Sterope:
Do you mean that you have have managed to convince yourself that wincing in silence meant no pain?

Surrey2Bimshire:


Wowza

1Sharon:


Straight from Google word for word

1Sharon:


Yh wowza !

You spoke trash.

1Sharon:


Yh wowza !

You spoke trash.

fieryy:
Anybody who has a basic understanding of race, evolution and genetics would know what Surrey2Bimshire has been spewing is trash.

Don't stress yourself @ 1Sharon. She can't be helped

Surrey2Bimshire:

BlackPantherCri:


Pain is a part of life. We have to deal with it. That's why we have adults who cant manage stressful situations. Because of helicopter parenting.


The child focuses on the after, the beautiful hair she will adorn. The pain is temporary. When the hair is all done, she's prancing about like a peacock showing all and sundry her beautiful hair.

fieryy:


Girl, your Biology teacher did you bad. Comparing a genetic mutation of a code coding a certain color to a disorder that leads to the absence of color.

Which kind of school did you go to?! No, your teacher didn't try at all. At ALL, lol

Surrey2Bimshire:


Both are genetic mutations .

fieryy:


Don't just screenshot. Actually click on them, read and educate yourself girl. You need to fully understand what you're talking about.

fieryy:


Nobody is saying they aren't both mutations, but do not confuse two facts.

The first mutation is one that codes a COLOR, that means the color is PRESENT

The second mutation is responsible for the ABSENCE of color.

Looool.


See your explanation nau

Surrey2Bimshire:


My explanations are accurate .
Have a remarkable day

Sterope:
Pian is part of life. That type of pain is not part of life. It should be a personal choice to want that pain or not. I cannot remember the last time I associated pain with my hair.

Exactly! It is about others not her. She is not a peacock.

The pain is not temporary. At least once a week, she gets her plaited or braided and she spends at least two days wincing every time she puts her head down to sleep.

1Sharon:


Did you go through this thread? I was saying that Nigerians don't have healthy hair practices and everyone was jumping on my comment and insulting me instead, I was offering advice..jheezz

1Sharon:
blk women don't look good in weaves

CeterisXVII:
Please take yourself out of my mentions. I do NOT need a tutorial from you, on how to handle my hair. Irú elénìní wo, l'elèyi?

midnighter:


Hmm! Its good to clarify something. Carry go Sir

fieryy:


No darling, they are not.

midnighter:

these Yoruba nuggets you keep leaving just dey sweet me and I can't even understand what you're saying hahaha

truthsayer009:


Once someone starts a conversation with "No darling", I know they're about to be hell out PETTY

computergeek:
She should never go throw any pain at all until she's old enough to decide that she wants to do it.

And by old enough, I mean 18.

Modified: most ladies on this thread are misunderstanding the point. The point of the article is not packing hair into buns or braiding, but braiding without pain! Yes, they can pick her hair gently so she won't cry like she's being operated on without anaesthesia.

Your comments all over the thread are about maintenance. While maintaining buns and tails can be hard sometimes, it's better to use all that money you'll spend on attachments and paying hairdressers to buy good conditioners and Shea butter that will soften the stubbornest hair types, so it can combed easily. I have a friend who styles her two daughters' buns in less than ten minutes.


Even cornrows and simple Bob Marley can be done without pulling the girl so much.

There's no excuse for causing a little girl any pain. No excuse at all.

CeterisXVII:

Babe, there are times you want to express something so badly, and English words just are not enough to convey the depth of your feelings? It was one of those moments....

fieryy:



As for the question on your status… he should keep the fro

fieryy:


I didn't what? I stated very clearly earlier that I do not care, if the child's hair is braided or in a bun. I'm very aware of the fact that natural hair is time consuming, since mine is as well. However, I do have a problem with the pain are lot of kids have to go through just in the name of 'fashion'. Let kids be kids and educate yourself on afros instead of just Brazilian wigs

peacefulhome:


From what I have seen around me with such mother's. Most of them are doing it to please people.
Like this festive period , you go and do your survey. You will see how the faces of some kids will be looking , all because their parents want them to do their hair, so it does not look as if they can not take care of them.

eyinjuege:


I've missed a lot on this thread o. How come I didnt get any mentions again?
Mothers plait their children's hair to keep it neat and well groomed always and to help it grow. Black hair (I will speak for 4C hair type) breaks easily if not well maintained and conditioned/moisturised. Unfortunately, children cannot do that themselves. If you leave their hair unplaited or unbraided, it will start breaking after a while.
Combing it every morning is also a big chore because you should ideally ensure it's all detangled, but those with unrelaxed long 4C hair will still cry their eyes out. You have to make sure it's well detangled and combed before you pack it in a bun. That means every morning, they get to school unhappy after crying because you combed their hair.
I know some say combing hair shouldn't be painful, but no matter what, you still have to pull the hair from the scalp. If the hair was relaxed, it wouldn't need detangling and would be easier to comb and not pull too much. Unfortunately, some of us mothers with daughters would rather they get older to make the decision to relax their hair or not
I've been tempted severally to get my girl's hair into dreadlocks, as it's cool, easier to maintain (though you need to try and lock it every 2-3 months or so), and your dreads will also grow. But when you're tired of the locks, you may be forced to cut the whole hair. I would also rather she makes that decision herself of keeping dreadlocks or not. She has beautiful hair.
To those shouting self hate about mothers plaiting their children's hair (they're not even putting Brazilian wigs or nonsense on the hair o. Even the pictures the OP posted on the first page shows a girl with fake buns/extensions on her head. ) , it's rather self love. It takes a special kind of love to make sure your child is well groomed, neat and to ensure her hair grows well. The easier option is of course to cut it. But what effect will that have on your child?
Afterall, many of us generally believe that hair is the crowning glory of a woman.
Several studies conducted on female show that they are more confident when their hair is in top form.
Children can be very mean to each other, and when your child has a low cut is in class with other children with plaited hair, that can tell on their self esteem. They see the boys in their class with low cut, and wonder why they are not like other girls
Some children are naturally self confident, and wouldn't care about a low cut, but some are very sensitive to it especially in their formative years.