olaade2406:
@Ndukings92
We had an argument about his mother most of the time, we had an argument yesterday
, I have noticed most of our arguments are usually based on his mother’s actions. I spoke to him yesterday because the new home we moved to is not far from my parent’s home and we are both working but my parents says they cannot mind my child anymore as We both work evening shift and we have to pick our baby at my parents house as my mother is minding our child while we are both at work. I know my mother is sacrificing a lot as she works during the day too. I have asked to be transferred to work during the day at work but I am still on the list of people to be transferred. My parents called few days ago to tell me that they are longer fit to mind my child, I also under because they have medical conditions. The result that came out of him shocked me! He started suggesting we go back to his mother’s home as he cannot pay for rent alone. I sat him down yesterday and told him a man should never talk like that! I made it clear to him when I was in his mother’s house there was no one helping me except for the neighbor. I actually think there is something wrong there!! I really don’t know what to do because it doesnt seem natural. When we moved away from his mother’s house, things were going well for us. I got my car, a full time job and he also progressed with a better job than before! I talked to him about his mother yesterday and he got angry but later i calmed him down, He usually says in yoruba he doesn’t want to sin God becauee of his mother. Yesterday he said I should know his mother’s behaviour but i made it clear to him that i can not please his mother and his mother can never control me. I think she is still holding grudges because she has never came to our home and its been a year we moved out from her home. Even I have visited her for the first 5-6months we moved out of her home, i follow my husband to her home when he visits but I dont go anymore! Yes u are right, he has to be a man! but sometimes i think its because he never had a man around him when growing up as he lost his dad and never got to know him well enough

olaade2406:
@Ndukings92
I will do my best!! because its like his mother has brainwashed him to think that he must do whatever she says! Yes God says to obey our parents but not making decisions for your wife or inconvenienting her. When i disagree she gets angry. Thank God none of that anymore since im now in my own home but the thing that concerns me the most now is why do you think she has not come to visit us? and what do you think i can do about the black soap thing, i dont want my husband to use it anymore and those substances his mother gave him for “goodluck and protection” that was made by an “Alfa”! My heart is heavy when i see those things because as a muslim! i was never thought to use those!! its haram(sin). Do you think she is angry at me because she cant control me the way se controls my husband? and because i declined her proposal to use the black soap and substance she brought from Nigeria!?


About the tawiz in our home! Should i throw it away? I’ve been watching video on youtube about the use if those things! it scares me because i didn’t grow up in Nigeria. I dont believe in the use of black soap for protection, do u think there is more to it?

olaade2406:
@Ndukings92
I will do my best!! because its like his mother has brainwashed him to think that he must do whatever she says! Yes God says to obey our parents but not making decisions for your wife or inconvenienting her. When i disagree she gets angry. Thank God none of that anymore since im now in my own home but the thing that concerns me the most now is why do you think she has not come to visit us? and what do you think i can do about the black soap thing, i dont want my husband to use it anymore and those substances his mother gave him for “goodluck and protection” that was made by an “Alfa”! My heart is heavy when i see those things because as a muslim! i was never thought to use those!! its haram(sin). Do you think she is angry at me because she cant control me the way se controls my husband? and because i declined her proposal to use the black soap and substance she brought from Nigeria!?


About the tawiz in our home! Should i throw it away? I’ve been watching video on youtube about the use if those things! it scares me because i didn’t grow up in Nigeria. I dont believe in the use of black soap for protection, do u think there is more to it?

olaade2406:
@beautifulrosa Im 25years now Ive gotten to a stage where I hardly call her anymore! hope thats fine to do so! i only call her atleast once in two months atleast she wont have anything to say against me! Because the last time i went to visit her with my husband she really shouted at me for not wearing scarf on my head in the presence of my husband and his little siblings as if my parents brought me up wrongly, she says im dressed like im not a muslim because i was wearing wig! But i am surely keeping my distance.

But my hubby doesn’t say anything to her when she attacks me like that.
He stays silent.

I just wish i can throw away those things his mother gave him cause things like that i hate ooo! What if those things are actually doing him bad rather than good. Maybe because i didnt grow up in Nigeria

Should i talk to him about it that im not comfortable with it in our house?

Sinzuko135:










ALL THIS FAKE STORY JUST TO MAKE FRONT PAGE

meobizy:

It didn't so OP quickly deleted the account.

eyinjuege:


Probably deleted it because someone from her family has added 2 and 2 together , and may report to her mother in law.

eyinjuege:


Probably deleted it because someone from her family has added 2 and 2 together , and may report to her mother in law.