The three major types of love that we need to consider when we say "I love you" to someone.

1. Eros Love—The Love of Sexual Passion
The Greeks used the word eros to refer to a need-centered love or desire based on attraction and fulfillment. Eros is characterized by passion and sexual desire. Eros describes the aspect of a relationship between a man and a woman that is most like magnetism (let me add as well: anything or anyone that sexual excites your skin, from a Love Machine, a sex doll to a pillow, be it same sex, relative or animal). Magnets aren't choosy. Their drawing capacity remains "on" continuously, instantly attracted to any object that has the right characteristics. Men and women have a capacity for attraction that is neither under their complete control nor capable of entirely controlling them against their will.

Quick word: Marriage doesn't solve one's inability to control their sexual urge, yes it helps but you have to realize marriage doesn't make anyone automatically faithful. Because you can be in real love with someone and still be sexual attracted to others. It's interesting that this aspect of love is strong enough to make or break relationships.

If married ministers with high anointing and discipline ever open up to you, you will understand why some are very strict, why Paul said he doesn't advice for couples to separate for long.

When we get to talk about incest, homosexuality you will understand how powerful eros and sexual arousal is.

It's not sufficient to assume that no one around you is homosexual or none of your children will be, they may even be bisexual. (Before you marry anyone get to understand their sexual orientation, please don't assume)

It's the captivating nature of eros that makes many lose reasoning, control and give in that results in rapes, a girl allowing herself to be pleasured by her father or mother, boys enjoy kissing boys etc.

There's a reason scripture says flee (You need to understand how you make people feel and how certain people make you feel to be able to flee), because if it catches you it's when you awake you begin to ask yourself what happened.

Today we're living in a culture where people have so focused on the eros aspect of love that the power and wonder of sexual intimacy
has been lost. Casual sex, "hooking up," and love according to hormones have left countless people empty and longing for genuine love and lasting connection. To think that eros love can sustain a relationship is both naive and shortsighted.

Phileo Love—The Love Of Best Friends
The Greeks called the second kind of love phileo. This is friendship love, in biblical process this love is more important than eros and should be sort more, especially before eros- which the world finds easier to start with first.
The Bible uses the word "companionship" several times to describe this part of a marriage relationship. In Genesis 2:18 it's written; Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” that's why the original intention of God in making woman was not for sexual satisfaction but as first a companion and a helper.

Guys want to date sexy girls but real men marry those women that are best friends, companions and helpers. So Ladies how you present yourself matters, If all what you do is post or send sexy pictures of yourself all you may get are guys trying to sleep with you, but if you take out time to care, send uplifting and encouraging messages to your male friends before you know it you will be receiving marriage proposals.

Phileo love means reciprocal sharing of time, hobbies, activities, home, games, and other aspects of fellowship. One English word that applies the Greek term phileo is our word "Philadelphia," the city of brotherly love. Phileo refers to that mutuality, that friendship part of love. Eros looks at a man and a woman as lovers. Phileo looks at a man and a woman as best friends.

Romans 12 from verse 9

Your love must be real. Hate what is evil. Do only what is good.
(NLT) Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good.

Love each other in a way that makes you feel close like brothers and sisters. And give each other more honor than you give yourself.
(AMP) Love one another with brotherly love and affection [as members of one family], giving precedence and showing honor to one another.

As you serve the Lord, work hard and don’t be lazy. Be excited about serving him! Be happy because of the hope you have. Be patient when you have troubles. Pray all the time. Share with God’s people who need help. Look for people who need help and welcome them into your homes.
Wish only good for those who treat you badly. Ask God to bless them, not curse them. When others are happy, you should be happy with them. And when others are sad, you should be sad too. Live together in peace with each other. Don’t be proud, but be willing to be friends with people who are not important to others. Don’t think of yourself as smarter than everyone else.

(Love the message translation here) Get along with each other; don't be stuck-up. Make friends with nobodies; don't be the great somebody.
Don't hit back; discover beauty in everyone. If you've got it in you, get along with everybody.

(King James) Be of the same mind one toward another. Mind not high things, but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in your own conceits.

(AMP)
Live in harmony with one another; do not be haughty ( snobbish, high-minded, exclusive), but readily adjust yourself to [people, things] and give yourselves to humble tasks. Never overestimate yourself or be wise in your own conceits.

If someone does you wrong, don’t try to pay them back by hurting them. Try to do what everyone thinks is right. Do the best you can to live in peace with everyone. My friends, don’t try to punish anyone who does wrong to you. Wait for God to punish them with his anger. In the Scriptures the Lord says,

“I am the one who punishes;
I will pay people back.” Deuteronomy 32:35

But you should do this:

“If you have enemies who are hungry, give them something to eat.
If you have enemies who are thirsty, give them something to drink. In doing this you will make them feel ashamed.” Proverbs 25:21-22

Don’t let evil defeat you, but defeat evil by doing good.

Agape Love—The Love Of Sacrificial Commitment
The third kind of love captured in the Greek language is called agape love. This is giving love also known as Charity. It acts unilaterally, meaning this love reaches out even if the person being loved doesn't recognize the love.

Agape love gives even when the partner doesn't respond as hoped. It's giving and meeting the real needs of another and helping that person to become a better, more mature individual. It is selfless love.

Agape love takes the initiative and energizes the other two kinds of love. The classic biblical passage that outlines this kind of love, unfortunately, has been trivialized. Instead of being lived out by us as believers, it is found mostly on little plaques, posts, status updates, tweets and texts.

Think what would happen in a relationship between a man and a woman if what you are about to read described how they actually treated each other in the ups and downs of daily life.
Love is patient,
love is kind.
It does not envy,
it does not boast,
it is not proud.
It is not rude,
it is not self-seeking,
it is not easily angered,
it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil
but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects,
always trusts,
always hopes,
always perseveres.
Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8a

Phileo love is a friendship love that requires a high level of mutuality—we give, expecting something in return. But agape love is when you give, not because your mate has done something nice or because he or she is wonderful all the time, but even at times when your mate has wounded you.

This agape love, is a God-given, supernatural, and unconditional love. The 1 Corinthians 13 passage says that, first of all, love is "patient." We could stop right there. Patience means putting up with a lot of junk over a long period of time and not retaliating.

Next, the passage says "love is kind," which means that it not only looks for positive ways to express concern and meet needs but also lacks any hint of envy, jealousy, boasting, pride, rudeness, self-seeking, quick temper, recorded offenses, or delighting in evil.

In agape love, the relationship is not about you. It's not about your life or about what you can get. It's about how you can serve the other person. When you love this way, you're not easily angered. You don't blow up. You don't pout. You don't give up and take your ball and go home.

Agape love "keeps no record of wrongs." It makes allowances for others' shortcomings and mistakes, like we want them to make for us when we fail. "Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth"—not "See, I caught you" but "You know what? You're busted and I love you. How can we work this out?" It's the kind of love that looks past the other's failure, that believes in them when they don't even believe in themselves.
This is the kind of love that is so powerful that it "never fails." It says, "No matter what, I'm with you." That's what agape love is —the love that keeps on giving and giving.

Eros love has to do with heightened emotions and raw attraction.
Phileo love has to do with friendship, communion, and sharing.
Agape love has to do with unconditional loyalty and sacrificial commitment.

In fact, agape love can be summed up best by the following statement: It's giving others what they need most when they deserve it the least. If you thought to yourself after you read this post, That sounds impossible, you're right! Agape love is impossible! Agape love cannot be manufactured by human effort or willpower.

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