in issues at family table our women sometimes always wants theres on a must.

alagha:

in issues at family table our women sometimes always wants theres on a must.

Yes she have to have a say in family issues, she is part of the family and have the right to air her view.

Yes, your wife can suggest, decide in conjuction with you, and influence decisions in the home. Thats why she is the wife and mother in the home

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Eveoeve:

Yes, your wife can suggest, decide in conjuction with you, and influence decisions in the home. Thats why she is the wife and mother in the home

Couldn't have said it better.

how?

Is she the family dog? Whose family is she supposed to have an input in if not her own

alagha:

in issues at family table our women sometimes always wants theres on a must.

Well she must always be there. Tbh, she should never be there.

Also, May I kindly suggest to you the next time you are having a family discussion, lock her up in the dog's cage and replace her with Bingo the dog.

duhhhhhhh, please don't tell me some men think like this. um, she did give to your children right?

You're eating food she prepared. I'd listen to her if I were you. She might decide to include some special

ingredients just for YOU in your dish.

poster,
firstly she's not your slave that you order here & there. For gawd sake when you married her both of became 1, so any decision to be taken you got to listen to her own side of the matter, then you can come to a logical conclusion. I'd advise listen to her. . .never understimate the power of a woman. Even though she's block headed up stairs something good can come out 'nazareth'

good talk

Women, if your husband is the type that apreciates your input into family decisions, then by all means suggest and help out in decision making in the various aspects of marriage. But if he is the despot, please dont drag the control with him, sit back and allow him delude himself that he is in full control, one day he may creep back and seek for your opinion after a silly mistake from him. Mind the domestic stuff and master that section completely, but remind him of business/general points periodically, without sounding controlling. My own wife will not say a word in the general family meeting including my peeps, she agrees with every point. (I know she is strategizing and avoiding being blamed, when asked to suggest, she repeats my stand on all issues)
Men are so proud, allow us to wallow in our ignorance and self belief.

Hmmmmn

OP,Take it easy and try looking inwards for a lasting and permanent solution _{assuming u and ur threads are NOT fake}

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=635826.msg8079842#msg8079842

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-634182.0.html

okay,  still watching.

Every decision in marriage are 50-50 not by one person. ur wife have every right to express her view ,concern.

Nothing get done in my house without my input ,infact my hubby dont make any decision without asking me first.

50-50? I hear you. And I hope the 50-50 includes all other family responsibilities including financial contributions.

My concern is; in a case where both do not agree, who has the final say? or should the matter be left pending/abandoned?

OAM4J:

50-50? I hear you. And I hope the 50-50 includes all other family responsibilities including financial contributions.

My concern is; in a case where both do not agree, who has the final say? or should the matter be left pending/abandoned?

What makes u think your wife is not contributing in your marriage? she does the chores at home and take care of the kids if u have any plus she takes care of u, dont u know that that alone is a full-time job  ?? or do u think its easy to take care of kids,chores and husband who wants his ego satisfied ? and hardly help out at home with kids and house chores ??

Final decision is based on what u both agree on mutually that will benefit both not just one person. let it remain pending until u both come into agreement there is nothing that cant be resolved in a marraige if there is love one will surelly submit to the other,if u want all final decison to be just on u then your a very controlling person 

In the end after GOD, a woman can make you or break you so please listen to her suggestion carefully. I'd advise marry a good wife. .

are they nt the same as in women?

Brite02:

In the end after GOD, a woman can make you or break you so please listen to her suggestion carefully. I'd advise marry a good wife. .

Marrying a good wife is not really as important as being a good man.

spyder880:

Women, if your husband is the type that apreciates your input into family decisions, then by all means suggest and help out in decision making in the various aspects of marriage. But if he is the despot, please dont drag the control with him, sit back and allow him delude himself that he is in full control, one day he may creep back and seek for your opinion after a silly mistake from him. Mind the domestic stuff and master that section completely, but remind him of business/general points periodically, without sounding controlling. My own wife will not say a word in the general family meeting including my peeps, she agrees with every point. (I know she is strategizing and avoiding being blamed, when asked to suggest, she repeats my stand on all issues)
Men are so proud, allow us to wallow in our ignorance and self belief.

@Spider880

lol.You made me laugh with this.
But what do you do when you see all what you have worked for about to go down the drains because of his 'ignorance and self belief?

Your wife is your partner not your housemaid. There are occasions you discuss important family matters with her and get very good advise from her. Men are proud and want to take credit for everything. But for the sake of peace and harmony in the home, the man should not sidetrack his wife when taking decisions that affect the family. Remember the adage, "two good heads are better than one."

Your wife is your partner not your housemaid. There are occasions you discuss important family matters with her and get very good advise from her. Men are proud and want to take credit for everything. But for the sake of peace and harmony in the home, the man should not sidetrack his wife when taking decisions that affect the family. Remember the adage, "two good heads are better than one."

@Topic, she must suggest and both of you must decide.

alagha:

okay,  still watching.

How far with the man-power thing,Mama Ijebu ?

She is allowed to suggest which sexual position we assume in bed

dayokanu:

She is allowed to suggest which sexual position we assume in bed

orisirisi

alagha:

orisirisi

Orisirisi abi orisirisi

OAM4J:

50-50? I hear you. And I hope the 50-50 includes all other family responsibilities including financial contributions.

My concern is; in a case where both do not agree, who has the final say? or should the matter be left pending/abandoned?

Hmmmmmm if you want the woman to share financial responsibilities equally then be ready to share domestic chores equally too including doing the babies pampers and backing them

Yes the woman's views are important also cuz if her hubby takes the wrong step and she doesn't stop him on time they will both definitely dance to the tune. Women are not slaves, they have brains too, so to think that as a man you are the only decision maker then you must be a stupid chauvinist male who isn't fit to keep a home.