It’s been a week filled with all manner of drama. It’s not that Nigerians don’t do good things, I’ve come to realize that bad just has a louder volume and reach, hence why it seems only bad things trend. So the saga we’ve been experiencing has mostly been from our educational institutions. From the 5 students who beat their fellow student, to the mother who went to fight or defend her daughters fixed eyelashes in the famous Queens college and finally to a most scandalous sex video that trended as a Babcock school incident.

People have said a lot. Some feel nobody holy pass so what’s the big deal in what she’s done and feel the school should not have expelled her. Some think after good discipline, she needs to be reformed.

Well The Moral Code is here to address issues of Moral decadence without all the sentiments people love. Moral decadence is eating us up in Nigeria, we are not only dealing with corrupt leaders but morally lax youths.

A girl from the same Queens college won a prize for the school, but we can’t hear her because another person’s act supported by her mother has overshadowed her achievement. This is why I say and believe, moral decadence comes back for us in many indirect ways while many will tell you to mind your business as long as it doesn’t affect you.

Well, here is The Moral Code not minding their business again and bringing you The Babcock saga examined from the angle of those involved.

THE PARENTS
In this whole saga. I pity these set the most. Her parents. Too many of us take our parents for granted. We forget that even if they are not seeing us, they are to be respected and regarded. We are an extension of them. Parents do try to bring up their wards well, nobody wants a mess for a child. However, I feel bad for her parents the most because, only parents can imagine the horror of waking up to such viral video or receiving a phone call that informs them about what’s going on and then they have to see it. If indeed her father is a clergy man as being spread. That’s even worse, how does he stand at the pulpit to tell people about God or morals when his own house has been soiled, when she has snatched his moral vibe or energy to be credible to speak. How will her parents face their families, their friends, neighbors? Oh the shame. I don’t want to imagine. A child that people rejoiced when the child was born and they gave her a name and predicted great things in her life. I really really feel for the parents the most.

THE SCHOOL
I have nothing much to say about the school. Like they say when in Rome, do as Romans do abi? If you come to my house and I tell you my rules, you either stay or you go. They absolutely reserve the right to keep her or send her away and are not obliged to listen to anyone. It was their decision to make. Their reputation was and is still at stake and many parents just changed their minds about sending their kids to that school, think about that as you abuse the school too.

HER FRIENDS
Some are laughing. Some don’t know how to take it. Some have been warned by their parents to stay far away from her, some will stay to comfort her, some will pull her out of the rut, some are waiting to taunt or blackmail her with this incidence years later. Some might have been involved in leaking the video. It goes on and on. Human nature is dynamic.

THE GUY
Not sure it’s ever going to change that a guy doesn’t get to be shamed for sex acts, the woman takes the hit more. Who knows him? Who’s talking about his parents shame? Nothing at all, it’s as if he doesn’t exist. Hard truth.

THE SPREADERS
There is really no gain in spreading a video like this, but till now people are dropping their emails and numbers to get the said video, people are probably making a business out of it. Why? Where is the sense in what you are doing, isn’t it a mind troubling matter for you? Don’t be the reason a problem escalates or a negative thing gets spread, you are spreading something involving another human being’s dignity. Sometimes I just Kent deal.

HER
Let’s face it, if you like call it judging, the girl messed up. She didn’t just mess up, she’s been messing up since, her mind and actions have gone far in this rut hence the boldness in the act exhibited. Some say you are an adult and free to do as you like, I laugh at them. An adult who’s school fees is still being paid right? who still has people to answer to. You had just one task, which was go to school and get an education, instead you added other immoral extra curricular activities. When you were doing the video forming badt girl, you didn’t know it would be your undoing months later.
You took a decision and now you are facing the repercussions of that decision. In life we keep taking big and small decisions, they always lead to something, good or bad.

So that’s just stating the facts, hard girl hard girl! This is the outcome. That’s not judging, it’s stating the obvious. That said. Of course this will be a dark period, but there’s no one as long as they are still alive that cannot turn around and retrace their steps. Oh! everyone will forget you soon, something else will grab their attention. Treasure those who will stand by you, lean on them to make it back out of the dark place. What you chose to do with your life from now hence is up to you.

In conclusion, everyone will still talk, some will be logical, some will continue to say the most unreasonable things. As for those saying, nobody holy pass, we all do it, we are all hypocrites. Abeg make una march una brakes there. There are people, who early in life, took a decision about what they wanted, and where they were headed. They stuck to it. You’ll never catch them doing certain things, stop assuming the world is a certain way because of your own realities and lifestyles.

I’ll just end by saying, may we not trend for the most negative and ugly reasons.

Source - www.themoralcodeng.com

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As clearly stated, she's an adult. See ehn, we make choices everyday and we live with the consequences. If she was bold enough to make sex tapes, what was she thinking?? Hasn't she heard of leaked sex tapes ?
Just like someone that had sex and is getting traumatized by pregnancy!
People that are saying its hypocritical should all present their sex tapes.
Home training isn't only parental or societal, it's you setting a moral standerd for yourself and putting into consideration the consequences of your action on yourself and others. We are allowed to mess up but then, mess up pass mess up.

This just aired my thoughts, I was thinking I was the only seeing it from another angle and always been in disagreement with the "we are all hypocrite " talk.

Good you are considering the shame this will bring to the parents, can't imagingbthe kind of trauma they will be going through now.
For the girl she needs people to be around her so she doesn't slide into depression, if possibly a relocation out of the country will help her.

One of the reasons the guy is not on the radar is because he was the one that released the video and he has nothing to lose.

He was no longer a student at that point.

Anyways, I agree with you.

Nothing irritates me like 'they are adults, they are free to do whatever' like they fell from heaven and their actions don't affect others.

The illusion of liberty without responsibility is just that: an illusion.

Every right has a responsibility attached to it.

Nobody is free to do whatever they like: you pay the consequences sooner or later and every decision has a price you must pay.

When the consequences come, stop whinning, suck it up and handle it like an adult that you are.

And funnily, this 'freedom' to do whatever is always expressed negatively. Nobody says they are adults and free to go to Church or Mosque as many times they like. It is freedom to party, freedom to do sex videos, freedom to have numerous sex partners, freedom to drink etc.

I almost pitied Lai Mohammed when during an interview he said he was sad the day his grandson asked why people called him 'Liar Mohammed'.

Do you see that even his grandson is ridiculed for his outrageous statements? Imagine people calling your grandpa a liar to your face.

Meeloreh:
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As clearly stated, she's an adult. See ehn, we make choices everyday and we live with the consequences. If she was bold enough to make sex tapes, what was she thinking?? Hasn't she heard of leaked sex tapes ?
Just like someone that had sex and is getting traumatized by pregnancy!
People that are saying its hypocritical should all present their sex tapes.
Home training isn't only parental or societal, it's you setting a moral standerd for yourself and putting into consideration the consequences of your action on yourself and others. We are allowed to mess up but then, mess up pass mess up.

Mess up pass mess up got me. I'm glad to see comments like this which prove that people are still thinking straight

Meeloreh:
This just aired my thoughts, I was thinking I was the only seeing it from another angle and always been in disagreement with the "we are all hypocrite " talk.

A thing they say to make them feel better

Olalan:
Good you are considering the shame this will bring to the parents, can't imagingbthe kind of trauma they will be going through now.
For the girl she needs people to be around her so she doesn't slide into depression, if possibly a relocation out of the country will help her.

it's infact my most concern. The trauma of the parents

bukatyne:
One of the reasons the guy is not on the radar is because he was the one that released the video and he has nothing to lose.

He was no longer a student at that point.

Anyways, I agree with you.

Nothing irritates me like 'they are adults, they are free to do whatever' like they fell from heaven and their actions don't affect others.

The illusion of liberty without responsibility is just that: an illusion.

Every right has a responsibility attached to it.

Nobody is free to do whatever they like: you pay the consequences sooner or later and every decision has a price you must pay.

When the consequences come, stop whinning, suck it up and handle it like an adult that you are.

And funnily, this 'freedom' to do whatever is always expressed negatively. Nobody says they are adults and free to go to Church or Mosque as many times they like. It is freedom to party, freedom to do sex videos, freedom to have numerous sex partners, freedom to drink etc.

I almost pitied Lai Mohammed when during an interview he said he was sad the day his grandson asked why people called him 'Liar Mohammed'.

Do you see that even his grandson is ridiculed for his outrageous statements? Imagine people calling your grandpa a liar to your face.

That every right has a responsibility attached to it. Wow! That got me thinking! That's food for thought.

Every other thing you said was very apt. Like freedom to do only ridiculous things. That too, only when it comes to these do some seem to find a voice.

The problem would not arise, had nobody published the video. This is what should be condemned in the first place. Tomorrow it might be you going viral, maybe not because you had sex but it could be something else similarly damaging to you and your family.

bukatyne:
One of the reasons the guy is not on the radar is because he was the one that released the video and he has nothing to lose.

He was no longer a student at that point.

Anyways, I agree with you.

Nothing irritates me like 'they are adults, they are free to do whatever' like they fell from heaven and their actions don't affect others.

The illusion of liberty without responsibility is just that: an illusion.

Every right has a responsibility attached to it.

Nobody is free to do whatever they like: you pay the consequences sooner or later and every decision has a price you must pay.

When the consequences come, stop whinning, suck it up and handle it like an adult that you are.

And funnily, this 'freedom' to do whatever is always expressed negatively. Nobody says they are adults and free to go to Church or Mosque as many times they like. It is freedom to party, freedom to do sex videos, freedom to have numerous sex partners, freedom to drink etc.

I almost pitied Lai Mohammed when during an interview he said he was sad the day his grandson asked why people called him 'Liar Mohammed'.

Do you see that even his grandson is ridiculed for his outrageous statements? Imagine people calling your grandpa a liar to your face.

As in ehnn...... Yeye freedom.
Am free to do this, am free to do that yet they are not using the so called freedom positively, only negative... Negative

Over flogged topic.

Mindfulness:
The problem would not arise, had nobody published the video. This is what should be condemned in the first place. Tomorrow it might be you going viral, maybe not because you had sex but it could be something else similarly damaging to you and your family.

To you and your family, amen!

Don't do today what you won't be proud of tomorrow, in private or in public. My mantra.

If all you could pick out is to this, sorry.

ireneidiva:
Over flogged topic.

Okay. We've heard you.

Women, the eternal victims.

brightgem:
THE GUY
Not sure it’s ever going to change that a guy doesn’t get to be shamed for sex acts, the woman takes the hit more. Who knows him? Who’s talking about his parents shame? Nothing at all, it’s as if he doesn’t exist. Hard truth.

Pastor Wilson says hi.