Nairalanders
Please help

My dad and mum are married for at least 23 years now

I am the first son of the union
My mum complains my dad isn't caring, all he cares about is how much money she has and how he can gain from her


While my dad complains that my mom disrespect and talks to him anyhow

They have been having issues since December Cuz my dad didn't even sympathise with her when she fell sick
Just this small issue has raisen up more troubles
They now live like cats and rats in the house and this is really affecting me
I just got admission and their problem is becoming a great distraction to my school

What do I do ??

WTF
Are they the one sponsoring the school or yourself?

Leave them alone, na old age dey worry dem. Coulpes act this way when they're getting old. Concentrate more on your studies.

Man up

Call them to a meeting and talk to both of them and use the Bible as the authority to derive the wisdom to counsel them. I hope u understand the role of man and woman in a Christian marriage.

If this didn't work use a man of God to talk to them n pray for them too

Gwagone:
WTF

I need help bro... Offer an advice if you got one please

it didn't just start, they've been harbouring it; they only just got a reason to bring it up.

if they are learned people let them talk about it with the sincerity of making changes or get counselling. 23years is an investment, they shouldn't just throw it all away.

ogawisdom:
Man up

Call them to a meeting and talk to both of them and use the Bible as the authority to derive the wisdom to counsel them. I hope u understand the role of man and woman in a Christian marriage.

If this didn't work use a man of God to talk to them n pray for them too

My mum has refused to listen to anyone and feels hat my dad should be allowed to suffer a bit for what he is been doing to her

Meanwhile my dad feels he has taken enough of her problem and is considering everyone going seperate ways

Ebus12:
Nairalanders
Please help

My dad and mum are married for at least 23 years now

I am the first son of the union
My mum complains my dad isn't caring, all he cares about is how much money she has and how he can gain from her


While my dad complains that my mom disrespect and talks to him anyhow

They have been having issues since December Cuz my dad didn't even sympathise with her when she fell sick
Just this small issue has raisen up more troubles
They now live like cats and rats in the house and this is really affecting me
I just got admission and their problem is becoming a great distraction to my school

What do I do ??

Are you done with school?

Do you have a good job?

the probabilities of them listening to you is actually low.. until you are making money and supporting them financially, YOUR WORDS MAY HAVE NO EFFECT.

So I suggest, you get someone mature that they both respect to come and talk to them... maybe your pastor if they are religious or an elderly uncle or woman.

Pls do this and be free.

Focus on your life and do not let it affect your progress.

Ebus12:


My mum has refused to listen to anyone and feels hat my dad should be allowed to suffer a bit for what he is been doing to her

Meanwhile my dad feels he has taken enough of her problem and is considering everyone going seperate ways

What have you noticed over the years, is it your mum or your dad at fault, in your opinion?


From your story, I think your dad is at fault. He hasn't been caring over the years, talk to him about it, encourage him to change. Does he take care of his financial responsibilities?

You are quite young so try to get an elderly person to speak to your parents because African parents and pride are 1 and 2. You can also play your part by praying for them, but don't let them affect your academics, they've lived their lives and you are also allowed to live yours happily.

Ebus12:


My mum has refused to listen to anyone and feels hat my dad should be allowed to suffer a bit for what he is been doing to her

Meanwhile my dad feels he has taken enough of her problem and is considering everyone going seperate ways

Oya they should separate na, let everyone be on their own, Op focus on your school, that's the most important thing for you right now.

You already stated the problem. Let me tell you the truth, your father will not change or budge, you know why? Those 90s men are big on respect.

So I will ask that you start with your mum, try to see if she can put more respect on his name, so he can soften his stance.

I repeat, your father will not budge if his wife does not show respect. Men easily confuse respect for love and it makes them soften most times.

So work on your mummy first.

Money issue

Op, don't interfere. I repeat, don't interfere. The only time you should is when they expressly ask for your opinions on matters. That is when you should pour your heart out.

They have carved out their path and it's time to carve out yours.

Ebus12:


I need help bro... Offer an advice if you got one please

Block them of ur phone and concentrate on school. Don't let their nonsense affect u psychologically. They've already enjoyed their youth to d fullest. Simply put, your life is in your hands

Why would a horse band not sympathize with his sick wife? You men should fear God and leave pride aside.

So they have been suffering for 23 years and yet they don't want to have sense and separate.

Op they will soon drag you into the fight. Make sure you don't side with any. But if you have to take sides choose the one that will continue to pay your school fees.

You better face your studies. Don't use the issue at home as an excuse to flunk your exams ooo
Some of us had it worse

Davash222:
Leave them alone, na old age dey worry dem. Coulpes act this way when they're getting old. Concentrate more on your studies.

That's not true, they have pending issues they couldn't solve and that pending issues is triggering other issues

Ebus12:


My mum has refused to listen to anyone and feels hat my dad should be allowed to suffer a bit for what he is been doing to her

Meanwhile my dad feels he has taken enough of her problem and is considering everyone going seperate ways

If going separate ways will make them happier let it be

As time goes on they will know if they need to reunite or not

The issue is that your dad must have been hurting your mum and feeling less concerned about her emotional state

Women don't forget easily if and when you keep hurting them in a clueless manner

I will not advice you to sit them down and reconciled them, you are too small to handle their matters

Just manage them and don't take sides to any of them in the presence of another

If your dad is a lazy man amd wants to control the resources of your mother, no woman will take such from a man that doesn't care about her

Ask your mum what happened, she will start her story from the very first day your dad hurt her without an apology

Ask you dad what happened, he will tell you that your mother doesn't assist him if and when he doesn't have

But be careful about who you supports

Your mother will expect you to take sides with her and of you don't you will have the worst problems with her

Your mother should not pack out unless your dad throws her luggages out and your dad must not be sent out unless he wishes to

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Oya they should separate na, let everyone be on their own, Op focus on your school, that's the most important thing for you right now.[/quote]