Please how can i get over someone

I hv this guy i hv been talking to for 6months now , we are dating (online)but the energy is really heatbreaking sometimes , he doesnt like me calling , just chating, he wants to be the only one calling me but i shouldnt call him , he calls me everyday tho , but i hv this feeling he has someone else, even married . I hv asked him and he refuses to accept or agree but keeps up with his funny attitude

My problem is that i want to stop talking to him , i hate the way he makes me feel , but i am so used to talking to him everyday , blocking him would be rather harsh , cause he has done nothing serious to me , what should i do please ?

Tell him how you feel.

When you said he doesn't like you calling him, is it that he sees your calls as a disturbance? Or he just wants to save your call card maybe because you guys have long phone calls (to some guys that's being romantic)....

About your fear of him being married, maybe you guys should meet in person and you confirm or refute your claims?

It may noy be fair to yourself to lose someone you like just because you have certain unconfirmed fears ( intuitions).

But if you don't want to do again, there's no highly polite way to break a persons heart... Just tell him.

Stephenomozzy:
Tell him how you feel.

I did that but he makes it a jovial thing , turns it to a joke , I don’t know why I don’t want to loose him, if not I would hv insulted him by now , I really like him. I want him to tell me the truth about what’s up and why can’t I call him , he says he doesn’t like calls .

If he tells me he’s married I would be more relaxed

How do u gals even date sumbody u've not seen? How do u pipo do dat shit?

Stephenomozzy:
Tell him how you feel.

When you said he doesn't like you calling him, is it that he sees your calls as a disturbance? Or he just wants to save your call card maybe because you guys have long phone calls (to some guys that's being romantic)....

About your fear of him being married, maybe you guys should meet in person and you confirm or refute your claims?

It may noy be fair to yourself to lose someone you like just because you have certain unconfirmed fears ( intuitions).

But if you don't want to do again, there's no highly polite way to break a persons heart... Just tell him.

we plan to see after this covid stuffs , he stays in Abuja and I stay in porthacort . Far distance, He said he wants to call me at his convenient time , and we don’t talk for long,, cause we chat regularly. Is like I don’t really know him but he gives me attention i want , so it’s hard letting go

Help please

Help pleasee

Chamukebenson:
we plan to see after this covid stuffs , he stays in Abuja and I stay in porthacort . Far distance, He said he wants to call me at his convenient time , and we don’t talk for long,, cause we chat regularly. Is like I don’t really know him but he gives me attention i want , so it’s hard letting go

Letting go of someone also means, letting go of the benefits you have in communion with that person (in this case the attention he gives you which you enjoy).

No sane person will expressly tell you the perfect thing you should do, we can only help you weigh your options. You know him better and feel what you feel than we can imagine; If your not being able to call him at anytime you wish to hear from him is a problem, tell him about it and this time if he tries to make jokes out of it, INSIST ON TREATING THE MATTER AS A SERIOUS THING AS IT'S IMPORTANT TO YOU.

Don't worry, when you guys finally meet in person, it will either change the relationship or build it.

Stephenomozzy:


Letting go of someone also means, letting go of the benefits you have in communion with that person (in this case the attention he gives you which you enjoy).

No sane person will expressly tell you the perfect thing you should do, we can only help you weigh your options. You know him better and feel what you feel than we can imagine; If your not being able to call him at anytime you wish to hear from him is a problem, tell him about it and this time if he tries to make jokes out of it, INSIST ON TREATING THE MATTER AS A SERIOUS THING AS IT'S IMPORTANT TO YOU.

Don't worry, when you guys finally meet in person, it will either change the relationship or build it.

what if he’s married?

If you feel you're in the dark about certain things about him, confront him with your fears (not suspicion) and let him allay the fears, hold on till the covid stuff; and insist on meeting his friends and maybe siblings too (even if you don't see his parents), that way, you can know about him beyond the details he's presenting to you on the internet.

He might be married tho , hv that at the back of ur mind

Swtbabyvee:
what if he’s married?

Then she knows her fear is confirmed. It will help her move on from the feeling she has for him. That is, if she's decent o.
Break up with Him.

Her confusion now is that "She doesn't know how to 'break' up with him when he has not really done anything to her". That is, she can't really point to any wrong doing or evidence of her suspicion

Stephenomozzy:


Then she knows her fear is confirmed. It will help her move on from the feeling she has for him. That is, if she's decent o.
Break up with Him.

Her confusion now is that "She doesn't know how to 'break' up with him when he has not really done anything to her". That is, she can't really point to any wrong doing or evidence of her suspicion

I will do that today

More opinions will be appreciated

Please

Madam leave the married man alone. Na so una dey start

Dicktion:
Madam leave the married man alone. Na so una dey start

really?? U feel he’s married too. But I hv no evidence he is , can I just react based on assumptions ,, what if he isnt

Focus ur energy on someone else

Swtbabyvee:
Focus ur energy on someone else

I have tried but I feel more drawn to talking to him. He’s like my perfect man and gives me the attention I want

Please guys what do u think

My dear, that guy is definitely hiding something from u. Either he is married or in a very very serious relationship and he is probably leading u on since u happen to be a fragile person.

TBH, long distance/internet relationships over a long period is heart wrenching. U do t know if the other person is as faithful to u as he claims and vice versa.

And the end, Love is our downfall.

Chamukebenson:
really?? U feel he’s married too. But I hv no evidence he is , can I just react based on assumptions ,, what if he isnt

Have you asked yourself why he doesn't want you calling? And you really think he'd tell you he's married
For the last time I say leave him alone. Unless you Wan start like una dey start

Dicktion:
Have you asked yourself why he doesn't want you calling? And you really think he'd tell you he's married
For the last time I say leave him alone. Unless you Wan start like una dey start

how can I achieve that !! I hv done that b4 but I could stay two days without talking to him

Well really don't know what to say but online dating is scam joor you never can tell even if he is serious

Chamukebenson:
how can I achieve that !! I hv done that b4 but I could stay two days without talking to him

You already into him so whatever I say here is irrelevant.

Dicktion:
You already into him so whatever I say here is irrelevant.

Give me a suggestion atleast. I seriously need it

Chamukebenson:
Give me a suggestion atleast. I seriously need it

Leave him alone. That's the only suggestion I have got for you so far but if you insist then I'd tell you to ask him to call you at night precisely 10pm upwards. A married man wouldn't wanna talk to his side chick during those hours. If he gives some kinda sketchy excuses then he's married. There you'd have to leave him alone for good. Do not wait for any more signs, I repeat do not wait for any more signs don't ask me any stupid questions why I said so.

However, If he's unobjected to your request and you guys get to talk then he isn't married. He could be in a way too serious relationship or something like that. But then you gonna ask him why he doesn't want you calling. It could be that he doesn't wanna get caught by his fiancee someday when you call. Just Ask him to open up simple. From his answers your senses may tell if he's being honest or not. But if you can't discern when someone is not being honest to you after you have experienced some kinda shady acts from them then you're still a naive lil girl and I'd advise you to stay off men and focus on your studies instead

Renida what do u think

He is married, they usually have set times they call/text their mistress and it is normally during 9-4.30pm on working days, never on weekends or maybe midnight on the weekends.

Please my dear girl, guard your heart and remove yourself from this toxic situation. You do not have to block him just ignore him and move on with your life, there is plenty of fish I'm the sea. He will get the message with your silence.

Another angle

Your boyfriend is a working boy
Don’t ask me how I’m so sure
You disturb him with calls when he’s busy doing his thing
They hate that stuff, he’d prefer chatting cause he’s working at the same time
That’s why he only calls you towards the end of the day/night when he’s done with everything
So far, if that’s his only negative�This could be it

This is just another perspective

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DANOSP:
Another angle

Your boyfriend is a working boy
Don’t ask me how I’m so sure
You disturb him with calls when he’s busy doing his thing
They hate that stuff, he’d prefer chatting cause he’s working at the same time
That’s why he only calls you towards the end of the day/night when he’s done with everything
So far, if that’s his only negative�This could be it

This is just another perspective

thats exactlybthe excuses he gives , that if hes chatting he does more than a thing at a time .