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Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by yanabasee(m): 11:20pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by pocohantas(f): 11:29pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Saintmary: OP sounds really sensible and fair. He doesn't come across as that kind of man. Imagine calling me a feminist for suggesting they find a way around it without her resigning. As if a man would ever be stupid enough to lose his source of income. 5 Likes |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by pocohantas(f): 11:31pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
yanabasee: Mine is low? Well, yours is non-existent. What is your beef with my bf? You gay? 10 Likes |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by desvi: 11:34pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
Saintmary: not in Nigeria in this country every woman has to be and desire the same lifestyle 1 Like |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by mimimile93: 11:40pm On Jan 25, 2020 |
pocohantas:silence is golden. just ignore him |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by naijafinder: 12:47am On Jan 26, 2020 |
@SaithMary I really want a happy family, i have no issue with my partner having a good job, i also have a better job and earn 2 times of her salary. My concern was about having both partners together and raising kids together rather than been seen as uncle by your own kids. With the distance the kids from 0-5 years will eventfully be with their mom. A man can't nurse kids of that age. I also thought of when the the intended kids get to years i move them to my location. I cant have both kids and wife away. I thought of if she works for a year or two, we setup a pharmacy in Benin city so we can be together. But you know ladies who want to get into man's house we try to please at first or agree with you but once they are in fully it becomes thug of war and issues start surfacing. You guys have really done well for your input. 2 Likes |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by cococandy(f): 4:21am On Jan 26, 2020 |
The part in bold pocohantas: 3 Likes |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by cococandy(f): 4:26am On Jan 26, 2020 |
pocohantas: Not unless they are licensed pharmacists. But you know we like to do things differently in naija |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by cococandy(f): 4:33am On Jan 26, 2020 |
You fiancée /girlfriend is the person who frankly needs more advice than you do at this point No one here will ask you to resign or do anything that will not be to your own benefit. Your fiancée on the other hand is about to start facing pressure from all angles once talk about marriage is openly discussed between your families. I hope she has someone in her life who will guide her to make the right decision for her future. If she quits, she’s going to be a lazy housewife (at best). Of course that situation can get so much worse. If she sticks to her guns, she will be a frustrated and bitter feminist who put career before family. She will need to be supported at this time to make the hard choice (whichever it is she chooses). 9 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by Thegamingorca(m): 4:35am On Jan 26, 2020 |
pocohantas: Anybody dey open patent medicine store these days but it's not legal |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by Saintmary(f): 6:30am On Jan 26, 2020 |
desvi:You see, not every woman is desperate enough to jump into marriage with just any available man, some have enough sense to choose carefully. 3 Likes |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by Saintmary(f): 6:31am On Jan 26, 2020 |
pocohantas:I hope the fiancee applies wisdom |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by Esthered: 8:33am On Jan 26, 2020 |
Dear OP, your concerns are valid but there's also economic realities. How secure is your job in the long run let alone the short run? I'm in a distant marriage (Lagos and Benin.....few days old) and have never visited my hubby from my courting days. We've had issues about who should relocate, visit..... I hope you work things out as it's just for a short time I'm sure. Selah. |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by yanabasee(m): 8:43am On Jan 26, 2020 |
pocohantas: So, if a guy beefs a guy, then he's gay.... right? You're the dumbest feminist I've ever seen.... 2 Likes |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by Mizwisdom(f): 10:44am On Jan 26, 2020 |
naijafinder: If you continue this way, every time you have marital problem you will come back to Nairaland forum to ask questions. Think! do you love her? why is it now that you're having cold feet? is it now that you intend to dump her, after many years? think! 1 Like |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by desvi: 10:56am On Jan 26, 2020 |
Saintmary: but they must choose sooner than later because marriage and vagínas are all that occupies the average Nigerian 1 Like |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by Saintmary(f): 12:39pm On Jan 26, 2020 |
desvi:That is the problem of the average Nigerian. Not everyone wants to end up like them. 1 Like |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by kodix(m): 1:22pm On Jan 26, 2020 |
Why is that people actually cause troubles for themselves,man you are very silly.you walked up to this lady and toss her and she told you where she lives and work which you know it will not be easy for her to relocate and you went on dating her! When she started having feelings for you hoping on settling down with you, thats when out of your selfish reasons came to nairaland to seek advice,what stops you from leaving at first tym, nonsense.Abeg no go carry your wahala go disturb that lady, better leave her alone,AlmightyGod will later provide best husband for her if it is that she is destined to marry, go and find yamayama girl that live in your location.nonsense,! 3 Likes |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by pocohantas(f): 2:12pm On Jan 26, 2020 |
Thegamingorca: Thought as much. I find it interesting the way Naija men easily talk about stopping their wives careers and opening some shop for them. May God take such men away from me. Christine Lagarde and Ibukun Awosika na person wife. cococandy: Lol. We always do. Somehow we blame the government for every bad in this nation. 6 Likes |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by cococandy(f): 4:35pm On Jan 26, 2020 |
some of the medicine stores are legal if only you open under the coverage of another person who is licensed. Like a licensed pharmacist. But then you have to pass state inspection and there are certain drugs you can’t sell. Any medicine that needs prescription from a doctor must be off limits from your store. But over-the-counter medications that don’t need prescription you can sell as an ordinary person or as a nurse. But of course most drug stores flout this rule that’s why they keep running helter skelter when it’s inspection time. Not to mention the inspectors take bribes and look the other way. Or even when you’re doing the right thing, they still want you to bribe them or they lie against you. Nigeria pocohantas: 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by frozen70(f): 2:09am On Jan 27, 2020 |
naijafinder: Left for me, I don't see why you are bothering your self She got a job and resides in her state If you think you can handle the family alone, ask her to resign and move in with you after marriage but don't complain of her not being helpful in supporting the family financially Some married couples are living 8 hrs far from each other and yet they made it My advice, get an accommodation and for now settle where she works, weekends go to her and on Mondays leave early to work Fridays get back to her But bear in mind if you want full control of your marriage and a firm grip, Pay the house rent she is living Provide as expected of a married man Make that house your home and get a room in your own area where you can stay from Monday to Thursday night With this, you are still in charge and that solves the problem Just two hours apart is not an issue You can even be going to work from there as the case maybe Most of us in lagos stays 2hrs on the road to get to office So it makes no difference |
Re: Fiancee Stays In Another City, Should I Marry Her? by rain21(f): 9:21am On Jan 27, 2020 |
kodix: Exactly! |
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