My friend's wife who is a teacher pestered my friend for months to take a loan for her. After months of fighting, he eventually took that loan, at a huge interest.

Two days after he gave her the said money, this wife brought home a new money counting machine. So all that pestering was about getting a money counting machine. Meanwhile , this my friend is not rich, so we are wondering why such a stuppid investment. He has asked her consistently but she said nothing.

My friend is contemplating divorce because of this; is he justified? Thanks

Maybe she wants to start "ajo" thrift collection business..

Buy her an umbrella, one hard note book and two biro( Black and red).

She is not mad.
It's tantamount to a student buying an expensive designer wallet with his pocketmoney just to keep the remainder change in it.

She wants to start paga business

IceColdVeins:
She is not mad.
It's tantamount to a student buying an expensive designer wallet with his pocketmoney just to keep the remainder change in it.

This reminded me of my 200 level days. I bought a very expensive wallet. It was so expensive for me then that for a whole semester the cash in the wallet was never up to the amount i bought the wallet until my side hustle in school began to pay my bills.

You are probably not gonna like my comment, but I will give it anyways.

I don't mean to insult your friend but in this matter, I have your friend to blame the most.

First is, did he not know the kind of woman he married in the first place?

You see a bad character is a reflection of a bad person. No human being is perfect indeed, we all have shortcomings.

But if someone portrays one bad act, that's really repulsive to the average human mind, in most cases it is a reflection of who the person is.

example is, a guy mistakenly steps on a girl and the next thing the girl would do is to SLAP him. And after that, she didn't see anything wrong with what she did and she wouldn't apologize. what she did gives a hint that the person who did such a thing must be an arrogant person and someone with a bad character.

So that's what I'm trying to say. a bad character is a reflection of a bad person.

my point actually is, someone who would ask her husband to take a loan with huge interest, fight her husband for months because he did not give in to her request and then go on to use the loan to buy a meaningless thing, it's obvious she's relatively an uncultured or unserious or generally a bad person who has the tendency to do more foolish things if given the chance. She is like someone who was sent into a man's life to ruin his life, to drive him crazy, to make him bankrupt e.t.c

So I'd like to ask, did your friend not see any of these traits that could suggest the kind of person she is before marrying her? Did he not do his study well and exert painstaking measures to discern the character of the woman he wants to marry before marrying and was just after her kpekus?

That's one thing.

The second reason why I'll blame the husband is, why the HELL did he not try to discover the reason why she would want a loan before going ahead to get it? didn't he ask questions? Didn't he do research?

Indeed, it's a man's responsibility to cater for his wife but common sense demands that the man should know WHAT exactly he is catering for?

And your friend went on to get a loan with a huge interest, take such a huge risk without there being a clear, reasonable and promising purpose or aim to achieve with the loan.

Now, your friend is in debt, simply because - I am sorry to say - he did not use his sense!

As for whether he should divorce her, that's his choice.

By the way, could it be that the wife is planning something reasonable but hiding it, trying to make it a surprise?

this matter self is somehow.

Ask your friend to pester her seriously concerning what she wants to use the machine for. Ask him to tell her that he's considering divorce and that can only be averted if she can explain why she bought the machine. Even if she's planning a surprise, this will make her compelled to spill it out because she wouldn't want her home broken over a mere surprise.

But if she has no reason to give and has no purpose for buying the machine, then such a lady is what you may call "destiny destroyer". She is in his life to ruin it. So your friend should use his sense and chase such a calamity away from his life before she does worse.

Jesu mi o I hope she is alright