Brightgem:
Yeah, blame it on feminists. Listen, both men and women need to work on themselves in this era

You are sensible. The both needs serious work

snitchbitch:
All you will be hearing on the news is wife kills husband, husband murders his wife, I think we need some counsellors for our marriages, or guys what do you think?

Most women marry because of money, influence or social benefits, like royal family or rich dude,

And guys too marry for sex, but when the wife denies them, they start looking for side chicks to substitute, well I don't blame them, I blame the society!!!

Na society choose d woman for u? During dating u no see red flags

MiddleDimension:
maybe i wasn't looking. but do you think it is a good thing not to look and mind one's own business?

It becomes my business when its up in my face. It becomes my business when it affects me, my well being, the ones I love, or the environment I live in.

OceanOfJoy:
When my sis travelled to Abuja, she had married men trying to date her and being a no-nonsense type she was highly irritated.

nice one. she is my type. useless married men everywhere.

dingbang:
maybe she handles divorce cases...

Except that

carpdiemz:


Don’t mind him , d way marriages crashes dis days is just like a broken girl friend and boy friend relationship, and dis won’t make men to marry on time cuz it means there would be a lots of available divorced women and single mum all around Naija don Dey turn America be dat

I tell u...

Op80:


I swear, there is one coming for me now. I have tried to connect to this guy to no avail. Whenever I see him, I get disgusted by his speech, reasoning, Outlook and everything. I have told myself that rather than marry someone like that whom I am not attracted and connected to, I will stay single because it won't be funny to both of us

Exactly, instead of suffering both yourself and him

J111333:
This is just your sister's version of the story.

Chai, brother you no get joy o

Haymaykar:
As shared by Sandra Orokodo, an Abuja-based lawyer.



https://mobile.twitter.com/Sandraorokodo/status/1230838933375848454

At least, it's better than murder !
Shikenan!

This term called MARRIAGE, scares me a lot
...hmmm...

Mayhem999:
It is 4001 as we speak..
My neighbor filed his own application yesterday.
That his wife is too beautiful and won't stop attracting men like flies.

This is funny.
The same beauty that attracted him is now his nightmares. Men and lust, let him voice out what's actually in his mind.

Fragility6:

Which novel is this?

Are you this stupid or is today a special occasion.
The father was away and the kid fell sick , she told the step mother but she thought the kid was joking so she ignored her. She starved the little girl even when she was sick she cared less , don't you think she is somehow responsible for her death.
Novel ko novel ni.

Exodora:


Are you this stupid or is today a special occasion.
The father was away and the kid fell sick , she told the step mother but she thought the kid was joking so she ignored her. She starved the little girl even when she was sick she cared less , don't you think she is somehow responsible for her death.
Novel ko novel ni.

U need Jesus. Dumb w*t

Fragility6:

U need Jesus. Dumb w*t

Amen.And thanks but no thanks

I disagree with you sweetheart. Don’t speak for someone else, even if s/he is your twin. Only speak for yourself period

OceanOfJoy:
Coming from a male disguised as a female, you should know all about that.

This is my sister I'm talking about, if i can't speak for her, you can? . She went to Abuja for work for some months, didn't grow up in Naija and not your typical Naija woman chasing married men. One was honest enough to tell her his wife and kids live in the U.S and wanted to date her but she still said hell nah . She's married to a great guy now but the stories I heard about the manhos in Abuja, smh.

Rossinnki:


The trouble with that idea is that it deprives one of the parents of custody of the kids, unless of course they are cohabiting indefinitely.

They can cohabitate of share parental custody till the child is 18years

lexy2014:


Sorry. It hasn't. Many get into it without preparing and get into it for d wrong reasons, hence this high rate of failure

The initial idea behind marriage as outlived its purpose, Women were meant to be properties and not equal partners. The early men thought they could control women forever but the more women become enlightened, the more rebelious they got, why do you think women had to take the name of their husbands?

The institution is no longer working and a new arrangement where men and women cohabitate is best

Abso1uteZero:
With all these nairaland feminist running around, why won't there be a high divorce rate.

Exactly and with the high standards women have in selecting a man for marriage, no surprise IMO.

henryobinna:
what is that purpose that it has outlived?

The purpose of enslaving women to Men. Women were never meant to be equal partners in the marriage, they were meant to be slaves to the men. But the mordern woman is way too Educated and enlightend to be any mans slave.

AfrokanGod:

The purpose of enslaving women to Men. Women were never meant to be equal partners in the marriage, they were meant to be slaves to the men. But the mordern woman is way too Educated and enlightend to be any mans slave.

Ok,

AfrokanGod:

The initial idea behind marriage as outlived its purpose, Women were meant to be properties and not equal partners. The early men thought they could control women forever but the more women become enlightened, the more rebelious they got, why do you think women had to take the name of their husbands?

The institution is no longer working and a new arrangement where men and women cohabitate is best

From what u have said, it is obvious that u don't no anything about "the initial idea and purpose of marriage". Who are d "early men" u referring? Are d "early men d creators of marriage? D late Dora Akunyili was enlightened. In fact, she was a professor, served as a minister of d federal republic of Nigeria & an accomplished public servant. Y wasn't she rebellious to her husband?

OceanOfJoy:
Yup. Nigerians in Nigeria today marry for the wrong reasons

What is the right reason(s) if I may ask?

Oluneutral:
Marrying for the wrong reasons, unrealistic expectations, and influence of social media are part of the major causes of high divorce rate being witnessed in this present age.

Na your papa born you!
Exactly the problem.

Forget sex and emotions. 3 things will keep a marriage in this generation.
Tolerance
Patience
Communication /understanding

The moment all 3 are gone, that marriage is ended

[quote author=Perfecttouchade post=86880799] white house is another spot around that axis too..I needed to eat one of the night after the whole day stress and works, so I decided to get something to hold stomach, but I realize I miss road o..their club house upstairs even uniform men dey roll things for there but I no blame dem, dey need to relax once in a while..too much of fun spots for those axis..and on the weekend ( Sunday) I just go with my boiz to the field around makarantha police sign board to joggle some ball..if works carry me go Abuja again I go like see my people again..it's fun in Abuja but u must get ur money for hand even to Barb hair sef but if u dey visit saloon in that area, make sure u have ur clipper to avoid story that touch[/quote


My cousin and I usually return to Dutse axis after each stressful day to cool off.
I just sit down sip my x1 and watch while ppl are doing their thing.
Everyday new joint are springing up, muko sef is warming up.

[quote author=Idoko619 post=86900481][/quote] WhatsApp me bro, I will get in touch whenever I'm in Abuja

kurupt1:
I'm giving up on women, what is with this perceived oppression?? If they allow women to enlist into army and fight Boko Haram.Do you think women have the slightest chance of suceeding?pls there are roles for women and men in the society and this evil feminism wants to destroy that

I don't speak for women, so, don't give up on women on my account

I ask again, did they send women to war and they didn't go? BTW, I was talking about the past, like the guy I quoted. You should try to read things with context, not as standalones

And assuming feminism is evil, because it seeks to emancipate an economically weak group, is what small minds do. Feminism is not the reason for everything, a lot of you are blissfully ignorant of what feminism is about and it shows in your words

oglalasioux:


Lagos

you still haven't replied me. why lagos?

sassysure:




But it's true anyway.
Married men in Abuja know when there is new chick in town. They have the money and connection.

U have to become strong born again by force else u are in hot soup especially if u are searching for jobs and u may be frustrated to say yes to them.

you still haven't answered me. how much money do they have when majority of nigeria's richest men don't live in Abuja

sassysure:




But it's true anyway.
Married men in Abuja know when there is new chick in town. They have the money and connection.

U have to become strong born again by force else u are in hot soup especially if u are searching for jobs and u may be frustrated to say yes to them.

you still haven't answered me. how much money do they have when majority of nigeria's richest men don't live in Abuja. and how do abuja men behave dfferently from nigerians in other places?

MrColdsweat:
Yup. What do you expect when there is no spirituality in Nigeria?


The virtues crucial for marriage which are self-control, commitment, discipline, tolerance, selflessness, honesty, fidelity etc are no more....


Nigerians are now morally decayed. So will our political, social, religious institutions.

Just about the most real observation...spot-on!

Davash222:

Thanks a lot.
What’s the difference between the two?

Just the ORDER