HopeSpencer:
My wife said she doesn't believe her mother is her real mother. How can she politely ask her mother for maternity test?

When the eldest child in a family of 6 children was to go for marriage introduction, my wife was not informed despite still being with her parents at the time. Other siblings knew beforehand. My wife was informed on the day of introduction. My wife demanded why she was treated that way but was told that prophet asked them not to inform even the siblings, but was sure only her was kept in the dark.

There are other things that can't be described accurately here. Her mother is close to us as we are now making babies and she has to come and stay with us for a while, but my wife weeps in the closet everyday for setting her eyes on her mother after remembering her atrocities.

sassysure:


I'm seeing this in different perspective actually.
I will request for a maternity test too if my mum treats me that way. The dad may not be her real father(this will explain lots of things)
So the husband should start from here. If she is off from the rest of the family, she should ask question.
If the dad is alive, she should confront the dad first. When she is clear her dad is innocent( she may be the dad's child from another woman too).

The treatment is caused by something deep so she should dig that up else she will never have rest of mind and I am strongly suspecting those options I mentioned.

And yeah, there are mum's that treat their children bad. But it can never be compared with men.

Then, there are men that are exceptional with kids. Remove the male ego and men always seeing taking care of children as woman's thing, men will even spoil the kids more than the females.

crackkhaus:

I needed your analysis on the part about the trend of ladies not being close to their mothers as evidenced by the responses on this thread, not just the story in the OP.

Don't you think it contributes to the strained relationship a lot of women tend to have towards MILs?

I mean, if a woman was never close to her own mother, it will certainly be foolhardy to expect her to have a close relationship with her husband's mother, or come to understand why he always seems to take his mother's side over her.

pocohantas:

Oga, rest na. Everytime chuchuchu.

Thread on sharing formula, you and your colleagues wan tear body because some people said they will give their mothers more. You said it Men Vs Women. One of you even insulted people not giving their fathers more money.

Now some people are sharing personal experiences, you still want to start Women Vs Women.

Take a chill pill abeg. You really get energy o.

crackkhaus:

I don't know where you saw me or my shadow on that thread, or perhaps you don dey see me for your nightmares.

Either way, try avoid me & let me chat to someone who has sense.
SHIFT!

pocohantas:


Abeg rest. Na man you be. Chineke!!

crackkhaus:

But not your man na..

pocohantas:

How can you be “my man”, Do I look like a lesbian? Toor!!!! Chuchuchu

crackkhaus:

You're not close to your mother too, that's really why you're triggered here.

Otherwise, I no understand how my chuchuchu' take affect your next 3hrs vacation to a beach.

pocohantas:


Naso. Global parrot. Keep typing...

crackkhaus:
I can't be the only one who is noticing a trend here.

The females are admitting they are not close to their mothers and some even claiming it's usually that way with.
Well, I can bet this will be the same story with a lot of other females here who haven't commented yet.

No wonder when guys are taking sides with mothers, it triggers & upsets them...they just don't understand the connection.
I mean, how can women who don't even know what it feels like to be close to their own mothers understand why their husbands will never joke with their mothers when it comes to issues involving both women?
Horses will have fly first na before they will get it, Lol...

Too many people with unresolved psychological problems from their upbringing mehn...I've always suspected this.

What a pity.





Cc: Bukatyne, sassysure.
Your analysis is needed here.

pocohantas:



Oga, rest na. Everytime chuchuchu.

Thread on sharing formula, you and your colleagues wan tear body because some people said they will give their mothers more. You said it was Men Vs Women. One of you even insulted people not giving their fathers more money.

Now some people are sharing personal experiences, you still want to start Women Vs Women.

Take a chill pill abeg. You really get energy o.

pocohantas:


Naso. Global parrot. Keep typing...

Mariangeles:


It is not always the females that don't bond with their mothers, some males can relate that also.

You're always petty and seem to have some type of issues against women, which has fogged up your sense of being objective.
Grow up man!

Zombiekiller010:
I don't stay around people that don't like me, if seeing her mother will be making her bitter, she should politely tell her mom to go to her husband house

crackkhaus:

I needed your analysis on the part about the trend of ladies not being close to their mothers as evidenced by the responses on this thread, not just the story in the OP.

Don't you think it contributes to the strained relationship a lot of women tend to have towards MILs?

I mean, if a woman was never close to her own mother, it will certainly be foolhardy to expect her to have a close relationship with her husband's mother, or come to understand why he always seems to take his mother's side over her.

Filmewell:
i also felt that way,but the time i decided to ask the question to my she suddenly started to regale stories of when she was pregnant with me and other stories of my infant stage. with further digging i found out her reactions to me was because i came as the third girl when they were expecting a boy. although she tries to treat me same like others but it is always different

sassysure:

Hee

Sometimes, when a woman is not in a good relationship with her mum( I only knew a lady that's not in good relationship with her mum, though her mum asked for forgiveness later from her), she maybe in excellent relationship with her MIL.
This lady is actually prefer her MIL around than her mum.

crackkhaus:

On a thread where you people are admitting you don't get along with your mothers, yet I'm the one with issues against women. The irony stinks to high heavens...

I love and get along very well with my mother, Maria.

And I will not grow up just to accommodate your insecurities, or just because I wish to be in your good books.
I would rather stick my hand in the revolving blades of a tractor.

Mariangeles:


His type can nag someone to death!

Mariangeles:

Let us be clear on one thing: I have a very close relationship with my mother
Go back and read my comment again.

pocohantas:

Nne ehn, nzuzu my father gwurum ike.

eyinjuege:
Your wife hates her mother, yet is using her for nanny duties.
Your wife is unfortunately a user my dear. Why would you bring someone you hate close to the most precious things God has gifted you- your children?
You both need to reevaluate yourselves o.
Why would you also as a man bring your mother in law close to your children when you know her daughter despises her?
I'm not understanding you people o

HopeSpencer:


It's a tradion here. When wife complained she doesn't need her presence, her family members rebuked her

pocohantas:


Naso. Global parrot. Keep typing...