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. by Jimasun: 9:25am On Apr 05, 2020
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Re: . by bmdmixer: 9:30am On Apr 05, 2020
MICHAELSERIOUSN:
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y not use it urself

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Re: . by Nobody: 9:33am On Apr 05, 2020
Your mum is sick and all she could think about is that you didn't call?

Is she not supposed to be the one calling ?



Just focus on your mother health. You guys will talk later and probably sort things out

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Re: . by luminouz(m): 9:33am On Apr 05, 2020
A 30 year old man wants advice on how to handle a 22 year old lady despite having a 'jimasun' moniker?


Who will take you seriously bro? undecided

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Re: . by evil1: 9:34am On Apr 05, 2020
You see those two friends they are the board of directors.
Call her and talk sense into her and if she doesn't, my brother abeg free her, girls never finish for Nigeria.
Re: . by DominusPrime: 9:36am On Apr 05, 2020
What came to my mind was she has seen another guy. At 22 most girls are still hoeing around. She's too young to already know what she wants in a man. No sensible mature lady will add to your sorrow at this trying time of your life. She's not meant for you.
That's that about her.
Now for you...you must be a complete weakling. You are really wrapped around her fingers. A girl breaks up with you at this time and instead of you to be pissed you are looking for ways to reconcile. If at all it comes it should be from her and not cos you begged. If you place her over your mother now one day you will place her over your life. When a girl behaves like this at that age it's an avenue to teach her life lessons and not to spoil her even more. She needs a man that will make her a better person and not a simp like u.

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Re: . by Nobody: 9:36am On Apr 05, 2020
We are wired differently..... If you still loves her, try talking it out with her.

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Re: . by Jimasun: 9:38am On Apr 05, 2020
luminouz:
A 30 year old man wants advice on how to handle a 22 year old lady despite having a 'jimasun' moniker?


Who will take you seriously bro? undecided
Lol.
I am not a weak man.
But she did some things for me in the past that makes her special.
She is worth the efforts. Just that I don't know her reason for this.

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Re: . by Jimasun: 9:40am On Apr 05, 2020
DominusPrime:
What came to my mind was she has seen another guy. At 22 most girls are still hoeing around. She's too young to already know what she wants in a man. No sensible mature lady will add to your sorrow at this trying time of your life. She's not meant for you.
That's that about her.
Now for you...you must be a complete weakling. You are really wrapped around her fingers. A girl breaks up with you at this time and instead of you to be pissed you are looking for ways to reconcile. If at all it comes it should be from her and not cos you begged. If you place er over your mother now one day you will place her over your life.
I am not placing her over my mother. That's never going to happen.
If I do, I would now be here with my mother.
Trust me, I am not a weakling.

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Re: . by DominusPrime: 9:42am On Apr 05, 2020
Jimasun:

Lol.
I am not a weak man.
But she did some things for me in the past that makes her special.
She is worth the efforts. Just that I don't know her reason for this.
You probably cut her hymen that's why. The younger they are the more genuine they love but as they get older they become wilder and love becomes less important. Money and good sex take priority over love. Unfortunately you met her at the early stage. Guys who date girls when they are initially good girls end up with the worst heartbreak as they watch the girl go from the saint to a ho.e

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Re: . by DominusPrime: 9:43am On Apr 05, 2020
Jimasun:

I am not placing her over my mother. That's never going to happen.
If I do, I would now be here with my mother.
Trust me, I am not a weakling.
Then forget whatever it is she did and realise that she's changing...ladies grow faster than men.

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Re: . by Jimasun: 9:43am On Apr 05, 2020
evil1:
You see those two friends they are the board of directors.
Call her and talk sense into her and if she doesn't, my brother abeg free her, girls never finish for Nigeria.
Yes. They are part of her problem.
Re: . by Jimasun: 9:45am On Apr 05, 2020
DominusPrime:

Then forget whatever it is she did and realise that she's changing...ladies grow faster than men.
Alright, thanks. I appreciate you
Re: . by Cholls(m): 9:50am On Apr 05, 2020
my brother she's a distraction in your life. why not use the time and energy you use in dating her to further your personal legend.

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Re: . by Jimasun: 9:51am On Apr 05, 2020
Cholls:
my brother she's a distraction in your life. why not use the time energy you use in dating her to further your personal legend.
Hmm

Thanks for the advice.
Re: . by Professorcplus(m): 9:52am On Apr 05, 2020
Oga, life is all about perspective and standard. Human seek for what they desire and try every means to acquire it. When she noticed that she can't find what she desire in a man like you she quit. It's not about the excuse but her being honest. Move on mature lady who deserves you will come.

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Re: . by DominusPrime: 9:53am On Apr 05, 2020
Jimasun:

Alright, thanks. I appreciate you
You welcome sir. Above all teach her to be a better person in life and not pamper her. That's the point I'm trying to make. All the best to both of you.
Re: . by Jimasun: 9:56am On Apr 05, 2020
DominusPrime:

You welcome sir. Above all teach her to be a better person in life and not pamper her. That's the point I'm trying to make. All the best to both of you.
I did made her a better person.
Personal development wise, she herself do extol my efforts
Re: . by DominusPrime: 10:01am On Apr 05, 2020
Jimasun:

I did made her a better person.
Personal development wise, she herself do extol my efforts
Wonderful...keep doing that. The process never stops. If you marry her its gonna be a lifetime necessity that you both develop each other
Re: . by luminouz(m): 10:02am On Apr 05, 2020
Jimasun:

Lol.
I am not a weak man.
But she did some things for me in the past that makes her special.
She is worth the efforts. Just that I don't know her reason for this.

If you dont know @ last sentence...then you no 'Ji' anything..

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Re: . by bigpicture001: 10:03am On Apr 05, 2020
Jimasun:
I don't know how to describe this.
I have a lady I love and also love me.
However, my mother had been ill for sometimes, so I decided to take her to hospital in Lagos as I am the first born.
During the first five days, I couldn't call her as the illness was very serious and took my time. I couldn't even do anything as I was running helter skelter.

I was running up and down. But she did call during this five days twice. But we always chat everyday.
She said it is because she is not part of my life that's why I couldn't remember to call her personally.
She is 22 years old and I am close to 30.
Sincerely she is a good lady because she has done so many things for me.
I was so disturbed that I had to let her be.
My phone was off the second day after she broke up and I saw her message saying she has been calling me just to check up. I asked if she want to reconsider her stance and she said no.
I don't want to keep fighting over her because my mother's illness is draining me and I can't be thinking of two such things at the same time.
But I love her and I feel she still love me.
Note: She has lots of friends she discuss her relationship with and that has always been her major problem.
I need advice on how to handle her.

Note: I have two ex on my neck. But she is the one I love and I don't want to even allow anything to take me back to the arms of these other ladies.

Brother your very girly....just ignore her nd stop picking her calls...

And this is not a strategy to get her back...sh is at the age where gals get toasted by more than 40 guys per day..ur at the age of getting hold of ur life ,stocking up finance and marrying...

Just focus on your major problems...sh might turn around,but if sh doesn't..your age is the perfect t age to get more serious gals in relationship. Except maybe u offer nothing...

Plz leave that " body sweet me " gal alone is sh is still behaving like a child...there are so mny quality gals out there,just keep ur eyes open....

Nd focus more on ur own build up( I don't mean muscle) I mean human capacity...gals would com

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Re: . by Samakus(m): 10:05am On Apr 05, 2020
Jimasun:
I don't know how to describe this.
I have a lady I love and also love me.
However, my mother had been ill for sometimes, so I decided to take her to hospital in Lagos as I am the first born.
During the first five days, I couldn't call her as the illness was very serious and took my time. I couldn't even do anything as I was running helter skelter.

I was running up and down. But she did call during this five days twice. But we always chat everyday.
She said it is because she is not part of my life that's why I couldn't remember to call her personally.
She is 22 years old and I am close to 30.
Sincerely she is a good lady because she has done so many things for me.
I was so disturbed that I had to let her be.
My phone was off the second day after she broke up and I saw her message saying she has been calling me just to check up. I asked if she want to reconsider her stance and she said no.
I don't want to keep fighting over her because my mother's illness is draining me and I can't be thinking of two such things at the same time.
But I love her and I feel she still love me.
Note: She has lots of friends she discuss her relationship with and that has always been her major problem.
I need advice on how to handle her.

Note: I have two ex on my neck. But she is the one I love and I don't want to even allow anything to take me back to the arms of these other ladies.

Girls and entitlement mentality! That's how mine threatened to start 'chatting with other people' if I can't call her for at least 2hrs a day. Mind you, I call her everyday but not more than 10 minutes daily and we chat.

Well, I told her to Bleep off. Since then she's been calling my sisters and complaining. The truth is, if you love a girl more than she loves you and you make her know it, she's gonna ride you and hold you to ransom. You will continue begging and apologising over flimsy things in that relationship.

Man up dude! Look her in her eyes and tell her how you feel. If she wan go, make she go. I for one can't feel scared of losing a lady again in my life. Like, it's your MUM we are talking about here. Who's she to come before your mum? Like, who she be? In fact, WHO YOU? cheesy

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Re: . by KingZaddy(m): 10:10am On Apr 05, 2020
Relax, dont Panic, she Will Return
Re: . by yanabasee(m): 10:12am On Apr 05, 2020
luminouz:
A 30 year old man wants advice on how to handle a 22 year old lady despite having a 'jimasun' moniker?


Who will take you seriously bro? undecided

Me....

Love doesn't look at age and doesn't look at the physical beauties.....


He came to us.... having explained that his beloved mother and girlfriend issues is making him not to think straight....

@OP.... your gf isn't serious about the break up. keep down your pride and call her to come to the hospital to see your mom....

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Re: . by Jimasun: 10:19am On Apr 05, 2020
yanabasee:


Me....

Love doesn't look at age and doesn't look at the physical beauties.....


He came to us.... having explained that his beloved mother and girlfriend issues is making him not to think straight....

@OP.... your gf isn't serious about the break up. keep down your pride and call her to come to the hospital to see your mom....
She sent a message yesterday night that she tried my number to no avail. I thanked her and asked if she want to change her mind. She said no. I don't like pestering ladies.
But what I notice is , if I don't call her in two days, she make drastic efforts to call me.
She is childish but I do overlook her faults because she has an innocent motive.
I am her first man so I kind of have soft spot for her.
Re: . by Biglittlelois(f): 10:27am On Apr 05, 2020
She is really insensitive to your plight which is wrong, she should know that you have to take care of your mum and she can't be your priority for now, let her be.

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Re: . by bigpicture001: 10:32am On Apr 05, 2020
DominusPrime:

You probably cut her hymen that's why. The younger they are the more genuine they love but as they get older they become wilder and love becomes less important. Money and good sex take priority over love. Unfortunately you met her at the early stage. Guys who date girls when they are initially good girls end up with the worst heartbreak as they watch the girl go from the saint to a ho.e

You are excellently spot on....
Re: . by Tajbol4splend(m): 10:33am On Apr 05, 2020
You are dating infant
Re: . by Headlesschicken(m): 10:43am On Apr 05, 2020
undecided Yuh mother is sick and yuh busy worried about a common girlfriend...

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Re: . by luminouz(m): 10:44am On Apr 05, 2020
yanabasee:


Me....

Love doesn't look at age and doesn't look at the physical beauties.....


He came to us.... having explained that his beloved mother and girlfriend issues is making him not to think straight....

@OP.... your gf isn't serious about the break up. keep down your pride and call her to come to the hospital to see your mom....


I dont have issues with their ages. But isn't the next step to take glaring to you? His mum was sick and despite still chatting with his gf, she called off stuff based on no-calls only? undecided



If OP was you, will you come online and ask for advice on WHAT TO DO WITH THE SCENARIO I PAINTED ABOVE?
Re: . by Jimasun: 10:46am On Apr 05, 2020
Headlesschicken:
undecided Yuh mother is sick and yuh busy worried about a common girlfriend...
I am worried about my mother. And I have been up to the task of taking care of my mother.
Was just surprised at her insensitivity or whatever it is

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