kay-money:

@ OP You made a grave yard miskake by telling  guyB  that you broke up with your bf~~ And no man wants third party to hear or discuss or by any means intrude into his affairs** That i hate with all passion**Even my parents*My brothers should not hear what transpire btw my babe and I not to talk of complete stranger** I beg you let  Guy B know that you and your lovely man are doing fine and always cut him off from any discussion arising from your relationship** take this advice if you want your relationship to succeed you need to have the mind of your own-the head of your own-and the brain of your own*  believe in your own judgement~ dont try to seek peoples opinion in your relationship they will never be correct and out of their own selfish  feelings they would mislead you~please seperate your friends from yur relationship they are not thesame thing *

Idowuogbo:

spot on Otunba , some women find dis difficult to do , talking to much kills the relationship , but sayin na anoda tin doing na anoda wahala
poster if u want peace go with kaymoney advice o

adaphik:

If u were confiding in B, for a fellow male point of view over a situation, that may just be understandable. But telling B that u n your boyfrnd 'no longer talk to each other' is highly unwarranted. Maybe I should ask, was that also for his own opinion? A long distance r/ship, is a fragile affair, so handle it as such.

funshaw:

He actually didn't tell me to tell B we stopped talking, he only said i shld stop talking to himm about our arguments and stuff, and i think this is because i bring B advice up when we argue and tell him B said it. But I didnt mean anything bad, just thught thats the best way of handling the issue is telling B we didn't talk. He's still insisting I shld tell B we are still talking and fine. do i have to do that again though

ZIM DRILL:

how would you feel if he tells you thats what he suggesting to you was told him by his female friend

kay-money:

@ OP I can see you as someone shying away from the truth the poster you talking to is he online** you need to Wake up to some realities of life and stop telling third party about your affairs~ that behaviour would destroy your relationship and you will lick the wound alone *

funshaw:

am really not shying away from the truth, thats why am here, just woke up so there is no way I can know the poster i replied isnt online. But my question, Do I still have to tell B thats am going out and if i dont what do u think my BF will do. I can just tell him sorry. Just help plx

kay-money:

@ ID my ex GF killed our relationship when i was still in 9ja~~We dated for  5 years every little thing she is gone to tell her mum~~ I called her I corrected her yet she refused to see any fault in her behaviour** Any disagreement she is gone to seek advice from her female girl friends that are even jeaulosy of her dating someone better than their own guy they would start to advise her in a way that they want the relationship to go** i dont blame third party i blame my girl that borrowed another ladies brain-head and common sence to take decisions that affect her life today she is regretting all that action ~~ A word is enough for the wise .

Idowuogbo:

eyah five yrs down d drain bcus she refused to deal wiv matters privately , well her loss . hope she learnt that woteva  u tell pips is wot dey wud use against u wen dey are any misunderstanding  in d relationship .kis and tell is not  healthy 

Murphy G:

@ funshaw, I wanted to use a word 4 u but emm, (I changed my mind). But seriously I how old are u? Is this your 1st relationship? I think so because of wht the way u are handling it, No man, I repeat, no man will want his GF to always tell another guy what transpires in his rship.

Now u dont hav to tell B that your ended your rship with your guy. He cant force words out of your mind if u dont want to tell him abt your rship, can he?

Of course u have to let B knw that u are still in a rship with your BF. That way u will be free when u are with him and your BF calls u, Ok. Or dont u knw how to tell B that u still in the rship?

kay-money:

@ ID my ex GF killed our relationship when i was still in 9ja~~We dated for  5 years every little thing she is gone to tell her mum~~ I called her I corrected her yet she refused to see any fault in her behaviour** Any disagreement she is gone to seek advice from her female girl friends that are even jeaulosy of her dating someone better than their own guy they would start to advise her in a way that they want the relationship to go** i dont blame third party i blame my girl that borrowed another ladies brain-head and common sence to take decisions that affect her life today she is regretting all that action ~~ A word is enough for the wise .

D-sense:

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I lost my glasses . . .can't read this

funshaw:

This happened between me and my boyfriend and another male friend (I'll call the male friend B). I've been with my BF for more than 6 yrs now, He resides in US while i'm in UK. we see eacother at least 3 to 4 times a year. Distance is not an issue though.

I recently got involved in series of arguements with my boyfriend like never before and i turned to the other male friend of mine here in Uk for advice because he too is in a commited relationship and a long distance relationship like mine, we met last year. 

swiftycool:

Poster my advice is to deceiving yourself, you dont have  a boyfriend, you have a pen pal, same goes for your Mr B. I mean what are you guys? 12 year olds

By the way you were right, the post IS sensless

swiftycool:

Is this kinda dumb or am i the only one getting this picture? You hav a boyfriend you hav only met 6 to 12 times in 6years and you are still there deceiving yourself worried about him getting mad from miles away. I tot Naija girls were wiser than this. Trust me you will soon discover after another 6yrs that he has been happily married or in a relationship with someone physical for all these years. You will b back on NL to tell d story of how bad men are 4 wasting your precious years! trust me we've heard it b4. As far as i know u guys are just online chat bodies. Believe it or vex. NONSENSE!!!