ebuk4real:


See why it will take time for some reasonable men to settle down.

I keep saying it: bride/marriage list is never a sell off of one's daughter.

bukatyne:
The guy doesn't love her.

If he did, he would negotiate the list to what he can afford or tell the babe to pressure her people to back off.

He will not ghost her.

He obviously does not see them as a team.

bukatyne:
The guy doesn't love her.

If he did, he would negotiate the list to what he can afford or tell the babe to pressure her people to back off.

He will not ghost her.

He obviously does not see them as a team.

RisenPhoenix:


As a woman, don't you think it's shameful that somebody should be 'pricing' you? Just curious.

izzou:


Wow

How did you come to this conclusion Abeg?

bukatyne:


Does the OP read like a chat between two lovers in a deep fix?

Firstly, I believe the thread is scripted sha, but let's agree it happened

So because he's pulling out means he didn't love her? If we go check our blood groups and we are both incompatible for child bearing, will you say I never loved you because I quit?

Don't judge what you see because of few pictures. You only read a chat of few lines. What about the phone calls, pleas, arguments?

I agree with what you said about bargaining, but saying he doesn't love her no follow

izzou:


Firstly, I believe the thread is scripted sha, but let's agree it happened

So because he's pulling out means he didn't love her? If we go check our blood groups and we are both incompatible for child bearing, will you say I never loved you because I quit?

Don't judge what you see because of few pictures. You only read a chat of few lines. What about the phone calls, pleas, arguments?

I agree with what you said about bargaining, but saying he doesn't love her no follow

1stNumeroUno:
He sounds too hurt already. They (the man and his fiancee) could talk this over first and then go there different way if there's no way.

bukatyne:


@bold:

Nope.

However if he loved her, there would be an intimate engagement.

He tells her to talk to her family, engage the family himself etc.

RisenPhoenix:


I don't blame him. It is not by force to buy Range Rover. Kia dey, bicycle na still dey.

izzou:


And how do you know he hasn't done all that?

Meanwhile, why aren't you condemning the list?

Oluneutral:
This our Africa tradition sha!


As if she's a commodity to be bought!

And the man will still be expected to treat the wife's family well after paying all this o!


Bride price payment should be abolished! I support it!

Until that BS is scrapped, men will never agree to be equal with their wives.

thorpido:
In most cases,the Bride price is usually affordable.The problem is usually not the bride price but the marriage list.

Oluneutral:





Are you saying a woman should be compared to or with commodities?

bukatyne:
The guy doesn't love her.

If he did, he would negotiate the list to what he can afford or tell the babe to pressure her people to back off.

He will not ghost her.

He obviously does not see them as a team.

bukatyne:


This is not about the list, it is about the man.

The OP was talking about the action of the man.

My opinion of the list can be inferred from my posts.

bukatyne:


This is not about the list, it is about the man.

The OP was talking about the action of the man.

My opinion of the list can be inferred from my posts.

RisenPhoenix:


The comparison has already taken place when people are giving out invoices and others are insisting that prices should be negotiated. I just built my analogy upon the solid foundation.

Besides, all that talk of negotiating reminded me of when I bought my first, second-hand Suzuki bike.

izzou:


And we have just seen that it's too quick to conclude that he doesn't love her just with few lines of text

Are you married, ma'am?

bukatyne:

The tone bros.

What has my martial status got to do with it?

Oluneutral:







You see why I'm against this BS

Imagine!