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Attention Problems. by Allaboutkatiee(f): 9:11am On Apr 15, 2020
Hello people.
I have this problem of not been able to handle attention. In otherwords whenever someone starts showing me too much affection I tend to loose the initial attraction.
It's a problem that has been reoccurring for a long while.
And when I stop getting those attentions,I start feeling bad and try to find a way to get it back.
I really need your thoughts and advice on how to tackle this problem.
Thanks.

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Re: Attention Problems. by Oluromantic: 9:21am On Apr 15, 2020
All this teenage and early 20s girls. Everything about your account sef shows you're young in age n mind. Look around you, you hold up hostile standards and you expect to keep having attention...

Personal text.."don't mess with me"
Signature..."closed up"

Are you in a battle with someone you've not met before? The only reason you get those attention you later lose is bcus of ur beauty (which will not even last forever). Beauty will get a man's attention but much more than beauty is needed to keep the attention. When the men succumb to ur beauty as a young girl and realize you're childish, what's the essence of remaining there.

But don't worry, you won't be like that forever, when you get to age 35 still single and you have not changed, you can call me a bastard

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Re: Attention Problems. by Nairalandmonika: 9:31am On Apr 15, 2020
I think all girl are like this. Until they start getting close to 27, 28 b4 them go start to wise.

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Re: Attention Problems. by Albertone(m): 9:34am On Apr 15, 2020
I thought and thought and thought.....i can't seem to know where that problem comes from.

Modified:
Maybe you are not ready for a relationship yet.Try and take a break from relationships till you are at least 25
Re: Attention Problems. by JONNYSPUTE(m): 10:06am On Apr 15, 2020
Allaboutkatiee:
Hello people.
I have this problem of not been able to handle attention. In otherwords whenever someone starts showing me too much affection I tend to loose the initial attraction.
It's a problem that has been reoccurring for a long while.
And when I stop getting those attentions,I start feeling bad and try to find a way to get it back.
I really need your thoughts and advice on how to tackle this problem.
Thanks.
... Open up and your problem is solved.
Re: Attention Problems. by SenecaTheYonger: 10:08am On Apr 15, 2020
Allaboutkatiee:
Hello people.
I have this problem of not been able to handle attention. In otherwords whenever someone starts showing me too much affection I tend to loose the initial attraction.
It's a problem that has been reoccurring for a long while.
And when I stop getting those attentions,I start feeling bad and try to find a way to get it back.
I really need your thoughts and advice on how to tackle this problem.
Thanks.


Are you a virgo?
Re: Attention Problems. by Allaboutkatiee(f): 10:25am On Apr 15, 2020
SenecaTheYonger:



Are you a virgo?

A gemini actually
How does it relate though?
Re: Attention Problems. by Allaboutkatiee(f): 10:30am On Apr 15, 2020
Oluromantic:
All this teenage and early 20s girls. Everything about your account sef shows you're young in age n mind. Look around you, you hold up hostile standards and you expect to keep having attention...

Personal text.."don't mess with me"
Signature..."closed up"

Are you in a battle with someone you've not met before? The only reason you get those attention you later lose is bcus of ur beauty (which will not even last forever). Beauty will get a man's attention but much more than beauty is needed to keep the attention. When the men succumb to ur beauty as a young girl and realizes you're childish, what's the essence of remaining there.

But don't worry, you won't be like that forever, when you get to age 35 still single and you have not changed, you can call me a bastard

Lol Are you sure you read the thread atall?
And about my signature or personal text,I have personal reasons for putting them there. undecided
Re: Attention Problems. by Oluromantic: 10:38am On Apr 15, 2020
Allaboutkatiee:


Lol Are you sure you read the thread atall?
And about my signature or personal text,I have personal reasons for putting them there. undecided
Another confirmation

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Re: Attention Problems. by Allaboutkatiee(f): 10:57am On Apr 15, 2020
Oluromantic:

Another confirmation

I'm actually trying to know why I loose feelings easily and you are giving me off points. sad
Re: Attention Problems. by Oluromantic: 10:58am On Apr 15, 2020
Allaboutkatiee:


I'm actually trying to know why I loose feelings easily and you are giving me off points. sad
Theres no hope of you knowing in the next 12months. You're too closed-minded to see it even when it glares

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Re: Attention Problems. by 2dice01: 11:11am On Apr 15, 2020
You have to love yourself first Before you can learn how to love others
Those attractions you are feeling might be infatuation
None of those Boys have been able to Press your Mumu Button grin
Re: Attention Problems. by Allaboutkatiee(f): 11:17am On Apr 15, 2020
Albertone:
I thought and thought and thought.....i can't seem to know where that problem comes from.

Modified:
Maybe you are not ready for a relationship yet.Try and take a break from relationships till you are at least 25

Nice idea
Would keep that in mind smiley

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Re: Attention Problems. by Stevyne: 11:22am On Apr 15, 2020
Allaboutkatiee:


Nice idea
Would keep that in mind smiley
Hmmm.. You not doing bad actually
Hit me up let's talk.
Re: Attention Problems. by zexy2030(m): 11:49am On Apr 15, 2020
Allaboutkatiee:
Hello people.
I have this problem of not been able to handle attention. In otherwords whenever someone starts showing me too much affection I tend to loose the initial attraction.
It's a problem that has been reoccurring for a long while.
And when I stop getting those attentions,I start feeling bad and try to find a way to get it back.
I really need your thoughts and advice on how to tackle this problem.
Thanks.
Nothing is wrong with that dear. Do what is comfortable for you. its an orientation women with good self esteem have. Don't feel bad, friend zone guys like this, return calls sometimes, don't pick their calls, decline their gifts sometimes, but reduce or avoid intimacy. Have plenty male friends, friend zone the emotional one.

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Re: Attention Problems. by Grandamante: 12:19pm On Apr 15, 2020
It may not be ur fault. Many guys are so cheap with their attention, that it becomes worthless and less interesting.
Re: Attention Problems. by Albertone(m): 12:19pm On Apr 15, 2020
zexy2030:

Nothing is wrong with that dear. Do what is comfortable for you. its an orientation women with good self esteem have. Don't feel bad, friend zone guys like this, return calls sometimes, don't pick their calls, decline their gifts sometimes, but reduce or avoid intimacy. Have plenty male friends, friend zone the emotional one.
What are you saying?
Most of the things you mentioned up there, are they good characteristics of a normal lady?



Unless you are trying to be sarcastic.....

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Re: Attention Problems. by T3ndrils: 8:34pm On Apr 15, 2020
Albertone:
What are you saying?
Most of the things you mentioned up there, are they good characteristics of a normal lady?



Unless you are trying to be sarcastic.....

The guy's a simp...
He's probably trying to have his own share by asslicking the confused fellow... Dude even asslicked to the point of advising her to friendzone some set of people not knowing he's a complete example of friendzone material himself.

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Re: Attention Problems. by samdavjustin(m): 9:13pm On Apr 15, 2020
There is nothing wrong with you yet after all your young so that’s expected. By the time you start hitting menopause and single your brain will factory reset. My advice try harder to keep friends by making little chats and calls that’s if you like them ofcourse.

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Re: Attention Problems. by Freelane33(m): 3:42pm On Apr 30, 2020
Make friends with them first ( for like 2 to 3 months ) with no string attached and then decide weda to go in fully or not if you think it worth going it . Your emotional quotient is above 60 that’s why things are always like that for you . Try that method and feed me back if you can .jah bless
Re: Attention Problems. by blackgold2018(m): 4:08pm On Apr 30, 2020
Oluromantic:

Theres no hope of you knowing in the next 12months. You're too closed-minded to see it even when it glares
lol.. I'm telling you. Advise that fool from now till tomorrow, she will never understand you.

Almighty God I pray for self-wisdom and knowledge for my future daughters at early age.

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Re: Attention Problems. by Oladops50(m): 6:46pm On Apr 30, 2020
I believe attention should be earned and probably be given when needed,not the way some guys do it( no offense ),when they catch feelings and the girl later abuse it.
And what you are going through my dear is totally normal, some people just don’t like too much attention for example yourself . I think the best thing is to find someone who doesn’t give you much attend like doesn’t have time for you and rather you are one giving the attention to that person, and when the person finally gives you small attention, you will cherish it!�

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Re: Attention Problems. by Realmenlovetruly(m): 7:09pm On Apr 30, 2020
Dont used to comment on threads anyhow


But i love the way this girl open up


Guys learn this "Giving too much attention to a lady you love will makes her really think you dont have any good things doing especially those immature young girls


And this will make her to be chasing those guys that doesnt give a Bleep about her


I think the rule is "We want who doesnt want us"


There are lot to say on this

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Re: Attention Problems. by Allaboutkatiee(f): 8:24pm On Apr 30, 2020
Freelane33:
Make friends with them first ( for like 2 to 3 months ) with no string attached and then decide weda to go in fully or not if you think it worth going it . Your emotional quotient is above 60 that’s why things are always like that for you . Try that method and feed me back if you can .jah bless

Wow I never thought to the part of my emotional quotient.
Thanks still.
Re: Attention Problems. by Nobody: 9:50pm On Apr 30, 2020
Damn, I feel the same here too.
Re: Attention Problems. by Nobody: 9:51pm On Apr 30, 2020
Oluromantic:
All this teenage and early 20s girls. Everything about your account sef shows you're young in age n mind. Look around you, you hold up hostile standards and you expect to keep having attention...

Personal text.."don't mess with me"
Signature..."closed up"

Are you in a battle with someone you've not met before? The only reason you get those attention you later lose is bcus of ur beauty (which will not even last forever). Beauty will get a man's attention but much more than beauty is needed to keep the attention. When the men succumb to ur beauty as a young girl and realize you're childish, what's the essence of remaining there.

But don't worry, you won't be like that forever, when you get to age 35 still single and you have not changed, you can call me a bastard

grin

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Re: Attention Problems. by Oluromantic: 11:40pm On Apr 30, 2020
cchub:


grin
Yes bro. I hit the nail at all times. Life is more beautiful when you go out your way to attend to others even for romance sake no matter the gender... that's maturity. It doesn't mean you don't have work. And not waiting for the attention to come to you.. that alone is childish let alone being hostile till you lose the attention.. that's foolish. Not seeing it as wrong or not admiting a change in lifestyle is needed towards maturity... that is stupid!

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Re: Attention Problems. by Youngpo413: 9:08am On May 08, 2020
Allaboutkatiee:


A gemini actually
How does it relate though?
happens to all the time,immediately a lady shows interest,I loose mine instantly! But I will chase the 'un-interested' ones for about 7 days before I FINALLY give up....I was born on May 21st and I don't really know if I'm a Gemini,Aquarium or Saturn,please enlighten on those 'things'
Re: Attention Problems. by nuelsam: 10:08am On May 08, 2020
Oluromantic:

Theres no hope of you knowing in the next 12months. You're too closed-minded to see it even when it glares
u so mean bruv lol

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Re: Attention Problems. by Rawhumper(m): 7:18pm On May 21, 2020
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You are the type that get attracted to snobbish guys....i know your type.

If its in class,dont even send her or look in her way like whst encountered today i was in an office,a girl walked in and started gisting and playing with almost all d guys there.I didnt even send her or laughed when she cracked jokes.

I avoided her eye contact,from sideview i noticed she started looking at my way las las she asked one of d guys things about me.

So i think your type is total snobbing will be d best answer to get ur lasting attention.










quote author=Allaboutkatiee post=88461096]Hello people.
I have this problem of not been able to handle attention. In otherwords whenever someone starts showing me too much affection I tend to loose the initial attraction.
It's a problem that has been reoccurring for a long while.
And when I stop getting those attentions,I start feeling bad and try to find a way to get it back.
I really need your thoughts and advice on how to tackle this problem.
Thanks.[/quote]

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Re: Attention Problems. by Rawhumper(m): 7:21pm On May 21, 2020
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You made a strong point bro....its another fact but most young gitls of nowadays really like fun and fine guys(in practise) but in words they say its money.












quote author=Oluromantic post=88461416]All this teenage and early 20s girls. Everything about your account sef shows you're young in age n mind. Look around you, you hold up hostile standards and you expect to keep having attention...

Personal text.."don't mess with me"
Signature..."closed up"

Are you in a battle with someone you've not met before? The only reason you get those attention you later lose is bcus of ur beauty (which will not even last forever). Beauty will get a man's attention but much more than beauty is needed to keep the attention. When the men succumb to ur beauty as a young girl and realize you're childish, what's the essence of remaining there.

But don't worry, you won't be like that forever, when you get to age 35 still single and you have not changed, you can call me a bastard[/quote]

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