RisenPhoenix:


Actually, I think you're right. He does seem to have already decided to abandon women and face his life for now. An mgtow in the making .

I laugh in Spanish!

izzou:


I just wanted to know, so i don't argue with someone who has an experience.

I usually perceived you as someone who's married. I apologize for asking

Funny @ arguing with someone who has an experience.

I am married.

bukatyne:


Funny @ arguing with someone who has an experience.

I am married.

Money wey go reach person take japa go Canada naim this one be wan troway so..
Silly tradition..
The man did well..

cococandy:
The chat does seem fake but if it’s real, they could still get married if they wanted to. If he wanted he could have asked her how she can supplement what is being asked for.

Many women do it and keep it a secret so that people won’t mock them for paying their own bride price. But often husband and wife can put resources together to settle the demands of the father and his kinsmen and go live their lives happily together.

Everyone who is honest knows that bride price is trash and needs to go. It won’t remove anything from a fun and fulfilling traditional marriage ceremony if that’s what they are afraid of.

Bride price is culture of all the tribes in Nigeria except Yoruba.

Y cant dey marry their free women?

The people who seem to advocate doing away with it are older women.

Younger women are usually brainwashed to see the price as a measure of their worth:

"Get a master's so your bride price will go up"

"Learn how to cook so your bride price will go high"

"Go abroad so your bride price will increase"

These "jokes" are conditioning.

bukatyne:


Bride price is a male tradition:

Most women are for the abolishing of BP because of its connotation and the fact that husbands have used it for ages to bully their wives.

This is not about what I prefer, it is about the reality on ground.

OP, me, did not make a commentary on the post.

Also, OP is from Opobo with an Igbo grandma and both parents born in Igbo land.

donstan18:
Tell me that an e-diotic non-Igbo isn't the one trying to troll the Igbo tradition with those screenshots and I'll tell you that you're the most stupid person to ever grace this earth.

We, the Igbos don't give a flying or crawling fvck about what you lots think about our tribe when it comes to marriage and the tradition surrounding it.

If you fvcking think our women ain't worth it, kindly switch to a particular tribe where you can marry their women with just red oil of N100 and Ghana pepper of N70.

We don't care! Las las after ranting, you'll logout, sell your lands, leave your women and come down to Igbo land to marry with the money.

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the guy is not serious, he didn't want to marry the girl, he is using it as an excuse

cooooooks:
The people who seem to advocate doing away with it are older women.

Younger women are usually brainwashed to see the price as a measure of their worth:

"Get a master's so your bride price will go up"

"Learn how to cook so your bride price will go high"

"Go abroad so your bride price will increase"

These "jokes" are conditioning.

I don't think women really see brideprice as a measure of their worth.

If there was no bride price, they would measure their worth on something else.

Those 2 statements seem contradictory.

Bride price is used to measure self worth and worth of husband (which is also sometimes an extension of self worth: "I'm so awesome that I could attract a person of this 'calibre' and get them to commit, that's for sure.

Should it? No.

Bride price is not the only thing used to measure, size/style of wedding is also used by some.

This is not a woman problem, it is a societal problem.

bukatyne:


I don't think women really see brideprice as a measure of their worth.

If there was no bride price, they would measure their worth on something else.

...this is not much nah...I have a 3in one list much heavier with bride price on the high side too.

mine is more than 600k
excluding ceremony foods, dj, drinks for d D-Day

Did she not see the list before it was offered the guy? Did they not sit down to discuss what they were comfortable with on the list?

I asked around and it seems the bride is generally not shown the list beforehand.

GboyegaD:
Did she not see the list before it was offered the guy? Did they not sit down to discuss what they were comfortable with on the list?

cooooooks:
I asked around and it seems the bride is generally not shown the list beforehand.

She should go to her kinsmen to make necessary adjustments to the list.