TheArchangel:
No word for the guy.
Did you see how you exonerated or rather, downplayed the atrocious acts of the husband and then turn around to heaped the "advice" on the victim?
She couldn't keep quiet any longer and had to voice out, now she has to endured being cowered and victimised with hypocritical advices too.

nkwuocha1:


Be wise Ijeoma.
You may not be at fault,but be careful how you decide to handle this hence.First,go to him and ask him to delete this thread, peacefully.

Secondly,take your child for treatment tomorrow.

Thirdly,DO NOT FORCE him to call your dad.Go your normal activities like you don't care if he calls him or not.

A wise woman thinks like a man though a woman.Be silent hence,watch and concentrate on your baby.


Again,Do not comment.Delete your posts and go offline.

If he is still foolish to keep this thread then he is immature as your brother insinuate.

UjuJoan2:


The comparison is for people like the OP, and any other man, who thinks his financial contribution to his own family is something to make noise about. No matter how much you are giving, some other man out there is matching it and more. So when you want to make noise, stop and think. That other person is a man just like you. You both have equal capacity to make money. No need blaming a woman for falling short.

And yes, any man who makes noise about giving his wife money is stingy.

maynation:
There is something I don't understand biko.

From the screenshot the acclaimed wife shared, her brother sent her the link to this thread at about 11 PM and she already posted her counter posts at about 9PM.
Didn't the brother see her sister's comments ni?

Something is fishy abeg, I just don't know what exactly.

funmisticqueen2:
This man is verbally abusive, immature and a covert narcissist. I think she should leave.

merahki:



Very boring thread. I have just one comment. The hospital fees are way too much
What did you baby have on her skin that cost that much in a government hospital?

dalongjnr:
The greatest mistake I made in my marriage was involving 3rd party into it. Madam Ijeoma, pls be calm and chart a new coast.
I'm going to advice you as a father and a husband.
1.Be slow to anger,as a gentle tongue can break the hardest bone.
2. Be assertive concerning your marriage. They said it's not the bed of roses,so expect challenges and be strong to overcome them.
3. Know that your siblings love you but can stay in the marriage for you. Just make it work by yourself so that even if,they are not there, it will stand.
4. Know the temperament of your husband and adjust.
5. Know your excesses and lapses and work towards perfection.
6. Respect you husband and revered him as mandated by God.
7. Pray for your marriage as if your life depends on it.
8. Don't go to your parents home, go to his elderly ones and his uncle that he respect a lot, stay there until the issue is settled amicably.
9. Remember that you are young and growing, so, expect a misstep, but try and amend it.
At 30yrs, the guy is just becoming a man with a lot of expectations,responsibilities and uncertainties about himself and the marriage. He's there comparing and processing his single days and also confused about everything.
He may be seeing his EX and comparing them them to his wife. Mr Dantee , pardon the guy and let them grow to understand and stand for themselves, it's just 2 kid trying to be adults and parents. Just assist and don't be harsh on them. Sometimes, just persuade them in a gentle way to do the right thing. You na in-law, just be patient. They will grow and learn.

nkwuocha1:


Leave to where?Your house?

Mariangeles:

What's fishy about it?
The woman was letting us know his brother already saw the thread, and it was an embarrassment to her.

funmisticqueen2:
Aren't timelines different inn2 different countries?

Ishilove:
Old, fake ass format. I wonder if you people never get tired of this bullshit.

funmisticqueen2:
It seems like you are blaming the wife for everything. Both of them should adjust accordingly,not ijeoma alone. Both of them should respect each other, not ijeoma alone. Marriage takes 2 to work, not ijeoma alone.
Good day

funmisticqueen2:
Yes na.

Let us treat this as yellow card.

If the man as much as insults her again. She should pack and go

Please I need advice on how to handle this, I gave my wife the sum of 400k for her and my 2 years old daughter around November and this January she’s already calling to tell me that she’s out of cash and I got worried and started questioning her how she spent such amount on feeding within such a short period of time ,that made us got into serious arguments which lasted for 2 days then I have to ask few married friends if is ok to exhaust such amount of money on feeding within 3 months and they gave me their answers which I sent to my wife too ...Now my wife immediately forwarded same messages to his brother living abroad too and also along with some conversations we had long time ago where she got me angry and insulted her by calling her idiot and stupid ...... His brother got angry and ask her to divorce me and immediately she started packing her belongings,I saw so surprised when she called me that she’s leaving my house ....I also learnt that his brother called his friend living in Abuja too to go and drag her out of my house if she doesn’t want to go ...... So I was so surprised when she asked me where to drop my keys I have to start begging her to calm down but she insisted that his family wants her to go ,then I have to call her mother and explained my own part of the story but the mother said there is nothing she can do since her siblings wants her to go . Now the problem is that my wife doesn’t want to go anymore but she doesn’t have the courage to tell her family that we have settled our misunderstand and doesn’t want to go anymore . She wants me to start calling every member of her family including her father to apologize and reassure them my love towards her again but to me I don’t know how to start the conversation with the father more especially because i believe having issues in marriage is normal and everyone understands that fact and since I have made up with her is their any need calling her family again

NB: They brother in abroad gave me the insult of life by sending a message to my wife which she also forwarded to me by calling me all sorts of names like immature and childish husband, and this same guy is of the same age bracket with me. Plz I need ur candid advice don’t mind my English and typos.

She said if I don’t call his Father and apologize to him that she will still go to her house even though we have settled our misunderstanding that she still have to go until I apologize to the father and reassure him that I still love her daughter.

maynation:


You don't believe these tales too right??

Ijeoma1187:
Should I continue to let the cat out of the bag?? It’s really not nice when you come here to make other people look bad .... since your pride won’t let you call my dad. Well Tuesday I am leaving.... how will you marry a woman just for one year and leave without even calling and speaking to them, are you just satisfied with seeing pictures of your baby?? Just picture..... well it’s so sad since we have started this remember my brothers too are on nairaland I will tell them to come and read as well .. you have come to seek 3rd party opinion.... in all these mess I never told my people or involved anybody but you keep telling people is this how you want to handle your family.... I am really really angry imagine him seeking 3rd party opinion from him divorced friend whose marriage didn’t last up to a year...: be there and watch me go, in all honesty I have tried as a woman and you won’t find any woman like me

funmisticqueen2:
dermatologists are very scarce. Their appointments are not cheap

TheArchangel:
Garki hospital is not a government hospital. It is one of the expensive hospital around with the quality of the services they offer. Research before you speak.

maynation:

Funny.
The screenshot was from a person based in Nigeria, it has nothing to do with different time zones.
All the messages are timed in the receiver's time zones.

Jaubdu:
Grow some fucking ball,stop been a Sissy

Ishilove:

Of course not. Over the years, every once in a while a bored jackass comes online to give sob stories about their significant others, and the vilified significant other also comes online to give us their own side of the dispute. That's how they will be going back and forth until someone finally notices it's one person running both accounts. After falling a couple of times for that nonsense, many of us have learned to identify these pranksters.

funmisticqueen2:
did you read the full story?

Route99:

'equal capacity'? 'blaming the woman for falling short'? You sound naive. Even men who earn more will understand the point I'm trying to make. Even if they are not stingy, they also have a limit and will likely complain if that limit is tested.

Mariangeles:


Of what gain is it for someone to go through so much trouble just to create some fake controversial topic?
It's not like it attracted so much traffic anyways...

Ishilove:

Of course not. Over the years, every once in a while a bored jackass comes online to give sob stories about their significant others, and the vilified significant other also comes online to give us their own side of the dispute. That's how they will be going back and forth until someone finally notices it's one person running both accounts. After falling a couple of times for that nonsense, many of us have learned to identify these pranksters.

Jaubdu:
Did you get the point that her child is sick?

Danteeee:


Well said and thank you very.. but lemme make one thing clear and final.. my parents are happily married and would never want their daughter to be a divorcée.. most times u just have to look beyond what’s happening now and focus on the latter.. do u think we just work up and say “oya pack up” Don’t u think that this abuse, toxic, lack of respect, insecurity, immaturity and childish behavior has been lingering for a long time!? Do u know how many times the said young man has been given the opportunity to clean his mess?? How would u feel if ur sister, daughter or loved one is the subject of discussion among friends every god dam time there is a misunderstanding at their home Like she’s some sort of a property or what?? Do u know what it means for ur spouse ( man or woman) to keep talking down on u until u loose ur self worth, confidence and emotions Have you ever dealt with an indecisive person before?? We can’t be that stupid to want her to leave her home just for mere misunderstanding cos we really don’t care what goes on in her home.. but when u see that things are getting out of hand then u can step in and save a life since the dude doesn’t want to charge of his home. now take a look a the rampant domestic violence we having these days.. it’s not a day or one time thing.. it’s an anger and abuse that has been building for a long time and it only takes a trigger before it blows out of proportion.. now do u say it’s ok to make “ur wife” a subject of mockery with friends?? And she, rather than doing the same resorted to family?? Honestly we want her to be happy, confident, treated with respect and not a hell in a marriage all because of what society will think of her.. for sure we can’t keep giving her money but will definitely set her up financially more in her growing business.. once again, thank y’all and ur sincere advice well noted!