UjuJoan2:

You just have to face facts, being a single mother/father comes with a lot of consequences. Most people would not want to get involved with them.

I remember meeting an OAP when I was single, he was a local celebrity and was all over me. I was even catching feelings and falling for his moves already. He would play me love songs in his morning shows and do 'shout out' to me all day. It was wonderful . . . until I found out he had an 8-YO daughter.

You see I didn't see myself becoming a mother to an 8YO that wasn't mine. I just couldn't.

You can't judge people for the choices they make and the actions they take. That's why when you make a decision, you need to be ready to face the consequences.

UjuJoan2:


You just have to face facts, being a single mother/father comes with a lot of consequences. Most people would not want to get involved with them.

I remember meeting an OAP when I was single, he was a local celebrity and was all over me. I was even catching feelings and falling for his moves already. He would play me love songs in his morning shows and do 'shout out' to me all day. It was wonderful . . . until I found out he had an 8-YO daughter.

You see I didn't see myself becoming a mother to an 8YO that wasn't mine. I just couldn't.

You can't judge people for the choices they make and the actions they take. That's why when you make a decision, you need to be ready to face the consequences.

cococandy:
If You let a social time line, time table, dead line or whatever you call it dictate your life you will never measure up.

easyconnect:
What if you were the one with the 8years old daughter and someone you love, look you straight in the eye and said he can not. How will you react?

crackkhaus:

This was so good to read

M00N:

TBH,we men find it hard to marry a woman with another man's child. We think of a lot of things like why didn't the father of her child marry her, what kind of life style led her to this and lot more questions like that. The truth is that having a child out of wedlock will reduce the number of suitors and those who even marry her will not want the child around him cause he see the child as extra baggage or only if he has a baggage of his own. It not easy to see a man who will love a woman and her child with another man. So I will suggest you pray to God to help you raise your child while you hope for a man that will love you and your child. Being a single mother always reduce a woman's chances of getting the man she wants because of the child, so unlike a single lady you don't get a lot of choice. Sorry if i sound
harsh

easyconnect:
Some of you claiming we can't marry single mother are not even capable of loving yourself not to talk of loving a single lady. I blame the @op who brought her personal life here in the first place.
You don't need to be sorry. You are harsh already

UjuJoan2:


I agree, but I bet it would have been easier if she had a well-paid job or if she was from a wealthy family.

Admit it, people don't like taking chances when they have nothing to gain.

UjuJoan2:

I know I may come off as a bit conceited, but I believe strongly in people proving themselves worthy.

crackkhaus:

Really? Conceit?
I sensed no such thing...

However, you are very guilty of being a realist with trace doses of pragmatism... this much is certain.

M00N:


I love myself sweetheart, so why the hate?

baby124:
You need to stop telling all these men about your so called curse. Some women meet men and all of a sudden they become best friends and start talking like tap. There is nothing they cannot say! Why won’t the men run away? Who wants a cursed wife?

If you know where your dad needed to sacrifice that goat you better go and find where to do the ritual so mentally you can be free. Sometimes you need to give to Caesar what belongs to Caesar. Even though I don’t believe in this shits but just do it for your peace of mind to cancel that angle out.

divaluvmiz:
Noted. Thank you

travelland:



Mountain of Fire.

easyconnect:
Some of you claiming we can't marry single mother are not even capable of loving yourself not to talk of loving a single lady. I blame the @op who brought her personal life here in the first place.
You don't need to be sorry. You are harsh already

bukatyne:


Everyone has the right to their choice.

I know a lady who did not marry a single dad even though her own sister was a single mom.

UjuJoan2:


You just have to face facts, being a single mother/father comes with a lot of consequences. Most people would not want to get involved with them.

I remember meeting an OAP when I was single, he was a local celebrity and was all over me. I was even catching feelings and falling for his moves already. He would play me love songs in his morning shows and do 'shout out' to me all day. It was wonderful . . . until I found out he had an 8-YO daughter.

You see I didn't see myself becoming a mother to an 8YO that wasn't mine. I just couldn't.

You can't judge people for the choices they make and the actions they take. That's why when you make a decision, you need to be ready to face the consequences.

UjuJoan2:




I think that is the most important. . . . . You need to love yourself first.

UjuJoan2:

So is that a trace of admiration I sense?

Anyways, thanks a lot for the compliment

UjuJoan2:


You just have to face facts, being a single mother/father comes with a lot of consequences. Most people would not want to get involved with them.

I remember meeting an OAP when I was single, he was a local celebrity and was all over me. I was even catching feelings and falling for his moves already. He would play me love songs in his morning shows and do 'shout out' to me all day. It was wonderful . . . until I found out he had an 8-YO daughter.

You see I didn't see myself becoming a mother to an 8YO that wasn't mine. I just couldn't.

You can't judge people for the choices they make and the actions they take. That's why when you make a decision, you need to be ready to face the consequences.

truthsayer009:


Thank you Sista Mi, people are hypocrites on this app. Which single lady will just carry her fine legs to marry a man with 8year old child, same for Men, why would any man dive into such union.

Most of those men are around her are for free knacks, incase the opportunity arises.

What OP needs now is money to run her business, crowd funding from anywhere she can get.

If i was her, i would use this opportunity to tell people here the kind of business i am into and how they can support me. She is looking for Man that would come and carry all her problems away. Smh.

UjuJoan2:


You just have to face facts, being a single mother/father comes with a lot of consequences. Most people would not want to get involved with them.

I remember meeting an OAP when I was single, he was a local celebrity and was all over me. I was even catching feelings and falling for his moves already. He would play me love songs in his morning shows and do 'shout out' to me all day. It was wonderful . . . until I found out he had an 8-YO daughter.

You see I didn't see myself becoming a mother to an 8YO that wasn't mine. I just couldn't.

You can't judge people for the choices they make and the actions they take. That's why when you make a decision, you need to be ready to face the consequences.

Mariangeles:


Unless the girl's mother is still alive, I'd say you missed out.
All you had to do was give the relationship a chance and tried to know the little girl to see if you bonded...who knows?
Well, you never really loved the guy in the first place.

crackkhaus:

As usual with most of them...

Raalsalghul:


True talk, everyone is entitled to their choice.

Don't know why that easyconnect babe is so worked up.

M00N:


I love myself sweetheart, so why the hate?

bukatyne:


Everyone has the right to their choice.

I know a lady who did not marry a single dad even though her own sister was a single mom.

easyconnect:
Hate for where? If you don't love yourself, who will help you love yourself?

divaluvmiz:
I can't believe I've spent 10 good years of my life without achieving any meaningful thing.
I was young, with great potentials and vision. I graduated early. Everybody wants me, but I don't know how it turn out like this.
I'm 32 already.
I graduated 10 years ago yet, I don't have a good job, I don't have a good marriage.
I felt this is not my life. Is like there's a switch somewhere.
Years ago, my late dad told me to send him my personal earned money so he can use it to buy goat and make some sacrifice to nulify some things on my behalf, otherwise, I would not be able to get a job with my certificate and I can't get married. then I was pregnant and wanted to get married to my child's father who was my friend. but I told my father that i can not do that. Because I'm a child of God and i don't believe in all that. (My dad was not a Christian. He was diabolic) Shortly, he died.

To my greatest surprised, my friend whom we were so much in love, who begged me with everything to keep our first child and not to have an abortion, the same guy who took me to his family and decleared we're having a baby and we wants to get married, left after 7 months into my pregnancy without any reason.

This is 7years already and nothing exciting has happened to me.
The only thing I heard from him, is messages of appology, no fianancia support. Nothing.
Till date, I don't have a meaningful job, I've watched good friends who loved me still walk away to marry some other people.
The last was my best friend who just got married. He told me few days to his wedding how much he loved me.
(What surprised me was: why didn't he tell me all along?) He's been so good to me. Every member of my family know him and they loved him. Nothing he can't do for me.
I had to block him on my phone so he can concentrate on his new life Instead calling me always.
He's not the first person who truly loved me, but can't marry me. I'm always meeting good people, who can walk a mile for me, but they can't marry me for no reason and they can't let me go.
The one I love to be with, always walk away. The one I have no connection, no interest in, are the one around me.

I just woke up and realized that I've really wasted time without achieving anything.

Could it be there are powers beyond God?

Are they prayers God don't answer until we appeal traditional gods?
Are they sin beyound God's forgiveness?
I was innocent and in love, had pre-marital sex and had a baby outside weddlock. Is this beyond God's forgiveness no matter how I tried?
I have been praying and asking God to fix my life even if there's a family course that I knew nothing about. Yet, nothing positive have changed. is there something I'm not doing well?




I feel depressed.
I don't even know how to help myself

M00N:


It seems you are confused that am talking about myself, am talking about you, why are you throwing so much of your hate weight around?

easyconnect:
My dear, good night jare. I don't have enough energy for any dramatic comments here.