Apparently, my friend is so mad and even threatening to divorce his wife.

No, this is not a case of infidelity or unfaithfulness. My friend and his wife got married last year. Both are working and keeping personal savings. My friend works at a very far distance, however, the wife's work place is approximately 10minutes walking distance.

My friend's mother-inlaw stays in a different city, and she is close to retirement. My friend just found out that the wife sent money to his brother to get a car for the mum. Though, she was actually going to tell him or inform him about it. Just that her mum was the first to call my friend, thanking him for their kind gesture.

My friend's anger was that the wife knows how much stress he passes through this period to get to work. But she however made her choice on the best person to get a car for.

Please, what is your opinion about this. I don't even know what to say.

So your friend is a lazy man, that says alot about you.

My friend kee you there
He send you message make you carry him matter come nairaland?
Abi you no know say him brother or even him mama In law fit dey read this buushiet?
You, my friend, are your "my friend's " problem.
Educated aproko machine

Divorce is an exaggeration.
May we not end up with inconsiderate wives.

Poorboy:
So your friend is a lazy man, that says alot about you.

Thank you very much, little mind

MejiLoyon:
My friend kee you there
He send you message make you carry him matter come nairaland?
Abi you no know say him brother or even him mama In law fit dey read this buushiet?
You, my friend, are your "my friend's " problem.
Educated aproko machine

�..Why are you scared on his behalf. He isn't into nairaland aproko

Ningen:
Divorce is an exaggeration.
Maybe we not end up with inconsiderate wives.

I'm sure the ladies won't justify this one now

Poorboy:
So your friend is a lazy man, that says alot about you.

This is not about a lazy man.

What he woman did is fundamentally wrong. How could she go ahead to do such a fantastic gifting and not informing her husband. I thought two have become one.

The man need to correct this...though it is going to be very hard because most people will think he is not happy about his wife buying car for her mother and this could lead to an even bigger issue that may not get settled in years (family wahala).

Also, maybe the wife doesn't love the husband as much as she loved her mother.

Yoruba would say "bi ina ba jo eni to jo omo eni tara eni laa koko gbon " (If fire is burning you and burning your child, you will first put out the one on you).

Your husband doesn't have a car and you buy one for your mother first? The love is in question here.

The wife did badly, and financial changes must be taken. However, divorce is an overstretch.

Sylverly:
Thank you very much, little mind

I see envy in your friend before I even talk about the wife not telling him.

Because she knows the boy(husband) will kill the idea of buying the car for the mother.

Every Tom, Dick and Harry is talking about divorce nowadays as if it was a weather forecast..

Your friend is overexaggerating and should calm down. If there was no incentive to put resources together, her buying her mom a car from her own personal account should be no issue. Otherwise, the wife did badly.

But if he wants a divorce, he should go ahead. Immature people shouldn't be married anyways.

Sylverly:
Apparently, my friend is so mad and even threatening to divorce his wife.

No, this is not a case of infidelity or unfaithfulness. My friend and his wife got married last year. Both are working and keeping personal savings. My friend works at a very far distance, however, the wife's work place is approximately 10minutes walking distance.

My friend's mother-inlaw stays in a different city, and she is close to retirement. My friend just found out that the wife sent money to his brother to get a car for the mum. Though, she was actually going to tell him or inform him about it. Just that her mum was the first to call my friend, thanking him for their kind gesture.

My friend's anger was that the wife knows how much stress he passes through this period to get to work. But she however made her choice on the best person to get a car for.

Please, what is your opinion about this. I don't even know what to say.

Why are men of these days so lazy and dependent on women? I just dont get it.

So if his wife buys him a car he will drive it happily? What about pride? Chivalry? What about self dignity?

That aside, do you know the bond between the lady and her mother? So because he gave her a ring, he thinks he is now more important than her own mother? What has he done to earn such privilege?

Lazy men everywhere looking to live off their wives. If your friend cannot keep trekking let him buy himself a car, simple!

decatalyst:


This is not about a lazy man.

What he woman did is fundamentally wrong. How could she go ahead to do such a fantastic gifting and not informing her husband. I thought two have become one.

The man need to correct this...though it is going to be very hard because most people will think he is not happy about his wife buying car for her mother and this could lead to an even bigger issue that may not get settled in years (family wahala).

Also, maybe the wife doesn't love the husband as much as she loved her mother.

Yoruba would say "bi ina ba jo eni to jo omo eni tara eni laa koko gbon " (If fire is burning you and burning your child, you will first put out the one on you).

Your husband doesn't have a car and you buy one for your mother first? The love is in question here.

you don't understand motherly love.

You don't know the sacrifice the mother might have made to the lady in question .

It's not a matter of loving the husband but her own personal conviction that her mother deserves a car.

The boy(husband) in question is a jealous type, the wife knew telling him he won't allow her buy the car.


Don't compare mother with husband it doesn't fall in the same sentence.

Ningen:
Divorce is an exaggeration.
May we not end up with inconsiderate wives.

As if most of you guys take permission from your wives before helping your family and friends

Poorboy:
I see envy in your friend before I even talk about the wife not telling him.

Because she knows the boy(husband) will kill the idea of buying the car for the mother.

And you are fully aware about the stress he passes through each morning, as highlighted. Definitely, won't let him take such decision of divorcing. Well, will try though

olasaad:


As if most of you guys take permission from your wives before helping your family and friends

Now it's justifiable..? Naija ladies eeh..

Poorboy:
you don't understand motherly love.

You don't know the sacrifice the mother might have made to the lady in question .

It's not a matter of loving the husband but her own personal conviction that her mother deserves a car.

The boy(husband) in question is a jealous type, the wife knew telling him he won't allow her buy the car.


Don't compare mother with husband it doesn't fall in the same sentence.

would you say same if it were the other way. I'm sure the wife would still throw tantrums

It's her money and she can do with it as she please, same thing with him as that seems to be the arrangement they have.

Op your submission is one sided and you seem to have already picked the indignant husband's side (that's if you're not him) but try to look at things objectively. They probably aren't on the same page, finance wise and this has a lot to say about communication in their marriage, it is sorely lacking. Your friend needs to let go of his entitlement and hurt and look at the bigger picture - his marriage is a disaster waiting to happen if they don't do something about their communication. It's not just about love.

Married couples should generally inform each other of big financial decisions like that, before the fact, even if it were for her mum, even if she was going to do it against his wishes, she should've told him.

I get his anger, but divorce is a bit disproportionate to the 'crime' she committed unless other additional issues we aren't privy to are involved...

Sylverly:
And you are fully aware about the stress he passes through each morning, as highlighted. Definitely, won't let him take such decision of divorcing. Well, will try though

your friend is a theif, let me put it in the language you should understand.

If he likes let him trek to hell fire

The wife doesn't owe your friend abi you anything.

Why he didn't tell the husband is that the husband will not allow her buy the car.

UjuJoan2:


Why are men of these days so lazy and dependent on women? I just dont get it.

So if his wife buys him a car he will drive it happily? What about pride? Chivalry? What about self dignity?

That aside, do you know the bond between the lady and her mother? So because he gave her a ring, he thinks he is now more important than her own mother? What has he done to earn such privilege?

Lazy men everywhere looking to live off their wives. If your friend cannot keep trekking let him buy himself a car, simple!

I feel your sermon buttresses the fact that feminism is a child's play. And gender equality shouldn't be found in our society. Now, I hope your peers will still keep mute if a man decides to buy a car for the mother that had him for 9months first , before considering the wife

Poorboy:
your friend is a their, let me put it in the language you should understand.

If he likes let him trek to hell fire

The wife doesn't owe your friend abi you anything.

Why he didn't tell the husband is that the husband will not allow her buy the car.

We all are opinionated. No wahala.

Amanee:
It's her money and she can do with it as she please, same thing with him as that seems to be the arrangement they have.

Op your submission is one sided and you seem to have already picked the indignant husband's side (that's if you're not him) but try to look at things objectively. They probably aren't on the same page, finance wise and this has a lot to say about communication in their marriage, it is sorely lacking. Your friend needs to let go of his entitlement and hurt and look at the bigger picture - his marriage is a disaster waiting to happen if they don't do something about their communication. It's not just about love.

Somehow, you highlighted my points and source of disappointment. Why do some women think men should put them way ahead of their mother inlaw, but won't reason same for their own mother inlaw.

Sylverly:
We all are opinionated. No wahala.

yes oo but know your friend is a theif and an unrepentant leech.

Lmao, you people only know “gender equality” when it comes to money. Most Nigerian men always put their extended family above their wives, it’s funny to see the shoe on the other foot.

I feel your sermon buttresses the fact that feminism is a child's play. And gender equality shouldn't be found in our society. Now, I hope your peers will still keep mute if a man decides to buy a car for the mother that had him for 9months first , before considering the wife

decatalyst:


This is not about a lazy man.

What he woman did is fundamentally wrong. How could she go ahead to do such a fantastic gifting and not informing her husband. I thought two have become one.

The man need to correct this...though it is going to be very hard because most people will think he is not happy about his wife buying car for her mother and this could lead to an even bigger issue that may not get settled in years (family wahala).

Also, maybe the wife doesn't love the husband as much as she loved her mother.

Yoruba would say "bi ina ba jo eni to jo omo eni tara eni laa koko gbon " (If fire is burning you and burning your child, you will first put out the one on you).

Your husband doesn't have a car and you buy one for your mother first? The love is in question here.

Thank you!

Sylverly:
I feel your sermon buttresses the fact that feminism is a child's play. And gender equality shouldn't be found in our society. Now, I hope your peers will still keep mute if a man decides to buy a car for the mother that had him for 9months first , before considering the wife

It's funny how you guys throw the word feminism around whenever women refuse to cater for your needs.

A man is responsible for his family, and providing for them should be his utmost priority. He can buy a jet for his mother if he likes, but he has to provide for his family.

My friend kee you there.....

My friend this, my friend that.,...

Own up, heaven will not fall. You're your friend, only that shame and ego will not allow you to admit.


My friend kooo, my enemy ni.


Anyone who makes his/her money has the right to spend it the way he/she likes.

What else did she says apart from "I was going to tell you". What did she say in her defense?

Stop being fixated on the money and look at the big picture. Everybody cannot be the same. This issue is a result of an underlying problem. There is no communication in the marriage

Sylverly:
Somehow, you highlighted my points and source of disappointment. Why do some women think men should put them way ahead of their mother inlaw, but won't reason same for their own mother inlaw.