1. The wife that wins all arguments with her husband is not wise. The home is not a law court.

2. The wife that uses sex as a weapon in the home – placing embargo, going to bed in jeans shorts and trousers – lacks wisdom.

3. The wife that uses the modern trends and laws of “women’s rights” to insult or ridicule her husband simply makes a fool of herself.

4. A woman that makes her home devoid of peace through bickering, nagging and quarrels needs help. A man should be eager to run away from office to be at home, for that should be the safest and coziest place on earth for him.

5. Modern-day equality in marriage does not mean competition. It simply means partnership. Taking advantage of such equality to turn around and become the de facto head of the home and oppress the man is tantamount to playing with fire. If you destroy your home, soon you will be the boss of an empty home.

6. A wise wife makes the man feel so good that he assumes that he is the head. Once he gets that feeling, the woman gently wields her power and the head actually turns to wherever the neck wants without a protest.

7. A wife that does not pull herself away from friends’ influence and advice or even from the control of her mother and father will have herself to blame.

8. When a man is looking for a wife, he bypasses women of different shapes and sizes to choose a wife. But soon after childbirth, many women hide under the excuse of childbirth to let go of themselves. Many stop bothering about their looks, shape, dressing, etc. Within 5 years of marriage, people start wondering if the wife is the man’s aunt, even though she is 7 years younger. Her defense is that if he truly loves her, he should love her the way she is. But when looking for a wife, he saw people like the present YOU and ignored them and settled for the former YOU. Today, you go to bed smelling of onions and pap. You go to bed wearing grandmothers’ clothes. Why are you playing with your marriage? Love is not about looks – we know. But looks enhance love and marriage. There is a difference between someone disfiguring herself and the person being disfigured by an accident. Please don’t be complacent. As hard as it may be, work on looking like you were when he first saw you and began the chase.

9. If every night you are tired, sleepy, sore, down with headache or fever, “not in the mood,” you are a joker, a serious comedian!

10. If your children suddenly become more important to you than your husband, you need prayers.

11. If you assume that as the woman, only you need to be pampered and fussed over while the man is a stone that has no emotions, you need to be pitied.

12. A woman that has the mind of a wife does not excite her husband. Wives are usually complacent and presumptuous. A wife must strive to have the mind of a girlfriend. A girlfriend is always nicer, sweeter, more loving and always thinking of ways to wow her sweetheart; a girlfriend does not try to win all arguments, does not call the man a “useless man”, is not careless about her looks or dressing, always smiles and laughs with the man, sends the man sweet messages and calls, etc. Are you your husband’s girlfriend in word and in deed?

13. When you rely on your beauty, cookings, character, connections and bedroom performance alone to keep your man and your home intact without putting God in the picture, you’ve missed it. Without GOD, it cannot be GOOD.

Put God first in your home.

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mynd44

nice write up

You too much I salute you and your tenacity of purpose to put up this write up.

13 laws of men to women!
Op ur number 9 and 12 points tho... ko ye mi o!

ahnie:
13 laws of men to women!
Op ur number 9 and 12 points tho... ko ye mi o!

Ati emi naa... Please explain better Op..

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When are they going to write lengthy rules and regulations for husbands to abide by or is it only wives that must be guided by rules?

So many contradictions

And if you need your wife to suppress herself in any way just to make you feel like you're the head, you sef know you aren't even qualified so how can you expect her to think so?

It’s wailing time

frenchtoast:
So many contradictions

And if you need your wife to suppress herself in any way just to make you feel like you're the head, you sef know you aren't even qualified so how can you expect her to think so?

This gives an insight.

When a husband and wife refuse to plan their family and pop 4 kids in 5 years. Whereas they got married based on people's advice "get married naw, God will provide for you".
The husband is a traditional man who lifts no finger in the house yet believes a woman must bring something to the table.
So, the poor woman, whose body has not recovered from incessant childbirths, is doing every house chore, tending the kids alone, working a job and dealing with possibly nasty in laws, Uncle only drops money, how will she not look like his mother, how will she get time to take care of her looks, out of 24 hours?

The wife that compares you to others nko?

Saintmary:
When a husband and wife refuse to plan their family and pop 4 kids in 5 years. Whereas they got married based on people's advice "get married naw, God will provide for you".
The husband is a traditional man who lifts no finger in the house yet believes a woman must bring something to the table.
So, the poor woman, whose body has not recovered from incessant childbirths, is doing every house chore, tending the kids alone, working a job and dealing with possibly nasty in laws, Uncle only drops money, how will she not look like his mother, how will she get time to take care of her looks, out of 24 hours?

I think the above should also be considered but not an excuse not to care for herself, although conditions/environment/financial power play a role here, cos my sister did the above gave birth to 4 children in 5 years in UK, and she is still looking more like a babe than before, as I said above the conditions/environment BTW UK & naija are different as well as financial power and husband support...

Men should support thier wives at homes, in the kitchen, chores and the likes cos the home is everybody's but women should not take it for granted by mistaken an arm shake for handshake.

Op nice nice nice write up .

dominique:
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When are they going to write lengthy rules and regulations for husbands to abide by or is it only wives that must be guided by rules?

That is why a lot of marriages are having issues, a lot of men have no other template than what they saw their parents model, no guide for men except their friends' advice, which is mostly erroneous.
All will be well.

dominique:
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When are they going to write lengthy rules and regulations for husbands to abide by or is it only wives that must be guided by rules?

It's never an abomination or sin if you write, post your own lengthy rules and regulations for husbands so that husbands we be guided as well

Don't be judgmental bin your reasoning if you plan to have peace in ur marriage.....


Without seeing you, I think rules number 1 and 3 are there to guide you

chriskosherbal:
I think the above should also be considered but not an excuse not to care for herself, although conditions/environment/financial power play a role here, cos my sister did the above gave birth to 4 children in 5 years in UK, and she is still looking more like a babe than before, as I said above the conditions/environment BTW UK & naija are different as well as financial power and husband support...

Men should support thier wives at homes, in the kitchen, chores and the likes cos the home is everybody's but women should not take it for granted by mistaken an arm shake for handshake.

Op nice nice nice write up .

You have said it, UK is worlds apart from Nigeria when it comes to postnatal care and partners' understanding.

Yoruba ladies do you understand?