I just read a post from a moniker who's likely masochist. The thread got me thinking: what about my sexuality?
I'm in my late adolescence. My only sexual experience ever was a kiss by my first boyfriend...
Apart from that, i havent had any other intimate relationship with any guy...
The problem stems from the below,
My dreams
My desires.

Since i discovered myself, my dreams have been based on lesbian intercourse. I've had countless of them regarding sexual moments between another female and i. Weird.
But in reality, i like guys. On few occations i do admire girls. I feel messed up because i was raised by a family with zero tolerance for those in the LGBT community. What if i grow to be a part of it?
I like to think that the hormones are responsible for it all... But then i'll soon be an adult, puberty's a thing of the past. It's scary especially in a society like ours.
The thing though, as i stated before, is that i like guys too. Am i a bi sexual then?
Can any one else relate?

I believe that we should be allowed to express our sexuality if its consexual. But im in that position and to be honest, im clueless.

Michellekabod2
Jonneyspute
Martinez39

90% of woman are bisexual just get use to it no big deal

sista, let me be the bearer of bad news: you are a lesbian (bisexual at best).... and if being with a woman is what you dream of, then the only reason you are attracted to men is because you know that this is what the Nigerian social environment expects of you.

be yourself!

Dollarheist:
90% of woman are bisexual just get use to it no big deal

I've read that most women have felt/feel the way i do.

RedCreme21:
I just read a post from a moniker who's likely masochist. The thread got me thinking: what about my sexuality?
I'm in my late adolescence. My only sexual experience ever was a kiss by my first boyfriend...
Apart from that, i havent had any other intimate relationship with any guy...
The problem stems from the below,
My dreams
My desires.

Since i discovered myself, my dreams have been based on lesbian intercourse. I've had countless of them regarding sexual moments between another female and i. Weird.
But in reality, i like guys. On few occations i do admire girls. I feel messed up because i was raised by a family with zero tolerance for those in the LGBT community. What if i grow to be a part of it?
I like to think that the hormones are responsible for it all... But then i'll soon be an adult, puberty's a thing of the past. It's scary especially in a society like ours.
The thing though, as i stated before, is that i like guys too. Am i a bi sexual then?
Can any one else relate?

Straight people are 60% LGBT makes up the remaining 40% around the world

MrBrownJay1:
sista, let me be the bearer of bad news: you are a lesbian (bisexual at best).... and if being with a woman is what you dream of, then the only reason you are attracted to men is because you know that this is what the Nigerian social environment expects of you.

be yourself!

I dont know if i am for certain... I wish i could confide in my mother. I once did (the dreams aspect) and she told me to pray. She's enlightened but a devout catholic. She things homosexuality is the work of the devil. I got no other mature female friend. I've bottled this up for about two years now.

I can't relate but it seems you are bisexual. You shouldn't have brought it to this forum though. The people here still live in the dark ages. Don't let their comments get to you.

Wait till you become of age you will know you are very normal.
You have a lot of time to get 'lust' in your imaginations and your unrealistic desires.

Grow up and get busy first. When responsibility beckons you won't even have time to ask if you are normal. When the tussles that come with aging reset your brain, Your question will be if your village people are following you.

Rada rada oshi.

Mindfulness:
I can't relate but it seems you are bisexual. You shouldn't have brought it to this forum though. The people here still live in the dark ages. Don't let their comments get to you.

I have nowhere else to. Thanks

RedCreme21:
I've read that most women have felt/feel the way i do.

Almost every woman sis, you just have to be self disciplined

maynation:
Wait till you become of age you will know you are very normal.
You have a lot of time to get lust in your imaginations and your unrealistic desires.

Grow up and get busy first. When responsibility beckons you won't even have time to ask if you are normal. When the tussles that come with aging resets your brain, Your question will be if your village people are following you.

Rada rada oshi.

true. Im young. Perhaps im letting all this get to me.

You are under a bondage of spirit homosexual and you need to fight it back through prayers but before the prayers you need to repent and forsake the old ways.

Sonsly041:


You are under a bondage of spirit homosexual and you need to fight it back through prayers but before the prayers you need to repent and forsake the old ways.

Im not theist.

it could just be a phase. How old are you now?

If i may ask you might not be up to 18 and your are having the lesbian feelings,you don't need to trouble yourself, focus on your studies, interact with boys and if possible you can start a relationship from there and as time goes on you'll surely blend...during my adolescence days I do have the feelings of myself being a gay but those are the old memories.......

RedCreme21:
Im not theist.

If you really want to be free, you have to believe in Jesus Christ he is the only one who can save you.

tunjilee003:
If i may ask you might not be up to 18 and your are having the lesbian feelings,you don't need to trouble yourself, focus on your studies, interact with boys and if possible you can start a relationship from there and as time goes on you'll surely blend...during my adolescence days I do have the feelings of myself being a gay but those are the old memories.......

im not. Thanks alot. This actually helped.

WhereIsOldRoger:
it could just be a phase. How old are you now?

16yrs.

OP. If you don't get yourself till you are 20, by then you can contact me and I'll bang you for just One week straight I guess that would make you normal.... Only if you are beautiful sha o

RedCreme21:
I just read a post from a moniker who's likely masochist. The thread got me thinking: what about my sexuality?
I'm in my late adolescence. My only sexual experience ever was a kiss by my first boyfriend...
Apart from that, i havent had any other intimate relationship with any guy...
The problem stems from the below,
My dreams
My desires.

Since i discovered myself, my dreams have been based on lesbian intercourse. I've had countless of them regarding sexual moments between another female and i. Weird.
But in reality, i like guys. On few occations i do admire girls. I feel messed up because i was raised by a family with zero tolerance for those in the LGBT community. What if i grow to be a part of it?
I like to think that the hormones are responsible for it all... But then i'll soon be an adult, puberty's a thing of the past. It's scary especially in a society like ours.
The thing though, as i stated before, is that i like guys too. Am i a bi sexual then?
Can any one else relate?

...are u related to Onila?

RedCreme21:
16yrs.

Well it's just a phase you are going through and nothing to worry about.. You're probably just intrigued bout what it will feel like to be with another girl thus your dreams and stuff.Eventually you'll outgrow it.

You think and talk about sex a lot for your age. I think you are a bored troll but I will remain sensitive incase some young girl is thinking like you. Sex is for adults. You are going through biological changes. All Women admire other women, they look to compare, and that can confuse you at your vulnerable ages.
By rule, sexuality takes time to form, and mature. If you corrupt the growing process of the brain, with none age appropriate martial (op watches porn at this tender age) then you will mess with your development process and may pick up the wrong understanding of sex and relationships.

Long story short! Act your age and go enjoy life.

RedCreme21:
I've read that most women have felt/feel the way i do.

. Yes most women do feel this way. But I think your own case is because you ve not tested sex yet. You don't know how it feels with a guy yet. Your just imagining.Tarry a little while but if the urge is much,get a boyfriend and do the do,nothing spoil. After that and you still find yourself attracted to females,then I don't know what to say.

maynation:
Wait till you become of age you will know you are very normal.
You have a lot of time to get 'lust' in your imaginations and your unrealistic desires.

Grow up and get busy first. When responsibility beckons you won't even have time to ask if you are normal. When the tussles that come with aging reset your brain, Your question will be if your village people are following you.

Rada rada oshi.

.. Nice one.I love this

Dimples0303:
You think and talk about sex a lot for your age. I think you are a bored troll but I will remain sensitive incase some young girl is thinking like you. Sex is for adults. You are going through biological changes. All Women admire other women, they look to compare, and that can confuse you at your vulnerable ages.
By rule, sexuality takes time to form, and mature. If you corrupt the growing process of the brain, with none age appropriate martial (op watches porn at this tender age) then you will mess with your development process and may pick up the wrong understanding of sex and relationships.

Long story short! Act your age and go enjoy life.

.. Another nice one.Beautiful.

Who gives a toss about society/family standards and expectations? Certainly not me.

Accept your sexual orientation and live a happy and satisfying life.

Dimples0303:
You think and talk about sex a lot for your age. I think you are a bored troll but I will remain sensitive incase some young girl is thinking like you. You are going through biological changes. All Women admire other women, and that can confuse you at your vulnerable ages.
By rule, sexuality takes time to form, and mature. If you corrupt the growing process of the brain, with none age appropriate martial (op watches porn at this tender age) then you will mess with your development process and may pick up the wrong understanding of sex and relationships.

Long story short! Act your age and go enjoy life.

i brought up a topic that's been upsetting me for years to get advice from females who could/can relate. I thought this nasty habit of shying away from sex education was a trait common of only nigerians. In the next 2 years, i'll be an adult. Its natural that i would be sexually inquisitive. Celibate though. The porn thread was joke. You lack humor.

RedCreme21:
[s]i brought up a topic that's been upsetting me for years to get advice from females who could/can relate. I thought this nasty habit of shying away from sex education was a trait common of only nigerians. In the next 2 years, i'll be an adult. Its natural that i would be sexually inquisitive. Celibate though. The porn thread was joke. You lack humor.[/s]

You chat too much.

Dimples0303:


You chat too much.

To think that you accused me of being a troll.
I was offended that you chose to be judgemental when you have no right to be. My sexual chastity is a thing i take pride in. So if you decide to latch unto a joke of a thread (regarding the porn) or this where i asked a honest question, then thats your buiz not mine.
For a woman i highly regard, you disappointed me. Your advice that i should ignore the homones flooding my body and the sexual confusion that comes with it, makes you nothing more than the hypocritical nigerians i've come to dislike.
Im sixteen, not twelve. That innocence that comes with childhood is gone!! In about 1yr and a three months, i'll be a legal adult.
Adolescence is a trying period, where im expected to be both a child and an adult. And it was easy for you, good. But it's hell now. The stress and depression i wake up with every day.
Either you advise me like you actually care or you ignore my thread. Thanks.

OP you will be alright. Don’t worry about anything.
If you end up liking only men or liking only women or liking both. You will be fine. By the time you turn 30, you will wonder what in the world you were even worrying about.

It might seem overwhelming right now. But as you get more mature, you will learn how to handle such feelings and be the best version of whichever part of you becomes dominant.

Do experiment (when you become of age of course). And responsibly too. Don’t box yourself in.

Let whatever gives you the most peace and pleasure lead.

RedCreme21:
To think that you accused me of being a troll.
I was offended that you chose to be judgemental when you have no right to be[b]. My sexual chastity is a thing i take pride in[/b]. So if you decide to latch unto a joke of a thread (regarding the porn) or this where i asked a honest question, then thats your buiz not mine.
For a woman i highly regard, you disappointed me. Your advice that i should ignore the homones flooding my body and the sexual confusion that comes with it, makes you nothing more than the hypocritical nigerians i've come to dislike.
Im sixteen, not twelve. That innocence that comes with childhood is gone!! In about 1yr and a three months, i'll be a legal adult.
Adolescence is a trying period, where im expected to be both a child and an adult. And it was easy for you, good. But it's hell now. The stress and depression i wake up with every day.
Either you advise me like you actually care or you ignore my thread. Thanks.

You really take nairaland serious girl!! Bt being virgin at 16 isn't something strange because that how it supposed to be bt we live in a society that finds normal things as something strange or special!! I doubt you can keep it up because at 16 your hormones ain't joking ,i will advice you to forget anything about relationship because it might ruined you emotionally!! Nigerian guys arent joking!! You should focus more on productive things!! I can see you haven't gotten over your ex!! You should stop taking comments here serious!!!
Ps:advice given from all your threads have seen so far.

cococandy:
OP you will be alright. Don’t worry about anything.
If you end up liking only men or liking only women or liking both. You will be fine. By the time you turn 30, you will wonder what in the world you were even worrying about.

It might seem overwhelming right now. But as you get more mature, you will learn how to handle such feelings and be the best version of whichever part of you becomes dominant.

Do experiment (when you become of age of course). And responsibly too. Don’t box yourself in.

Let whatever gives you the most peace and pleasure lead.

Thanks alot. I appreciate it.