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| Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by ishit4body(f): 9:16pm On Nov 13, 2010 |
It happens daily, but is this enough reason? |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by r231(m): 9:20pm On Nov 13, 2010 |
not really pple can adopt dis days |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by Nobody: 12:36pm On Nov 24, 2010 |
@poster if the only reason to marry was to conceive a child aka start a family then YES they should divorce, otherwise NO! |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by Emade(m): 2:25pm On Nov 24, 2010 |
the reason that people get marryed is becos of children.but if there is no children than there is no reason 4 marriage.god help us. |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by plappville(f): 9:06pm On Nov 24, 2010 |
Emade: Wrong!! Not all married couple want to havé children, thé main reason why we get married is Obviously, because we are in "LOVE!" |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by plappville(f): 9:12pm On Nov 24, 2010 |
At poster, if child bearing was to be a serious topic between both before marrige, and during Marriage there seems to be success in bearing a child, this could break up a Marriage or else, childlessness its not enough reason to split a Marriage. |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by slap1(m): 10:34am On Nov 25, 2010 |
I'm marrying 'cos I'm in love, not 'cos of kids. If my missus needs a kid, we can adopt. If not, we stay put. When people die, they don't know what/who's "carrying their name along". |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by Taymi: 10:49am On Nov 25, 2010 |
I think i totally agree with MrBrownjay on this. I wont say childlessness is not enough reason to quit a marriage. It just depends on the reason for the union. Some pple have a wives that cannot give birth and they go for a second wife, now tell me if that wife is fruitless too, what is her business in the house, she was married to because of the child. Again,i have a aunt who got hooked by a man and they were so in love that they miss each other at any free time, after she finished her final exam,they tied the not and they didnt plan to have a child until the lady finished her NYSC, isn't it obvious why they got married in the first instance. So,people act according to their priority. Shalom |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by cnnnigeria: 1:03pm On Nov 25, 2010 |
I guess we all marry for different reasons, if that is the only reason the couples are married, then the aim is not achieved. But why do we have to marry for the sake of children only? |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by sayso: 5:01pm On Nov 25, 2010 |
our society is causing it |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by ohaechesi(m): 5:24pm On Nov 25, 2010 |
plappville: my dear, you would have been right going by your quote but in the society today, reverse in the case. Men finds it difficult to put up with women this days and the major reason why it is as if marriage between men and women flourish today is simply because of procreation. if a woman cannot be reproductive in her matrimonial home, she should take the exit  slap1: liar  |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by Emade(m): 9:27pm On Nov 25, 2010 |
Wrong!! Not all married couple want to havé children, thé main reason why we get married is Obviously, because we are in " LOVE!" AM NOT WRONG THE ONLY JOY IN MARRIAGE IS CHILDREN.ASK THOSE WOMEN WHO DO NOT HAVE THEY WILL TELL U. |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by plappville(f): 10:22pm On Nov 25, 2010 |
Emade: U cannot say that THE ONLY JOY, i am not agrée with u, there are lots of women out there happily married without intension of having kids. I am talking of world Wide not only naija women. I va a collegue, she is now 35yrs old, an Italian, she seems to play alot with kids so one day i was pused to asked her why she didnt ve a child yet, she told me she doesnt care about having a child and that her Hubby is ok with that. Will u now say this couple have nô JOY? Dont généralise plz. It all depense, some ppl get mrried becos they want to keep name, that is why u see oyibo nô get Time for name keeping, if they havé only one daughter, they stop and educate her then continue to enjoy their Marriage. But in My Country, wen Woman nô born Boy n'a war until she produce one, and if she nô fit produce Boy, thé Man. Don see excuse to marry another Wife |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by plappville(f): 10:34pm On Nov 25, 2010 |
ohaechesi: Only A TYPICAL 9JA Man Will chassed her beloved wife LIKE THIS just "becos" so u haven't Côme across couples who were not able to ve kids and they still live together?? They are already aged to be grand parents but not having kids was never a reason for them to divorce. |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by Nobody: 10:40pm On Nov 25, 2010 |
Emade: completely false!!!!! claiming that its the sole reason for most people to go into marriage is a damn lie. use your brain and simply ask every smart person around you this simple question:"if you knew you couldnt father/bare a child, would you still seek to get married"? the answers might chock you and your beliefs! in some area, beingfertile is not even enough as baring a MALE child is what most seek for. |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by mutter(f): 1:09am On Nov 26, 2010 |
it is a reason. And some people may opt for it others not. Another question entirely is if this reason is humane. I just feel so terribly sorry for women who get frustrated and ridicule because they don`t have a child. To live in such agony. If both parties can accept the situation the marriage can survive and also be a happy one. |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by ZitIfy: 4:34pm On Nov 28, 2010 |
Trust me You dont want to experience it. I wont blame any couple that splits cos of that. |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by eddy1977(m): 1:55am On Nov 29, 2010 |
Let us be objective and talk as africans. if there is no child,the marriage can survive if the woman lets the man impregnant a side kick girl. if i had no kids, man i would travel to another city and pregnant a woman there.i will ask for forgiveness later.also i will force my barren woman to accept the iligitimate child and raise it. i am the man,i rule the house.i need to give my folks a grand child. |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by Nobody: 2:02am On Nov 29, 2010 |
^^^^if you let your wifey know about your "views" (before marriage) and she accepts, then there is nothing wrong with that. . . . . . . . . . . otherwise, she has all the rights to leave if she is |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by WackyJ1(m): 2:19am On Nov 29, 2010 |
Childlessness is not enough reason for couples to split, if they are the kind that can stick together just for the sake of love. This is not common in Nigeria or this depends on the individuals involved. Usually one of such individuals is someone who follows western culture closely. On the other hand childlessness can be enough reason, if one of the individuals involved was heavily banking on having a child. It may not have shown much during courtship years because he/she assumed naturally that a child must come. once into marriage and no child comes forth, frustration and little fights set in that might lead to divorce. On the third hand, the couple might be in love but when no fruit of the love is coming forth, their minds begin to wonder. The cause, the remedy, who to blame. A bad combination of these can escalate to lead to a divorce. IMHO 1 Like |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by Osama10(m): 4:25am On Nov 29, 2010 |
No it shouldn't. |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by Specialist900(m): 8:17am On Nov 29, 2010 |
Childlessness shouldn't be a reason to split but in the african context or nigeria in particular it might cause a split up which isn't supposed to be. The ultimate aim of marriage is for COMPANIONSHIP, children are just gifts of a union. Lets ask ourselves this question: are there not couples who still divorce after having children? |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by WackyJ1(m): 12:12pm On Nov 29, 2010 |
Specialist900: And then they spend time fighting for custody. |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by anneduke: 3:32pm On Nov 29, 2010 |
no, u could adopt. |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by Specialist900(m): 5:16pm On Nov 29, 2010 |
WackyJ1:but the children in the union never stopped the union from dissolving in the first place. |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by NAJALYN: 3:12pm On Dec 04, 2010 |
Childlessness in a marriage is not enough reasons for couples to split. Why did the couples get married? Because they were in love. So that love should see them through every problem that confronts them, including the problem of childlessness. It could be a trial from God. It could be that the couples need some dietary supplements like Tianshi, Noni Supplements to correct whatever is wrong in the body. It could be some other problem. If the couples stick together, whatever the problem, they can surmount it. Ignore interferance from family members. Give the problem to God. Go for check ups. Tianshi & Noni Dietary Supplements are very effective for adjusting certain imbalance & ailments in the body. So dont give up trying to find solution to the problem & just trust in God & you must be victorious in the end. |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by swarthyg(f): 5:03pm On Dec 04, 2010 |
it shouldn't be a reason 4 divorce though it is very difficult 4 a couple to stay without a child and especially with pressures from both families, God knows best, he knows when to give as it pleases him so couples in such situation should hold on to him rather than split |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by Blazay(m): 1:34am On Dec 10, 2010 |
Yes. It is enough reason Childlessness can put a lot of strain on marriages, especially African marriages. Personal choice. No problem there. |
| Re: Is Childlessness In A Marriage Enough Reason For Couples To Split? by ifyalways(f): 10:41am On Dec 10, 2010 |
@Topic,If one of the key reasons a certain couple married was to make babies and after marriage,one of the partners was not able to do his/her own quota towards child-bearing . . .any of them can walk out of the marriage at any time if he/she cant wait. |
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