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Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by ILuvMerije(f): 5:56am On Feb 27, 2020 |
Femsyn: God bless you |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by LadySarah: 6:03am On Feb 27, 2020 |
December last yr, we had a couples seminar. It was taught that the couple knowing themsves should save money with the one who is more prudent. Either of the sexes can do it. Communication is the key. A couple gave their input, 23 yrs in marriage. The man worked where he was paid very well. He would squander it. The wife managed to save the paltry sum he gave her for housekeeping. Until the company laid him off. After crying for over a week, realizing his foolishness and inability to invest,bis wife called him and gave him a lump sum which they use to start a poultry feed business. In 8 yre, the biz has grown from just pick up trucks delivering the feed to atleast 2 containers each week.Since then every money that enters his home goes to the wife and he is happy They now have their own house, several cars and biz doing well. He called the wife up so the church would celebrate her. Even though he learnt the hard way, pride will not let alot of men do it to avoid falling. It doesn't take away his authority. The ship you are steering as the family head, is it taking your family to a safe place or the rocks? No Generalizing in marriage. Mzflexydeeva, emmadejust, Nnaabros et all 9 Likes |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by Amumaigwe: 6:15am On Feb 27, 2020 |
fatymore: They are all over Nairaland though in limited supply. Forget the grandstanding here. Most ladies still long for good marriage and know the price to pay to put it together. But as usual, only a few are willing to pay that price. |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by edrys(m): 6:23am On Feb 27, 2020 |
Femsyn: I beg to disagree Sir. Some women have this bossy attitude and find it hard to be submissive to their husband even when he is trying his best. 3 Likes |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by LilMissFavvy(f): 6:28am On Feb 27, 2020 |
Well..... someone above asked how a marriage of 40yrs could produce a 30yr old child . If this story is true, I can only congratulate the woman based on two reasons: 1. Her submission only worked because she married a ''good man''. 2. She has been intimidated/oppressed in the marriage and has no say, she lost her self esteem, such that she has to wait for the crumbs that fall from her husband's purse before she can provide for herself. She got used to such slavery, and I congratulate her for the ability to cope in it for such a long time. Any woman who tries this in our world of today should be ready for the CONSEQUENCES. If you handover your finances to your husband and he wastes it, or uses it to chase women outside, and finally throws you out of the house, pls blame yourself. A joint account with fair rules is a better idea. 3 Likes |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by babyfaceafrica: 6:33am On Feb 27, 2020 |
Ausrichie: This same toxic marriages lasted long with less acrimonies than today's marriage with so much turbulence... Look sometimes I think we are over sensitive in this generation. Over civilization sometimes is bad.. There is something our fore fathers got right that we are not getting right 1 Like |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by babyfaceafrica: 6:35am On Feb 27, 2020 |
vickydevoka: Equal right is good but has negative I outs in marriage... The truth is that their can't be two captains in a ship.. One is a full captain, the other is a co-pilot 1 Like |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by lasdas100(m): 6:36am On Feb 27, 2020 |
A well written piece of marriage coherence |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by babyfaceafrica: 6:40am On Feb 27, 2020 |
Ladycewhy: Most of the men here gyrating on this thread have no integrity ,no transparency,no loyalty ,no consideration to their partners.They move as if their partners are second fiddles yet they want a woman who will kneel down and lick their feet Don't judge people by their comments, what you just said is very unfortunate......there are lost of good people here |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by petitejolie(f): 6:42am On Feb 27, 2020 |
emmadejust:ure right o . I know a woman like dat. She had full control of d finances but na d man money o. To d extent d man doesn’t have access to it. The man must explain wat he wants to do with his own money o. So most time he avoids asking as far as she’s ok and there is peace. But d woman will go shopping with her mum and she loves family vacation. Now the man is tired and has taken over wat is his and called off dier relationship except a particular act d with bulk of the money which d woman wouldn’t let go. They aren’t married though. Just living as baby mama and papa. Imagine if Dey were married. Divorce would Av been sure 1 Like |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by mich2012: 6:42am On Feb 27, 2020 |
Nice piece |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 6:43am On Feb 27, 2020 |
In order for today's modern woman to be successful, she has to learn how to be "masculine" in her workplace and "feminine/womanly" in the home front (in the sight of her spouse and their kids). Any attempt to misplace each other will ultimately lead to chaos. 1 Like |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by babyfaceafrica: 6:44am On Feb 27, 2020 |
Amumaigwe: I agree there are list of good men and gals here, but the problem is social media and peer pressure.... How many of them ca. Pay the price of good marriage?.. Good marriage is serious work |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by Longman8: 6:44am On Feb 27, 2020 |
Marriage is totally out of our hands, no one knows who God has made their match. All we can just do is to pray and commit the chosen one in the hands of God. PRAYER STILL REMAIN THE KEY. |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by GraGra247(m): 6:45am On Feb 27, 2020 |
PLEASE IF YOUR HUSBAND WILL KEEP ALL THE MONEY TO HIMSELF DON'T HAND OVER THE MONEY TO HIM OOH!!! Don't let anyone brainwash you. Hand all the money to him only when he faithfully uses the money to better the entire household. SUMMARY: Don't accept every advise you get from people and from the internet. APPLY WISDOM while accepting advices. 10 Likes |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by babyfaceafrica: 6:46am On Feb 27, 2020 |
edrys: Very true.. My advise is that men should look before they leap... Meek men should avoid bossy women if she Rick's most of the box.. Vice versa.... I can't be gentle and marry jezebel because she is pretty and can cook and wash 2 Likes |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by Kay25(m): 6:48am On Feb 27, 2020 |
Goodone |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by adanny01(m): 6:55am On Feb 27, 2020 |
Mzflexydeeva: Thank God you learnt all that. If it were my parents, my father may not collect it. He will direct you to my mother. She manages the home front and everything else so what ever he needs, he will get it from her. She will also give him an account of what she did with the money. Just like you listed, understanding is key. Every thing in a marriage depends on the understanding of each spouse. 1 Like |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by mmyfarmsltd(m): 6:58am On Feb 27, 2020 |
Forgiveness- if infidelity can be forgiven, beaten too can be forgiven. |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by Pigmy(m): 7:01am On Feb 27, 2020 |
Nnaabros: the summary of it all. correct 1 Like |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by adedayoa2(f): 7:02am On Feb 27, 2020 |
The man has done his home work for his wife to be this submissive. İf you want that kind of wife, put in your 100% and see yourself getting a 100 from your wife not even 99%. İ pray my marriage exceed 40years. 2 Likes |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by Analysiscorner: 7:06am On Feb 27, 2020 |
Nnaabros:She made veiled reference to it in the entire writeup. |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by innobarca(m): 7:08am On Feb 27, 2020 |
The truth is that such women still exist. Sensitivity to the feelings of your partner: Try your best in this Area, it helps. |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by EJanni(f): 7:10am On Feb 27, 2020 |
Euegene100001:that's not true my brother. I have seen where a woman did all of these and more and the man continued to dehumanise her in every way. He did her a favour by marrying her. He sàys. 4 Likes |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by sylve11: 7:12am On Feb 27, 2020 |
Nnaabros: Gbam Gbamudele Gbamudeleki. 1 Like |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by sylve11: 7:13am On Feb 27, 2020 |
EJanni: Something is not right. Look deeper. |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by mranova(m): 7:14am On Feb 27, 2020 |
Story started with "since I am part of the family" later turned to "I called my friend" and finally "I told my girl I will call her back"..... Now we really know why women are to be hailed if marriages are to last 40 years not men. 2 Likes |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by Hozil92(m): 7:15am On Feb 27, 2020 |
Nnaabros:Please expatiate |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by Ladycewhy(f): 7:16am On Feb 27, 2020 |
babyfaceafrica:bottom line is if you want a queen be ready to be my king ,this is not the 18th century ,no body is going to kneel and call you Lord and Master . Any man who wants that better go sit in the grave with his ancestors. 3 Likes |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by ibabz(m): 7:18am On Feb 27, 2020 |
@OP, so your friend did not learn a thing from her mum. It shows the kind of wife she would become...I'm disappointed. |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by GraGra247(m): 7:18am On Feb 27, 2020 |
Mzflexydeeva: You are totally and completely and 'practically" wrong. Assuming that a woman does 99% means that the man does nothing at all. In the African the man does far more than the woman to provide, protect, sustain and establish the home. Both have their roles to play. The man gets the money gathered from that event most likely because he fully funded the entire event in the first place. In an ideal setting both should get equal parts of the money even if the man funded entire event. |
Re: What I Learnt From A Wedding Anniversary That Could Help Save Marriages Today by babyfaceafrica: 7:19am On Feb 27, 2020 |
Ladycewhy: ,this is not the 18th century ,no body is going to kneel and call you Lord and Master But this is not always true!!.. Do your thing sha.. Just erase hate from your mind, toxicity is bad |
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