StrongandMighty:
Let's hear her own side of the story first..
Una too dey lie for this forum

livebyday:


Okay bro

Have a pleasant evening

MezieFresh:


Like I said...

It depends on the peculiarity of the situation.

This scenario for example..

Some acquaintance must have been established.. Since they are both madam's staff...
And have been working together since morning.

Not some completely strange person on the street.

If the tables are turned do you think...
He will accuse her of sexual harassment

ambassadorgozie:


tanx alot,
remain blessed

MERCHANDISER:
i'll advice you.Having read through all these pages,disregard those comments from Guys here condemning and castigating you,they have VERY poor sense of judgement and Acumen.


If touching a ladies shoulder is a sexual molestation ,then i will be suing all the ladies in my locality and work place for sexual harassment on a daily basis.


Your greatest undoing is persistent begging to take your food.Perhaps,she thought you spiked the food with a stimulant(drug).
Another thing you did wrong was begging her not to call madam or that feeling of guilt.If i were you,i would have given her a dirty slap imidiately she started raising alarm and start insulting and threatening her that i'll deal with her and lock her up for falsefuly accusing me of rape,do you think i'm sex starved or pervert that i'll be lusting after you,Are you stupid?Do you thing i'm in the same level with you,i'll give her a very severe warning.(fear sef go catch her)and i will text your madam that she's accusing you of rape just because you told her to come and eat.


She(your madam) would have believed you.But u bleeped up.
It's from your madam's response you'll know whether you'll tender your resignation letter and walk out with your head high

SlayerForever:
The story doesn't even add up on several levels. An introvert was outgoing enough to even rub shoulder? Then you did nothing but was begging for her to forgive you?? Abeg abeg abeg you be potential rapist, guy.

MERCHANDISER:
op you should disregard comments from kids like this....They just want to feel among.


Seun it's high time we had an age restriction before registering on nairaland.All these kids less than 20yrs likr this stupid young man i quoted should be barred from accessing this forum

MERCHANDISER:
op you should disregard comments from kids like this....They just want to feel among.


Seun it's high time we had an age restriction before registering on nairaland.All these kids less than 20yrs likr this stupid young man i quoted should be barred from accessing this forum

BOSMANARIS:
Seriously, I believed you but why put your hand across the shoulder if you aren't nursing any intention.
You will need strong signal of assurance and approval before you can put your hand across your girlfriend's shoulder not to talk of a stranger.
IN NIGERIA, REMEMBER, WE BELIEVE WHAT A LADY SAYS MORE THAN THE GUY.
Sorry about the lose. I pray God Almighty gives a better one.

ambassadorgozie:


i swear it was her shoulder

ambassadorgozie:


oil dey ur head, happy sunday

addexx:
k

I respect your good intentions and all but I think you should also learn from this. You dont just go about touching everyone you see, some people are a ticking time bomb waiting to explode. Not that it is bad showing affection but timing and rapport should be first considered.
I noticed also you did a very poor job in defending your integrity. You even begged . Its as though you yourself had doubts about your innocence. Man of God, you dont keep mum in such a situation , stand your ground and vehemently oppose such attempts to shatter your image publicly with every safe means necessary. If you wer in my area in oshodi, you probably would have been lynched before anyone cares to know your story. Remember Aluu boys. Thank God it was within your office.

I wish you greater opportunities, emotional healing and justification mate.

ambassadorgozie:
6th of January 2020 is the day I won’t forget. I work as a personal assistant/secretary to my boss who happens to be a former politician.

My boss came to work with her housemaid for her to help in sweeping, cleaning and tidying up the office being the resumption day. She instructed us on how to go about it before she stepped out from the office promising to come back in the afternoon.

We started the work immediately until afternoon time when I decided to rest and eat. While eating I beckoned the grown up housemaid to come and eat or at least rest before she continues the cleaning but she declined. After like an hour, I told her to rest small, she declined yet again. This prompted me to go close to her in order to convince her to eat something or rest.

My worst mistake and nightmare was attempting to put my hand on her shoulder in my stupid bid to convince her. Immediately my hand touched her shoulder she started shouting continuously that I want to rape her, that she will deal with me; in fact that I will get sacked. At first I told her my intention, but she wouldn’t hear me, I then resorted to pleading, I even knelt down begging her that it wasn’t my intention to rape or grab her. She couldn’t stand my talks and pleading, she called the boss immediately telling her that I want to rape her. We narrated everything to the boss, (a lawyer), when she returned. After hearing from us she said she has stayed with her maid for couple of years, thus she trust her, and it may be true that I wanted to rape her or lure her for sex. She couldn’t see my explanation, pleadings and even crying. She said she has two options; either to call police for me or to sack me. That’s how she later sacked me that day.

I have been devastated and depressed since that day, not because of the sack but the allegation and accusation that was not even on my mind. The worst is that as an introvert I have no one to talk to, I am damn down.

Notes: 1. I have no intention of raping, grabbing or having sex with her
2. I will not be so stupid to rape or have sex with the housemaid in the office knowing that the boss will come at any time
3. I have not raped anyone or plan to do so in the future because I know is morally and legally wrong.

richPHAROAH:
omo chill, i have bleeped many girls in office. na for office e dey sweet pass. juown it that you wanted to try luck. there is nothing wrong with trying luck. u for try the luck on madam instead

MezieFresh:
Let's take this scenario out...

Let me even ask...
What is wrong in holding someone's shoulders... ?
If it was termed over stepping boundaries... That would sound better..

But sexual assault or rape?
For heaven's sake am lost...

But ladies do this... to guys and no one screams rape.

Beside the shoulder is not a private part...
One can tap you on the shoulder to get you attention.

This things are peculiar to different situations.

Ladies should stop all these false allegations.

MiddleDimension:
will you stop it already! and how does that mean sexual conotation in anyway?

if women are too body conscious, then it is their job to stay out of the public for better people!

DenreleDave:
Shut up jare.. If na lady touch man, will that be ur judgment?

So losing a job without no evidence of rape or real sexual harassment is worth taking food from a man mouth. Even if he had any intention, anyone shoulder may be tapped... So forget

Pray such mistake happens to ur husband too then u come online and judge..

U r just saying rubbish with no sense in ur head

logon599:
OP from your story it's clearly one of two things. Either:
1. The maid has suffered some form of sexual abuse in the past which has left her with a phobia and your seeming innocuous touch reignited a bad memory from the past, putting her on high alert, or
2. It wasn't her shoulder you touched.

thatigboman:
what did the girl do? Minding her business, cleaning the office her madam asked her to clean. The Op was there involving her in small talk, next pleading with her to come and eat and rest, she said no. And then placed his shoulder on her. A complete stranger, someone she was seeing for the 1st time in her life. Check it well naa

Basher8583:
Don't mind that guy jor. I'm even suspecting that he could be a rapist himself.
Rape requires violence to be termed as such.
Clearly there was no violence in this naration other than the plan of Mr smooth guy gone horribly wrong

CeterisXVII:

Stop sounding clueless. Not all rapes involve violence. Once a woman says NO, and you still go ahead to force your attentions or body on her.. .it is RAPE! Lack of consent, is what makes the sexual act, a rape case.

CeterisXVII:

You have NO sense, no shame and absolutely zero respect for yourself. One day you will land in trouble. You are so sex starved that you fvck girls in the office? Disgrace and humiliation is knocking on your door. You don't even even the dignity to restrict that rubbish to your house, you carried it to the office.....

Basher8583:
Olodo... No be violence you go take have your way?
Or can you explain to me the non violent aproach of forcing yourself on a woman that does not consent.
Infact for you using the word force alone is violence

richPHAROAH:
yes i Bleep anywhere i have chance to. i bleeped a hoe in the bank toilet yesterday. no shame here bro. i can even Bleep infront of ur mom

Sarang:
Next time if you want to convince someone to eat, KEEP yYOUR HANDS TO YOURSELF. I hope you have learnt your lesson.
I wish you best in getting another job

Ps: Maybe she had had a bad experience.
Why it's good to respect everyone’s spaces