Hi Nairalanders!
Please Help a Brother!

I'm into I.T. Services, rendering I.T. Support to companies, offices, hotels and some organisations here in Lagos.

I do send out automated promotional emails to lots of companies daily, and with that I met a clients who happens to be one of the top military superior, in Bonny Cantonment, its a very popular military camp close to C.M.S (Lagos Island).

The boss invited me to his office, which I obliged. I got to his office and he showed me what he wanted me to do. He was in a hurry, so he told me he will instruct one of his boys to stay with me, so that nobody will harass me, and I replied OK! He made a call, said some few words and hanged up.

I told him what was wrong and what I intend to do, also my charge, he said no problem, provided it will be OK.

In few minutes, a military lady came in, I didn't look at her, I focused on my work, but with her voice I knew it was a woman. The Oga told her, "Chi, stay with this young man, once he's done with the work, confirm it and free him". Then he turned to me and said " send me your account details" I replied "OK sir" Then he left.

The girl turned to me and said "Oga weldone ooo" I then looked at her, omo, she is cute. I mean really cute. I never knew military ladies are cute, except pictures of them I see on Facebook, I thought it was a scam. I replied her "thanks" Then she said "how many minutes you go take?" I replied her.

I wanted to give her compliment on her beauty but each time I remember a video I watched on Facebook, where a guy was brutally punished for telling a military girl "she is beautiful" I swallowed my words and mind my business because I no want trouble.

She was the one bringing up topics we discuss about, like my name, how I met her boss, where I stay, if this is the only job I do, and all that. I think she discovered I was not comfortable, so she was engaging me into a conversation so that I can let loose. I think she should be in her early 20's.

After some hours, I was done, she escorted me to the gate, and that was all.

I ordered for a ride with Opay, till I got home, I was just thinking about her, I didn't tell anyone about it, I visited the Boss again about 2-3times but I never saw her again, I was kind of free with the Boss, but I think I will be crossing boundaries if I ask him about her? So I ignored and hoping to see her again.

I was there last week, and behold as I was entering the gate, I saw her coming in too, I was shocked but happy at the same time. We greeted, she asked how work is and all that. We discussed a little bit, and she waved me bye.

I summoned courage to seek for her WhatsApp contact, which she gave me. I was excited, I finished with the Boss and dropped her a message on WhatsApp "Hi, its me, am done and am leaving" after some minutes she replied "OK sweet, take care ooo"

That word "sweet" made my Bone Marrow Melt. LOLz.

We have been chatting for like 3days now, like serious chatting at night, we talk about lots of things.

But am confused, I want to ask her out, but this are my fear :

1. I fear soldier die
2. I have no experience with female soldiers, like their behaviours
3. What if she say no, will she take it up?
4. If I go cheat wetin go happen?

Please if you have dated a military lady before or currently, please how does it feel like? or if you have a very sensitive advice, please share me small.

I don't mind if anyone can share their experience with me, I need to make up my mind today, I feel like asking her out right away.

I would have loved to drop a screenshot of our chat but she might be on Nairaland, and will not like the idea.


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My dream is To Knack an Officer in her complete Ceremonial Uniform (Officer not recruit oo).
Then when am done, She does the National Salute and sword crossing.
Meanwhile back to you young I.T Man, don't allow your loins put you in trouble. Uniformed ladies don't like being lied to, just tell her you have a chick oo, but you like her as well. If she gree, kwantinue, buh if she no gree, let go..No be every Frog dem dey chop.

WHY YOU SHOULDN'T CHECK YOUR PARTNER'S PHONE

1. It makes you into someone you don’t want to be.

Nobody likes the person that they become when they are consumed with waiting for their partner to go to the bathroom so they can pounce on their phone and quickly scroll through texts. Most people want to feel like they are honest people with integrity and self-respect. Nothing is a bigger hit to your self-esteem than snooping around, feeling like you’re a criminal, trying to get information that you know isn’t rightfully yours.

2. It sabotages closeness.

Many relationships never bounce back after one partner confesses to snooping on the other. Even if it turns out that your partner was in fact flirting with someone else, your sneaky behavior often cancels out their flirtation and you lose the moral high ground in your argument. It is very hard for anyone to trust someone who they now realize was going through their private messages, looking for evidence of their misbehavior. This lack of trust may be just as hard to forgive, in many ways, as an uncovered flirtation.

3. It puts you in a weaker position.

When one person snoops on another, it creates an unhealthy power dynamic. When you’re in a position where you feel empowered, you simply don’t sneak around and spy on others. You live your life without worrying about what other people are doing.

But if you become fixated on what your partner is doing rather than what you yourself are doing, you are effectively disavowing your own power and giving it away. This is not a healthy long-term dynamic.

Your only concern should be "If I cheat wetin go happen?" Military ladies are cool and accommodating as well as loving if they give you Green light. You have to be a man when dealing with them by knowing when to call the shots.

If u are being real and not after the pusssssy, then u are good to go. They are humans too...