH

1. FOOD;

RICE 8000
BEANS 3000
SPAG 1000
SEMO 1500
YAM 3000
P. WATER 2000
SOUP 12OOO
BREAD 2000
TOOTHPASTE 350
WSHING SOAP/OMO 1500
BATHING SOAP 2000

2. TRANSPORTATION
OWORO SHOKI TO VI (MON-FRI) 8000
CHURCH 1000
OTHERS(VISITATION) 2000

3. CHURCH
TITHE 10,000
OFFERING 2500
OTHERS( CHURCH DEV) 3000

4. SCHOOL
FEES FOR 3KIDS 22500 PER MONTH
BISCUIT 2000 CARTON
MILK/MILO 4000
INDOMIE 3000
JUICE 2000

5. HOUSE
RENT 21000 PER MONTH
NEPA 3000
GoTv 2000



Thank You

SirVintageCock:
This, right here shows that the traditional family settings as we know it is becoming null and void in this century. Men can no longer fend for our families without relying heavily in our wives. Practically, 80% of the commenters are requesting to know what the wife is bringing to the table without checking that the list does not contain any nanny or house help allowances. So obviously the wife is contributing massively albeit unnoticeably.
So op, weigh your options and drop the church AID that is zapping 15% of your salary.
As others opines, encourage your wife to start up something from home depending on how young your children are ..handiwork, small scale businesses or teaching home lessons. Anything apart from this will incure more expenses to your already dwindling economy.
You can also transfer to a less expensive city or state.

AmericanDad:
My God this is why i fear getting married and settling down in this economy. This guy is really suffering mehn. I earn 340k as a single dude and i still loathe and pity my self. Wow! Real wow

cococandy:
Everyone asking him why his wife is not working. Lol

Cognitive dissonance at its finest

bukatyne:


Hahahahahahaha

The funny thing is that if the wife works, except she is solely on her own and can do EVERYTHING she currently does without a sweat, they would be worse off.

I am just thinking about it again;

They do not pay for extramural lessons, no budget for clothes (wifey is at home and can manage whatever), hair, shoes, outings, payment for chores etc.

I would also wager that the OP does not do any chores (Oworosoki - V/I) everyday is not beans so the wife carries all that burden.

Yet, we are asking 'What does she do or she should assist the man.'

If she does, who will pick up the slack that would be left?

A business I can think of is frying potatoes, plantain, yam etc in front of the house however, it is very very time intensive and energy sapping.

OP should brace himself up more to earn more.

When people talk of unpaid work and the only arrangement that seems fair to an average woman is one where she stays at home and the man works full time, it seems idiotic.

Theyoungmatron:
Bringing in half? I hope you do not subscribe to the man of the house craps because if you do, this nullifies that. Cos if the wife is bringing in half, the house-chores should also be divided.

bukatyne:


Hahahahahahaha

The funny thing is that if the wife works, except she is solely on her own and can do EVERYTHING she currently does without a sweat, they would be worse off.

I am just thinking about it again;

They do not pay for extramural lessons, no budget for clothes (wifey is at home and can manage whatever), hair, shoes, outings, payment for chores etc.

I would also wager that the OP does not do any chores (Oworosoki - V/I) everyday is not beans so the wife carries all that burden.

Yet, we are asking 'What does she do or she should assist the man.'

If she does, who will pick up the slack that would be left?

A business I can think of is frying potatoes, plantain, yam etc in front of the house however, it is very very time intensive and energy sapping.

OP should brace himself up more to earn more.

When people talk of unpaid work and the only arrangement that seems fair to an average woman is one where she stays at home and the man works full time, it seems idiotic.

CC: LadySarah

Theyoungmatron:
Bringing in half? I hope you do not subscribe to the man of the house craps because if you do, this nullifies that. Cos if the wife is bringing in half, the house-chores should also be divided.

Ryan03:
I have and will always be an advocate for gender equality. House chores can never be 50-50, if you try that you may end up monitoring every thing in the house. Let everyone live freely without trying to Lord over the other and the home will be perfect

Theyoungmatron:
People fail to understand this. If that woman step out to work no matter how menial, the home-front will suffer. It is very obvious that this is a young family except if all the kids are in school.
There is no allowance for clothes, shoes, baby foods, diaper etc.

Ryan03:
or you don't want to contribute in your home?

Theyoungmatron:
Well Ryan, most Nigerian male aren't. They meanders from a typical traditional husband to 21st century husband to bible-thumping husbands etc. Their confusion caused them to practically sits on the fence jumping from one type to the other.

Theyoungmatron:
Monetary, materially, in house-chores..........where else. Have been contributing for aeons. Some women don't have the luxury of making good plans and having helps like house-helps, relatives, in-laws but they are expected to do all and still contribute financially to the home.

Instinged:
Here is my monthly expenditure every month for every year.
I hardly meet up so i end up taking loans, so i want to know if am
the one over spending or how..
I seems not to understand myself, salary will be paid in few days
and i cant even meet up with some of these expenses.
I have FIVE(5) major places my money goes to
1. FOOD 2. TRANSPORTATION 3. CHURCH 4. SCHOOL 5. HOUSE

SALARY/INCOME PER MONTH
100,000
EXPENDITURE BY DEFAULT
120,000

EXPENDITURE PER MONTH

1. FOOD;

RICE 8000
BEANS 3000
SPAG 1000
SEMO 1500
YAM 3000
P. WATER 2000
SOUP 12OOO
BREAD 2000
TOOTHPASTE 350
WSHING SOAP/OMO 1500
BATHING SOAP 2000

2. TRANSPORTATION
OWORO SHOKI TO VI (MON-FRI) 8000
CHURCH 1000
OTHERS(VISITATION) 2000

3. CHURCH
TITHE 10,000
OFFERING 2500
OTHERS( CHURCH DEV) 3000

4. SCHOOL
FEES FOR 3KIDS 22500 PER MONTH
BISCUIT 2000 CARTON
MILK/MILO 4000
INDOMIE 3000
JUICE 2000

5. HOUSE
RENT 21000 PER MONTH
NEPA 3000
GoTv 2000



Thank You


You're doing a great job!! But please don't compromise on your tithe or offering. There are free gotv subs, cut away biscuits and juice, you can get cheaper vehicles from Oworo to VI, for now Semo is too exotic, try Elbow...... You can save and still not touch your tithe and offering

SirVintageCock:
This, right here shows that the traditional family settings as we know it is becoming null and void in this century. Men can no longer fend for our families without relying heavily in our wives. Practically, 80% of the commenters are requesting to know what the wife is bringing to the table without checking that the list does not contain any nanny or house help allowances. So obviously the wife is contributing massively albeit unnoticeably.
So op, weigh your options and drop the church AID that is zapping 15% of your salary.
As others opines, encourage your wife to start up something from home depending on how young your children are ..handiwork, small scale businesses or teaching home lessons. Anything apart from this will incure more expenses to your already dwindling economy.
You can also transfer to a less expensive city or state.

Instinged:
Here is my monthly expenditure every month for every year.
I hardly meet up so i end up taking loans, so i want to know if am
the one over spending or how..
I seems not to understand myself, salary will be paid in few days
and i cant even meet up with some of these expenses.
I have FIVE(5) major places my money goes to
1. FOOD 2. TRANSPORTATION 3. CHURCH 4. SCHOOL 5. HOUSE

SALARY/INCOME PER MONTH
100,000
EXPENDITURE BY DEFAULT
120,000

EXPENDITURE PER MONTH

1. FOOD;

RICE 8000
BEANS 3000
SPAG 1000
SEMO 1500
YAM 3000
P. WATER 2000
SOUP 12OOO
BREAD 2000
TOOTHPASTE 350
WSHING SOAP/OMO 1500
BATHING SOAP 2000

2. TRANSPORTATION
OWORO SHOKI TO VI (MON-FRI) 8000
CHURCH 1000
OTHERS(VISITATION) 2000

3. CHURCH
TITHE 10,000
OFFERING 2500
OTHERS( CHURCH DEV) 3000

4. SCHOOL
FEES FOR 3KIDS 22500 PER MONTH
BISCUIT 2000 CARTON
MILK/MILO 4000
INDOMIE 3000
JUICE 2000

5. HOUSE
RENT 21000 PER MONTH
NEPA 3000
GoTv 2000



Thank You

emmaodet:


Bro, you can keep all the things you wrote up there except -
School fees - downgrade the kids to public school why you get them a private teacher at home for about 10k per month. That will save you atleast 30k per term and 90k per year. Or send them to police school as someone wrote and that will save you atleast 40k per term and 120k per year.
Pls save this money in a good cooperative.
Second- Housing.
Downgrade to face me i face you(3 rooms) for now or self contain of 120k-150k max but will prefer decent face me i face you of 80-100k max per year.
With that you save another 100-150k per year.
When you add to the first one above, you will be able to save atleast 200-270k per year in cooperative.
Advice your wife to go learn small biz like frying akara, potatoes or small chops at junction like puff puff, bonce and donut or learn rice and groundnut oil bizness from a successful market woman or tomatoes, ugu etc biz in market so that you can get a coperative loan or savings you have to set her up so that extra income can flow in before you upgrade back to private school or flat apartment.
Shallom.

AmericanDad:


I reject ur advise for op. Which one is face me i face u. Smh

emmaodet:


You are right sir. The traditional setting is no longer sustainable yet our ladies don't want to wake up to that reality.
From my point of view, the man as no option that to send those kids to public schools even though he may not like it but that is what he can do for now why he gets them monthly lesson teacher to uprade them at home.

bukatyne:


Actually,

It is the men that do not want to open their eyes to that reality.

Theyoungmatron:
People fail to understand this. If that woman step out to work no matter how menial, the home-front will suffer. It is very obvious that this is a young family except if all the kids are in school.
There is no allowance for clothes, shoes, baby foods, diaper etc.

cococandy:
Thanks for explaining

Honestly I don’t know how you still do it.

My patience for explaining very very obvious things has waned considerably.