Jaymoon:
@op, I would advice you run o, in the long run love is not always enough to sustain you in the relationship.

My elder sister is in this kind of relationship with her husband family, my sister the story long o, my sister is regretting it daily, the marriage has crumble due to pressure and her inability to bear children,the story long oh, my sister.

Dear op don't waste your youthful age on parasitic relationship borrow leg and run, a word is enough for the wise. ( Aboro die lan so fun omo oluwabi to ba de nu adodin di.)

2buffagain:


These days, no be even first born dey carry load again like OP mentioned.
Some first borns dey part of the problem, dey reach for last born money.
No too be their fault, but one thing I have seen time and time again is that when family members see that you have money, they become complicit with the knowledge that you will always help them when they come calling.

You have to shock them with "No" sometimes.
Some family members even just refuse to find work or match their expenses when they see that you are their cash cow.

SweetCunt97:
Reverse is the case. Right from time immemorial women spend men's money and the man should b a man and know how to handle the situation. Her crime is being extravagant but this male in question has older sibling leeching off him and him leeching off the op.

SweetCunt97:
Beg for?

Punchline33:
What if tables turn tomorrow and he has to depend on them? It might not be financial anyway. Family is family. If ur man loves u, just stick with him and help him manage his funds better.

Alwaysachick:
The sad truth here is that, he will not marry you eventually.

Once he is financially stable, he will discharge you and marry a fresh virgin. Op I hope you have not been throwing your eggs away? Is that his hold on you? Its never too late to run except you have a rich father that has included your name in his will and assign an Estate to your name

hennylove:
Don't ever marry a man that financially depends on you. It will continue and get worse and you will start disliking him until you fall out of love. Men should for self respect not be asking for money from their gal friends or wife

vickydevoka:

If everybody de think lyk u marriage no go ever hold. Person spend over 5 million naira on a lady way him never marry. Wat if de lady leaves him to marry a fyn rich guy

truthsayer009:

I didn't say that o, but all of his attention will be on his family.... His family comes first....
So you mean your Man did nothing, absolutely nothing for you. Never buys you anything, not a Gift, Present, Food, No financial support at all?

Habba! Fear God na! Fear the Lord all mighty. Fear God Sister.

Macktaob:

I can't keep quoting you man . I hardly comment here but you got me 3 straight already with your unforeseen jabs

She gave the lady a good advice thou but just, it shows how much it ain't "do unto me what I do unto you" for her. Tit for tat is a crime in Nigerian women's world.

vickydevoka:

If everybody de think lyk u marriage no go ever hold. Person spend over 5 million naira on a lady way him never marry. Wat if de lady leaves him to marry a fyn rich guy

Harllaby:

Imagine. But ladies can ask for money from guys 24 hrs into relationship abi?

vickydevoka:

Aunty things have changed na. Woman ar more employed Dan men. My father will happily pay all de bills buh same can't be said with my brother,y bcus de wife works n received over 200k, de must share bills equally because de are marrying each other.

vickydevoka:
People are forgetting de looks. Wat of de guy is very fair n handsome n de babe is black n ugly. It will be very difficult for her to leave.
I nairaland people will say looks doesn't matter buh in reality it matters.
A black n average looking gal is always comfortable marrying a Fair handsome looking man, though not every gal.
So dats y de babe is till with him, my senseless sensible opinion though

Punchline33:
What if tables turn tomorrow and he has to depend on them? It might not be financial anyway. Family is family. If ur man loves u, just stick with him and help him manage his funds better.

Ishilove:
Chai! May God deliver us from shameless men who see nothing wrong in borrowing from a woman without repaying.

See, if I were you, talk to your legs otherwise you will just get old before your time if you make the mistake of marrying him.

Samakus:


For dick of course

jaksmillioniar:
so u want to marry him and keep him alone dats wicked. his older one dont have today dont mean dey wont have tomoro.let ur heart be clean

mrblessed:
There is always a contrived fuss when a man is at the receiving end, but if it is a woman, it suddenly becomes the man's obligation. You have got two problems: a man who is the breadwinner of his family and his seemingly endless borrowing disposition.

My instinct tells me that, you resent his family's financial standing and, of course, will latch on any spurious reason to bolt. More so, the bleating of bimbos of Nairaland are united -- as always -- in an overwhelming demand for termination of the relationship. Be my guest!

VivleBriella:
Good day everyone

I've been a guest for a couple of years now, created an account to seek advice

My dear nairalanders, does it always end well marrying the Breadwinner of a family? He's the last born with 4 elder siblings but they all depend on him.

Yes, I knew he was the Breadwinner from day one but I thought with time, everyone else will be able to stand on their own, but it hasn't happened yet, we've dated for 3yrs now and he doesn't support me financially. I don't complain but he feels entitled to my money and when I get tired of him always asking me to lend him some money and decide to say no, he nags and tells me I'm not being supportive enough.

This is driving me really crazy cause he reminded me of how unsupportive I've been to him and his family, he's driving me insane, you can't possibly put the responsibility of your family on my shoulders, that's crazy and insensitive, over the years, I've borrowed him nothing less than 500k which I know for sure he's never giving back.

Is it normal to be in a parasitic relationship whereby the female remains the host that's being fed on?

I'm only 24 while he's 31.

VivleBriella:
Good day everyone

I've been a guest for a couple of years now, created an account to seek advice

My dear nairalanders, does it always end well marrying the Breadwinner of a family? He's the last born with 4 elder siblings but they all depend on him.

Yes, I knew he was the Breadwinner from day one but I thought with time, everyone else will be able to stand on their own, but it hasn't happened yet, we've dated for 3yrs now and he doesn't support me financially. I don't complain but he feels entitled to my money and when I get tired of him always asking me to lend him some money and decide to say no, he nags and tells me I'm not being supportive enough.

This is driving me really crazy cause he reminded me of how unsupportive I've been to him and his family, he's driving me insane, you can't possibly put the responsibility of your family on my shoulders, that's crazy and insensitive, over the years, I've borrowed him nothing less than 500k which I know for sure he's never giving back.

Is it normal to be in a parasitic relationship whereby the female remains the host that's being fed on?

I'm only 24 while he's 31.

SweetCunt97:
So because she's black and ugly she should b giving the lazy man money back to back? Money he never returns? Abegi