You need a fresh start. Get a new wife and start a new family.
It's too late to do anything about your present family

Go for DNA Test too.

Just try and be the best to your family, even your children will see it and feel it, nobody can make them hate u

Some people dey try sha o. No matter how bad it is I can never bring my family problem to a social platform like this. Some people fit even abuse u join

Don't allow them turn you to mumu.

1. I will advise you to be the change.

2. You need to stop being reactional, just swallow the insults like its nothing.

3. If you are a Christian, get serious with God, move closer to God, be prayerful at home, ask the Holy Spirit to help you to get your family back.

4. Ensure you are done with any with anything bad, I am sure testimonies awaits you

You are are a very selfish person

Jim99:



Don't force it man. It'll come naturally at the later stages.

You married a bad woman, unfortunately. So I'll advise you divorce her and relocate permanently if you value your health cuz you might end up developing a high blood pressure thinking about it.

Your happiness and health should be your number 1 priority right now. Cuz life would go on for them with or without you.

Do what makes you happy, call your kids or visit them from time to time. It's your life, they are just part of your journey through life.

The most important part of your life is yourself, not your job, kids or wife.

Ironic:
D'fvq did I just read? Like, you'll send your kids on an errand, your wife will stop them and you won't do anything?

Like, you don't flog your kids?
You fvckin claiming Western pattern of raising kids by being a simp to them all to be tagged a modern dad?
You gotta be a typical African dad asap!

Bruv, the first thing you need to do now is to make them to be scared of you. Very necessary at this point.

Next time you send any of them message and he/she refuses because of your wife, flog the hell out of that one, if your wife tries to misbehave, flog her too with well-deserved uppercut and smackdown. If possible, stop eating her food because she's capable of doing something unexpected with what you eat.

They'll become scared of your recent behavior and adjust. Strict dads keep the best, calm and organized home.

What next? Your wife will try to manipulate them by using your new attitude towards them. Keep being strict towards them and still do your fatherly works towards them.

Trust me, you need to go very hard right now since your soft ways ain't working.

Mothers manipulations towards their kids against their dad can only function when they are tender, when they grow, they MUST know the truth and the mum will be at the loosing end.

If you don't have the mind to do what I've advised--Divorce your wife. You can't keep housing a demon who's quick to use your kids against you because she's closer to them.

jeez bro u are so on point like am so angry right now reading this...flog the hell out of the damn child...who born monkey,if d mama jump she too go collect i swear coordination go return

Its called family politics, its every where stop forming strong man mellow down and shift on some grounds,

The Lord will restore your home.


The Lord be with you and your family.

Amen.

Dande55:
Lol. You cheated on your wife with 3 different ladies, only God knows how long each cheating lasted. The time you were meant to be close to your children, you relegated all those duties to your wife. Now, she has 100% of their audience. And you think, Those times she cried and wept in front of those kids, that they aren't aware what's going on? You think they weren't building up grudges against You? Lool
This is the wicked mistake some of you men make, leaving your wives to train the kids alone and then, when they must have grown, you think you will just manipulate them and just have your way with them that easy?
And upon that, you had a child outside with another woman. Most of these men telling you to do this or that wouldn't have taking it lightly if this story was from the opposite gender cheating and having kids outside their home.


You've not seen anything, you will see worse when the children might have grown. You will shed blood, you will have a share of the tears you caused that poor innocent woman. Her anger on you reçently is caused by accumulated grudges she had for you all these years of your cheating and maltreating.

For you to make it work, you have to prove yourself to your wife and kids. Let them sincerely see you've changed. Cos, running out of your home gave them the impression that you must have gone to see your girlfriends as usual, reason they ignored you.
Work on your family cos you've failed your wife and kids.


Btw, women, have your own money, the op is still respecting the wife cos he knows that she's capable of fending for her kids and still living her life uniterupted if anything goes South.

End of discussion. Nothing else to add

Paul8000:
Good evening ladies and gents...

My name is Paul, I am married to my beautiful wife Vivian by name for the past 16 years . We have 5 wonderful children together Jemima 15, Isaac 12, Elizabeth 9, Samuel 6 and Tabitha 3. We are based in Liberia. We both are working and earning well by God grace. I have few issues with my wife that brought me here to get some advice.

Anytime my wife and I had some misunderstanding, she does involve the children. The oldest 3 she tells them everything including how I cheated on her, she also feed them with lies that I am a bad man and I want to kills her. She tells them so many things to make them hate me. They will disrespect and keeping malice with me to the extend of if I send them for errands, she will stop them and tell them not to go. No matter how much I shouted at them to go, they will not obey me because their mother has the final say. For example my wife and I are having some misunderstandings for over 3 weeks now, we are not talking or sleeping in the same room. I have tried to makes things works for us but she refused.

The children are also keeping malice with me. I sent Elizabeth to go and get some water for me, she obeyed and went to the kitchen, few moments later she came back empty handed staring at me in shock. I asked her what about the water she said her mother said I should go in the kitchen to get the water myself . At that moment I just couldn’t take it anymore I exploded in anger I went to the kitchen we had a heated arguments she pour water on me I really wanted to hit her so hard but I control my anger and walked away.

I left the house for 3 days to cool down. because I was so angry with her I just wanted to be alone. I then went home after 3 days,my 3 oldest children acted like they hadn’t seen me they were busy with their phone/ tablets and it was only my 2 youngest that were missing me they both hugged me like never before me. My youngest daughter refuse to leave my room she even slept in my room. I could see how much she misses me. My wife on her side acted like nothing too her normal behaviour as usual . For the sake of my 2 youngest children I sat her down and talked with her. How we should makes things better for the sake of our children especially the younger ones.

I have apologized to her on my knees all to no avail. I am tired of my wife turning my children against me they have becoming out of control ... I can’t correct them it pains me a lot to see my own children disrespecting me. I don’t want them to grow up and hate me all their life I want to have my family back. A happy home how we used to be before but my wife don’t want to cooperate with me I thought this lock-down will bring us together so we could sorted out our differences and fix our marriage to become better but all to no avail.

I am writing this sitting inside my car in the compound because I can’t even go inside the house because I have nobody to talk to my 2 youngest children that keeps me busy are asleep. I am so lonely all alone please how can I put an end to all this I am fed up ...

Anyone who has ever experienced something like this can you please advice me on how did you overcome this. I hope I was brief enough...

Ayam 38
I get my own house
I get 2 cars
I get MSC degree
I get job

But marriage na the thing. Wey scare me pass. Day tin ehnn na trap for men

Marriage na evil trap

So many advices, wait until una jam witch as wife. The truth is that a bad wife is a bad wife. Nothing can change her.

I have seen something like this. At the very last minute, in old age o the man sold his house without the wife or the children knowing.

He took the money and went and married a younger woman. The kids took him to court when the man tabled the whole matter in court everybody blamed the wife and children and told them nothing could be done cos the man simply sold his property.

He is dead today Sha but the kids are just roaming.

just make money first is all that matters.

when you are done making money, then just marry a liability and raise kids.

dont look at your age, is just a number.

nah poor parent dey look up to their children at old age.

if you make money, you will still have enough to leave behind for them.

dont let any wife or woman share your responsibilities with you period.

DanseMacabre:


Bros for this time and age Like say you wan old quick quick o.

Gracealone:
The main issue that may make your wife disrespect you is your lack of money. If you are the breadwinner, it cannot be this bad.

Forget o some women are terrible. I can say my landlady does that alot. I am not in their house, but I can say she is not training her children well. The one with sense just has sense on her own and not by training. The son is nothing to write home about. This is a boy of age 10 to 13years.

Paul8000:
Good evening ladies and gents...

My name is Paul, I am married to my beautiful wife Vivian by name for the past 16 years . We have 5 wonderful children together Jemima 15, Isaac 12, Elizabeth 9, Samuel 6 and Tabitha 3. We are based in Liberia. We were both are working and earning well by God grace. I have few issues with my wife that brought me here to get some advice.

Anytime my wife and I had some misunderstanding, she does involve the children. The oldest 3 she tells them everything including how I cheated on her, she also feed them with lies that I am a bad man and I want to kills her. She tells them so many things to make them hate me. They will disrespect and keeping malice with me to the extend of if I send them for errands, she will stop them and tell them not to go. No matter how much I shouted at them to go, they will not obey me because their mother has the final say. For example my wife and I are having some misunderstandings for over 3 weeks now, we are not talking or sleeping in the same room. I have tried to makes things works for us but she refused.

The children are also keeping malice with me. I sent Elizabeth to go and get some water for me, she obeyed and went to the kitchen, few moments later she came back empty handed staring at me in shock. I asked her what about the water she said her mother said I should go in the kitchen to get the water myself . At that moment I just couldn’t take it anymore I exploded in anger I went to the kitchen we had a heated arguments she pour water on me I really wanted to hit her so hard but I control my anger and walked away.

I left the house for 3 days to cool down. because I was so angry with her I just wanted to be alone. I then went home after 3 days,my 3 oldest children acted like they hadn’t seen me they were busy with their phone/ tablets and it was only my 2 youngest that were missing me they both hugged me like never before me. My youngest daughter refuse to leave my room she even slept in my room. I could see how much she misses me. My wife on her side acted like nothing too her normal behaviour as usual . For the sake of my 2 youngest children I sat her down and talked with her. How we should makes things better for the sake of our children especially the younger ones.

I have apologized to her on my knees all to no avail. I am tired of my wife turning my children against me they have becoming out of control ... I can’t correct them it pains me a lot to see my own children disrespecting me. I don’t want them to grow up and hate me all their life I want to have my family back. A happy home how we used to be before but my wife don’t want to cooperate with me I thought this lock-down will bring us together so we could sorted out our differences and fix our marriage to become better but all to no avail.

I am writing this sitting inside my car in the compound because I can’t even go inside the house because I have nobody to talk to my 2 youngest children that keeps me busy are asleep. I am so lonely all alone please how can I put an end to all this I am fed up ...

Anyone who has ever experienced something like this can you please advice me on how did you overcome this. I hope I was brief enough...

Oga your solution is easy , it's clear that your wife has one working method of getting to you and she see that it works which is your children ,so get your children and render her weaponless .how
1. Take them out without their mother knowing make sure you spoil them
2. Select a routine day to take out your most behaved kid and whenever you do that spoil that child so well that when he goes home the other kids will see the gifts and make it a known routine like every Friday so that the children can anticipate with good behaviors ,then talk with your children when you take them out tell them about your wrongs and how sorry you are in fact if you can fake tears cause your wife is doing that, you will get to hear from your children what she has been feed them and correct it.
3.if you are broke and can't afford this method get in touch with people to help you cause in the long run your children mental health is at stake

Paul8000:
Good evening ladies and gents...

My name is Paul, I am married to my beautiful wife Vivian by name for the past 16 years . We have 5 wonderful children together Jemima 15, Isaac 12, Elizabeth 9, Samuel 6 and Tabitha 3. We are based in Liberia. We were both are working and earning well by God grace. I have few issues with my wife that brought me here to get some advice.

Anytime my wife and I had some misunderstanding, she does involve the children. The oldest 3 she tells them everything including how I cheated on her, she also feed them with lies that I am a bad man and I want to kills her. She tells them so many things to make them hate me. They will disrespect and keeping malice with me to the extend of if I send them for errands, she will stop them and tell them not to go. No matter how much I shouted at them to go, they will not obey me because their mother has the final say. For example my wife and I are having some misunderstandings for over 3 weeks now, we are not talking or sleeping in the same room. I have tried to makes things works for us but she refused.

The children are also keeping malice with me. I sent Elizabeth to go and get some water for me, she obeyed and went to the kitchen, few moments later she came back empty handed staring at me in shock. I asked her what about the water she said her mother said I should go in the kitchen to get the water myself . At that moment I just couldn’t take it anymore I exploded in anger I went to the kitchen we had a heated arguments she pour water on me I really wanted to hit her so hard but I control my anger and walked away.

I left the house for 3 days to cool down. because I was so angry with her I just wanted to be alone. I then went home after 3 days,my 3 oldest children acted like they hadn’t seen me they were busy with their phone/ tablets and it was only my 2 youngest that were missing me they both hugged me like never before me. My youngest daughter refuse to leave my room she even slept in my room. I could see how much she misses me. My wife on her side acted like nothing too her normal behaviour as usual . For the sake of my 2 youngest children I sat her down and talked with her. How we should makes things better for the sake of our children especially the younger ones.

I have apologized to her on my knees all to no avail. I am tired of my wife turning my children against me they have becoming out of control ... I can’t correct them it pains me a lot to see my own children disrespecting me. I don’t want them to grow up and hate me all their life I want to have my family back. A happy home how we used to be before but my wife don’t want to cooperate with me I thought this lock-down will bring us together so we could sorted out our differences and fix our marriage to become better but all to no avail.

I am writing this sitting inside my car in the compound because I can’t even go inside the house because I have nobody to talk to my 2 youngest children that keeps me busy are asleep. I am so lonely all alone please how can I put an end to all this I am fed up ...

Anyone who has ever experienced something like this can you please advice me on how did you overcome this. I hope I was brief enough...

Oga your solution is easy , it's clear that your wife has one working method of getting to you and she see that it works which is your children ,so get your children and render her weaponless .how
1. Take them out without their mother knowing make sure you spoil them
2. Select a routine day to take out your most behaved kid and whenever you do that spoil that child so well that when he goes home the other kids will see the gifts and make it a known routine like every Friday so that the children can anticipate with good behaviors ,then talk with your children when you take them out tell them about your wrongs and how sorry you are in fact if you can fake tears cause your wife is doing that, you will get to hear from your children what she has been feed them and correct it.
3.if you are broke and can't afford this method get in touch with people to help you cause in the long run your children mental health is at stake

bukatyne:
@Paul8000:

There are two issues:

1. You do not have a good relationship with your wife

2. You do not have a good relationship with your kids: you were not involved in their upbringing. The last two like you because they are young and unaware of their surroundings. As soon as their mom can influence them, you will lose them also.

A. First, you address the kids individually as follows:
1. Engage them as adults. Tell them you love them, care for them etc. and as their father, they have to respect and obey you in return. If your life is a reflection of your religion, you should make a parallel between you as a father and God/Allah as our father.

2. Tell them that you are not perfect and would have tussle with their mother however, it is not in their place to support their mother (except you are endangering her life) and they should always respect you.

3. Understand their peculiar challenges and address them.

B. Engage your wife and allow her air any grievance she has. You mentioned she told the kids you cheated, did you?
Address the grievance one after the other and also tell her your own grievance.

Thereafter, tell her that you both MUST have a joint agreement on discipline and training for the kids. If she has any reservations on what you do, she should address it with you in private. Ditto you too. Tell her to also stop discussing your shortcomings with the kids. She should address you, in private.

Then you gather your family together and address them. Lay down ground rules and create family bonding times through meals and prayers.

You also need to live a life of example and honor to your kids especially.

It is very shameful for you the husband of the home to be sitting cowardly in the car because you have a bitter wife (which may be your doing) and unruly children.

I have two threads: one on fatherhood and another on husbandhood.

Goodluck Mr. Paul

this person have given u the simple solution. Remove your pride and act on this accordingly. Negotiate with your children, beg them for forgiveness, treat them with love and kindness, also tell them the truth about the issues between you and your wife. Finally be a good man, a good role model and give them something they can respect u for.

U r very right.I hate nonsense...dat woman need serious beating

Ironic:
D'fvq did I just read? Like, you'll send your kids on an errand, your wife will stop them and you won't do anything?

Like, you don't flog your kids?
You fvckin claiming Western pattern of raising kids by being a simp to them all to be tagged a modern dad?
You gotta be a typical African dad asap!

Bruv, the first thing you need to do now is to make them to be scared of you. Very necessary at this point.

Next time you send any of them message and he/she refuses because of your wife, flog the hell out of that one, if your wife tries to misbehave, flog her too with well-deserved uppercut and smackdown. If possible, stop eating her food because she's capable of doing something unexpected with what you eat.

They'll become scared of your recent behavior and adjust. Strict dads keep the best, calm and organized home.

What next? Your wife will try to manipulate them by using your new attitude towards them. Keep being strict towards them and still do your fatherly works towards them.

Trust me, you need to go very hard right now since your soft ways ain't working.

Mothers manipulations towards their kids against their dad can only function when they are tender, when they grow, they MUST know the truth and the mum will be at the loosing end.

If you don't have the mind to do what I've advised--Divorce your wife. You can't keep housing a demon who's quick to use your kids against you because she's closer to them.

With all due respect, I think that your suggestion will ignite more trouble. He has to find ways to win back the hearts of his children asap.

chamber2:
Not to blame you but you failed ab initio to instill discipline and mutual respect in your home. See, dem no born any of my children, including my wife, to disrespect me. I will address it instanta!

See, if you condole a bad behavior it becomes a tradition. You need to be fully in charge of your home; financial, emotionally,physically and otherwise. Don't allow a bad behavior slip without being corrected and addressed. You cheated on wife, wrong! But you've apologized and shown genuine repentance. She should move on. Why torment you emotionally?

Oga, you need to be man enough and be in charge. Talk to the kids and let them know your side of the story since your wife had turned your bedroom quarrels into dinning table discussion. Open up to your kids too. Let them know you're not evil as portrailed.

Again, on no account should you send your kids on errands and they will refuse. Everybody should be taking instructions from you. That's why you're the father. If they refuse to run errands panel beat sense into that one. Africa is a jungle and there's no gentleman sir. We fight for everything here.

Ningen:
Oga, stop blaming your wife. You played a part.

I am sure your children didn't just wake up one day and started disrespecting you. C'mon, you must have noticed subtle changes in their behaviour, little by little deteriorating.

So tell us why you didn't strike sooner?

What was so important to you that you choose to neglect and hand over your parental duty to your manipulative wife?

U make sense

Paul8000:

Yes I have hurt my wife a lot in the past ... I have cheated on her so many times with 3 different women.... I impregnated one of them ... my son is 6 years old... I sincerely apologised to her and promised that I will never cheats on her again... she has forgiven me ... that was 6 years ago and I haven’t cheated don her since. All these misunderstandings we are having has nothing to do with me cheating.... my main problem is the way she has turned the kids against me ... anytime we are having some issues ... she keep malice with me and will tell the kids to do the same thing... and when things get back to normal again... she will tell them to start talking with me...

she has built resentment and it would be hard to bring her back.

Cowbell521:

Ayam 38
I get my own house
I get 2 cars
I get MSC degree
I get job

But marriage na the thing. Wey scare me pass. Day tin ehnn na trap for men

Why? Are you trying to say you are the horrible one cos you cant tell me that all those you have come in contact with are bad.

Try and be humble it pays.

Great Advise, more wisdom. I hope he read and follow your advise.

yeyeosoronga:
While you were too busy with your concubines, fire was burning under your roof.
You weren't there for your older children when they probably needed you the most as you were busy spending your time and money with your opekes.
You better don't make the same mistake with the younger ones.
The older ones seem to have given up on you. and have learnt how not to rely on you because you've probably let them down in the past with your absence. They didnt even care you were away dead or alive for 3 whole days.
Anyway, my advice for you is to work on your children one on one.
Let them get to know you individually. Start taking your eldest child with you when you go out, and ask him/her to escort you so you get to spend individual time together. Do same for the others, and don't spend time with them all together but individually till you are able to earn their trust again before you start spending time all together.
It's a long journey, which you can still redeem yourself before your children.
Don't let them see a father that abandons his children for 3 days because he is angry at their mother, don't let them see a father that comes home drunk, don't let them see a father that puts his concubines needs above theirs.
Ask them to come directly to you if they need anything, give them pocket money weekly (yes, the older ones will have some minor needs. It doesn't have to be a lot. Even if it is 500naira for data)
Beating the older ones at this stage will only further alienate them from you, as that ship has long sailed.
Good luck as you make amends with your children. At least give it your best shot.
Unfortunately, your marriage is dead. I'm not sure if you have the energy to revive it, but if you have wronged your wife apologise and ask her what she wants. A divorce to end the misery for both of you or another go at the marriage.

Paul8000:
Good evening ladies and gents...

My name is Paul, I am married to my beautiful wife Vivian by name for the past 16 years . We have 5 wonderful children together Jemima 15, Isaac 12, Elizabeth 9, Samuel 6 and Tabitha 3. We are based in Liberia. We both are working and earning well by God grace. I have few issues with my wife that brought me here to get some advice.

Anytime my wife and I had some misunderstanding, she does involve the children. The oldest 3 she tells them everything including how I cheated on her, she also feed them with lies that I am a bad man and I want to kills her. She tells them so many things to make them hate me. They will disrespect and keeping malice with me to the extend of if I send them for errands, she will stop them and tell them not to go. No matter how much I shouted at them to go, they will not obey me because their mother has the final say. For example my wife and I are having some misunderstandings for over 3 weeks now, we are not talking or sleeping in the same room. I have tried to makes things works for us but she refused.

The children are also keeping malice with me. I sent Elizabeth to go and get some water for me, she obeyed and went to the kitchen, few moments later she came back empty handed staring at me in shock. I asked her what about the water she said her mother said I should go in the kitchen to get the water myself . At that moment I just couldn’t take it anymore I exploded in anger I went to the kitchen we had a heated arguments she pour water on me I really wanted to hit her so hard but I control my anger and walked away.

I left the house for 3 days to cool down. because I was so angry with her I just wanted to be alone. I then went home after 3 days,my 3 oldest children acted like they hadn’t seen me they were busy with their phone/ tablets and it was only my 2 youngest that were missing me they both hugged me like never before me. My youngest daughter refuse to leave my room she even slept in my room. I could see how much she misses me. My wife on her side acted like nothing too her normal behaviour as usual . For the sake of my 2 youngest children I sat her down and talked with her. How we should makes things better for the sake of our children especially the younger ones.

I have apologized to her on my knees all to no avail. I am tired of my wife turning my children against me they have becoming out of control ... I can’t correct them it pains me a lot to see my own children disrespecting me. I don’t want them to grow up and hate me all their life I want to have my family back. A happy home how we used to be before but my wife don’t want to cooperate with me I thought this lock-down will bring us together so we could sorted out our differences and fix our marriage to become better but all to no avail.

I am writing this sitting inside my car in the compound because I can’t even go inside the house because I have nobody to talk to my 2 youngest children that keeps me busy are asleep. I am so lonely all alone please how can I put an end to all this I am fed up ...

Anyone who has ever experienced something like this can you please advice me on how did you overcome this. I hope I was brief enough...

no offence sir, but you talk like a weak man! where de hell is the man in you?! ...believe me she knew what u were capable of before she embacked on this journey; she knows you won't do shit (no offence).

This is what you will do, have a family meeting (just you, ur wife, and your kids), if the so called stuborn ones refuse to come, use the 'African parent' technique. In the midst of everybody let her explain why she is falsely accusing you (that is if you are not guilty ooo), right there and then make a "bold decree" that those insults must stop or servere punishment will follow suite.

In the absence of the children, make her know you know what she is doing, and issue a strong warning (and threat if possible) if things like that happen again.
Inform both families of the impending danger if this behavior persists (that is if you are innocent oo). And my bro, in every of your threats and warnings, "mean it "! As in all of it. Let; let the children know what it is to have a man in the house, be the lion, act like you never acted before. But the next day, buy ice cream for everybody including the wife and never mention the incident.

My bro, forget westernization ooo... I always tell guys, this is Africa! No matter how you tend to imitate these westerners there are 65% possibility it won't that it won't work here. I care how you see this method, but this is an impending danger considering the age of those kids. Sorry to say, but if things continue like this, they might end up beating you up according to your their mother's instructions.

Also know this, 'never' allow a woman raise your male child, em get why. Lastly, on Sundays take the child out and have a nice time. Again, once awhile, take (only) your son for a drive or walk and talk to him about life: probably beep thinks of like as a man, something a woman can never tell them. And while on it, never for once say anything bad about their mother to them. But that must not deter you from beating the OMG outta of them if they dare disobey you.

Bro.. I have seen this thing happen, and believe you me, you don't want it to happen to you. For a woman you paid her bride price to colonize your own family and turn it against you, cos of some weird reasons is a sign of weakness from any man (no offense). Don't let it happen!

NB: while issuing your threats and warning to both families make it clear that should the woman refuses to change the that she will move out of your house and none of your children will follow her court order or not, that if she tries using force heavens will fall! And bro mean every damn word! And I will repeat, if you know you are innocent oo..!

Many things have gone wrong. And you, the man ,was the cause. From time immemorial, 95% of African men cheat on their wives at one time or the other. That is the truth. cheating on your wife is one part which is very bad, and allowing your wife to have full control over your kids at your own expense is another thing. For your wive to make your kidz to go against you is even worst than witchcraft and wizardry. Infact, God goes against it. God can never be on her side because she is no longer fighting a just course. She has planted seed of hatred, bitterness and rancour that may not be solved during their generation. The woman is dangerous and your life is no longer safe. if all what you said were truth, i am afraid. Your wife was able to do all these things simply because she has money or gainfully employed, so, to hell with you. what makes a marriage is Absolute submission on the part of the woman, and Love from your part towards her. i dont solicit for divorce, but you can separate yourself from her by staying alone, with time, the truth shall come out( because the extent of this her behaviour is questionable and doubtful). As for the kidz, they have choice to make as they grow. they will understand it better by and by.

OP: I don't have anything to say except I hear from your wife. I know women can be what you described at times, but there's something you're not doing right.

But what I can say is that, you need to hustle more and give her some cash for home and personal stuff she's going to change.

lastclaire4:


Why? Are you trying to say you are the horrible one cos you cant tell me that all those you have come in contact with are bad.

Try and be humble it pays.

Aunty.... Gels are evil. Den be green snake
U no go understand

I no need humble anything....if I don marry my fiancee dat time wey I be 29... My life go don worst pass OP

For whatever reason never kneel to beg a woman, my mother would always tell me that herself. If you kneel to a woman you are only giving her the supremacy power, stop kneeling and stop crying for anyone to be in your life, yes you committed adultery and are you the first man to do that? Ask her if she’s tired and if she wants a divorce, your 2 other kids that like you take them and the once that hate you let them be with their mother. I promise you they will come looking for you later. I repeat never beg a woman to be in your life, stop begging and kneeling na beg I beg you.

silifx:
just make money first is all that matters.

when you are done making money, then just marry a liability and raise kids.

dont look at your age, is just a number.

nah poor parent dey look up to their children at old age.

if you make money, you will still have enough to leave behind for them.

dont let any wife or woman share your responsibilities with you period.

Seen in this light, I agree.

Peace.