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Re: In Marriage - Friendship Or Love by addictiv(m): 9:17pm On Apr 04, 2020 |
You are a man, you re attracted primarily by what u see, before any other thing. Everyman has his definition of beauty and yours entails a lady with light skin. Don't let anyone make u feel bad or guilty for wanting a woman with light skin. The bible requires that a man must first love his wife and the fact that u have 40% love for her is a good thing,love is a feeling of deep affection and it can be grown and cultivated but you will have to change your primary attraction to her to include your friendship with her and how she makes you feel. Because all we want as human beings is to feel good and be appreciated by those we care about. Your lady ll never be light skinned... And you ll always admire other women esp light skinned ones if you guys get married and that's ok because that's how your mind defines beauty. You can't control the influx of thoughts into your mind but you are in control and responsible for your actions. You have something rare which is someone who understands you and makes you feel good. Not many men can boast of that, also know that you can leave her today and find someone else that checks all your boxes but something must give. You can't have it all 100%. Take sometime to evaluate your self. Because if you decide to proceed with her, you ll need discipline and commitment. Somedays the love won't be there but you have to love her anyways. Women flourish when they re loved and cared for. Love is also a choice, you can choose to focus on those things u like about her and build on that. However never choose to stay with her out of pity. If you try and it's not working then you have to let her go.. Cheers 3 Likes |
Re: In Marriage - Friendship Or Love by GboyegaD(m): 9:29pm On Apr 04, 2020 |
I think you need both and you already have a good starting point. The love will grow over time if you are willing to see her as yours and willing to put in your best as every marriage deserves. 4 Likes |
Re: In Marriage - Friendship Or Love by Cara02: 10:11pm On Apr 04, 2020 |
Fabbyking: MARRY your Friend dear op. Please forget about fair skinned ladies,judging from your analysis she is good to go. What else are you looking for? Trust that most guys are looking for which is hard to see in this generation of today is what is been offered and you still after fair skinned ladies. It's seems like you ain't ready for marriage yet,please free the lady let someone who deserves her reciprocates the love. Her Outward Beauty won't cause any ripple.It all in your subconscious,get rid of that notion out of your head.It's really affecting your love from soaring higher. Black skinned ladies are super beautiful and gorgeous � Btw what's the fuss about the fair skinned ladies?(Bleached Ladies no offense). How will marriage lasts these days when the fundamentals of good marriage is been thrown away into the dust while mere physical beauty is the only yardstick used in judging a succesful marriage. |
Re: In Marriage - Friendship Or Love by Fabbyking: 10:59pm On Apr 04, 2020 |
Savvywriteprene: |
Re: In Marriage - Friendship Or Love by Fabbyking: 11:00pm On Apr 04, 2020 |
Savvywriteprene:thanks so much for the advice I will apply it immediately |
Re: In Marriage - Friendship Or Love by zed7: 11:03pm On Apr 04, 2020 |
We love what we love. If light skinned is your preference please go for it. I must also warn you that a beautiful woman who has a horrible personality will start looking ugly to you. Your attraction level is a bit low but maybe with time it may improve as you spend more time together and get to know each other better. However, as a person, I will always choose a woman whom I share alot with and gives me peace over one whom I'm madly attracted to but makes life difficult for me. 2 Likes |
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