I have a female friend who got married last year October precisely.

Fast forward to March this year the Mother In Law came to stay with the couple in a bid to visit her hospital within the couple’s area for medical checkup, reason being that she stays a bit farther away in the same state.

Upon her Mother in law’s arrival, she came with my friend’s husband brother accompanied by his girlfriend who all planned staying and eventually stayed without prior notice.

My friend(the lady) is a banker and was only informed casually by her husband while she was at work on the day of their arrival. His excuse was the mother called impromptu about the visit which I don’t think is bad anyway.

These couple stay in a three bedroom apartment and only one room has bed in it. This is the room the couple sleep.

The first two days of the mother inlaw, brother and brother’s girlfriend arrival, the couple had to sleep in the living room while the mother in law and the brother in law’s girlfriend slept in the couple’s room.

As days goes by, the husband who is self employed suggested the the rest of them will handle cooking in the house due to the wife’s tight schedule as per banking job in Lagos.

Part of the consequence of their visit is that they have overthrown the kitchen and like most ladies my friend wasn’t cool with this but tried to keep her cook.

The lady(my friend) became curious and asked the husband to clarify if the mother in law and co intends to stay with them permanently. The husband subsequently flared up with the allegations that his wife doesn’t want his people around. This happened to be the third time his wife asked this question in the space of two weeks.

One thing led to the other on the third time of asking this question my friends husband beat her up and chased her out of the house while the mother stood and watched without interfering.

Efforts to reconcile has proved abortive as the husband refused to let her in again and categorically said to my friend’s dad he isn’t interested in the marriage anymore. The mother in law refused to interfere.

PS: The hubby’s mother is a separated single mother.
PS: My friend and her hubby both contributed to pay the rent
PS: The hubby’s father is not in support of all the happenings and all efforts to reach his son proved abortive since the misunderstanding. He wouldn’t answer his dad’s calls.

What are your opinions about this issue? Thank you.

The husband is a baby, a breast-suckling child o.

Firstly, there no serious bond between the mother-in-law and the wife. If u see some wives with their mothers-in-law, you will be confused if you're told they're not mother and daughter. And that's because he didn't put his mother in her place before he married, no matter the bond between mother and son, once d boy becomes a man and has his apartment, he should outgrow being controlled. Show authority in your own world and let your mother know it.. that my son is now a man in his own territory and I should have some respect for that. That doesn't mean you hate your mother. He didn't achieve that before marriage and that's why I said he's childish.

Secondly, he failed to tell his wife beforehand that his mom would come. That was wrong. Thirdly, no matter who cooks, no matter how long his wife spends at work, he was supposed to affirm in that house that her wife is the master of the kitchen, both in his words and his actions. He may even jokingly ask his wife's permission to get things in the kitchen which doesn't belittle him but an act of wisdom.

Finally, chasing his wife out and refusing to pick up his dad's call for peace sake is foolish. He would blame himself later. Because nobody would ask what has been going on between him and his wife before the occurrence. Everyone would say it's bcus of his mother he pushed her out. The mother too is shameless, she should move out as soon as possible after begging his son to make peace with his wife so as not to spoil her name and the family.

U already knw the answer

Hummmm... let me wait for my elders to come