I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Why not try to marry again?

Keep doing what you have been doing all these months.Just keep the faith.

OP get married again... As e dey hot... If you marry again God no go vex...

If your divorce is not finalized go and date your husband again. If it happens fine, you wouldn't feel guilty.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.
It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.
Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?
I just need some words of encouragement.
Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.
The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

If God is really who you claim to want to please by your choice, then you want to make sure you have the right information to help you on your path. According to Jesus Christ, the one who is God's New Covenant and Law in the Kingdom of God, what is sin is not what you refer to as sexual immorality- fornication, masturbation, homosexuality etc. - instead sin is the lust in your heart towards another - Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 - those fantasies and longings for sex are what constitute sin in the Kingdom of God.

So while you claim you have not physically engaged in what is sexually immoral activities in the 18 months period, that all means nothing when you consider that the sin is that committed in your mind/heart and not the physical activity itself.

Kobojunkie:
If God is really who you claim to want to please by your choice, then you want to make sure you have the right information to help you on your path. According to Jesus Christ, the one who is God's New Covenant and Law in the Kingdom of God, what is sin is not what you refer to as sexual immorality- fornication, masturbation, homosexuality etc. - instead sin is the lust in your heart towards another - Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 - those fantasies and longings for sex are what constitute sin in the Kingdom of God.

So while you claim you have not physically engaged in what is sexually immoral activities in the 18 months period, that all means nothing when you consider that the sin is that committed in your mind/heart and not the physical activity itself.

Chai!
who and who will make heaven liedis?

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

I really do understand what you are going through... Be strong Sis

udoji2021:
Chai!
who and who will make heaven liedis?

According to Jesus Christ Himself, those who continue to accept and obey His very teachings are His followers, and they will know His Truth and it will set them free from bondage to sin - John 8 vs 31 - 32

Kobojunkie:
According to Jesus Christ Himself, those who continue to accept and obey His very teachings are His followers, and they will know His Truth and it will set them free from bondage to sin - John 8 vs 31 - 32

Na waoh!
so just thinking about a lady is a sin. you can't decieve nature my brother, forget about all those scripturess you are quoting

thorpido:
Why not try to marry again?

Keep doing what you have been doing all these months.Just keep the faith.

Definitely but divorce isn't finalized.

udoji2021:
Na waoh!
so just thinking about a lady is a sin. you can't decieve nature my brother, forget about all those scripturess you are quoting

Again, what is specified as sin by Jesus Christ is the lust in one's heart after a woman. And no, that is not natural given than you are not born lusting in your hearts after women, instead you learn that in time, and so are able to unlearn that too if you chose to discipline yourself in obedience to God.

jackcanfield:
If your divorce is not finalized go and date your husband again. If it happens fine, you wouldn't feel guilty.

This option is definitely not in the picture at all.

He said I am free to remarry if I want but we aren't divorced and also remarrying isn't a day's affair nor a joke.

Dey put mentholated Robb for there. D urge go reduce….. Na woman tell me dis o

Kobojunkie:
If God is really who you claim to want to please by your choice, then you want to make sure you have the right information to help you on your path. According to Jesus Christ, the one who is God's New Covenant and Law in the Kingdom of God, what is sin is not what you refer to as sexual immorality- fornication, masturbation, homosexuality etc. - instead sin is the lust in your heart towards another - Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 - those fantasies and longings for sex are what constitute sin in the Kingdom of God.

So while you claim you have not physically engaged in what is sexually immoral activities in the 18 months period, that all means nothing when you consider that the sin is that committed in your mind/heart and not the physical activity itself.

So the thought of sex coming through my mind has already made me a sinner?

Optimistic4life:
So the thought of sex coming through my mind has already made me a sinner?

Please try not to muddle this up as it is easy to. According to Jesus Christ, God's very own Law given to those of us who wish to eventually make it into God's Heaven, you sin the moment you lust in your heart after a one you are not married to - Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28. That is the point when one is said to become a sinner against God, not when one engages in any of the physical acts.

Kobojunkie:
Please try not to muddle this up as it is easy to. According to Jesus Christ, God's very own Law given to those of us who wish to eventually make it into God's Heaven, you sin the moment you lust in your heart after a one you are not married to - Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28. That is the point when one is said to become a sinner against God, not when one engages in any of the physical acts.

Okay I get you. So if I long for sex with my ex husband, that shouldn't be a sin then.

So let me ask you. Is selfplay/selflove/masturbation a sin?

The body desiring what it needs naturally just like we eat.

Not fantasies towards anyone in particular.

Come let me help you

Na so una go dey do like say e no dey sweet una but na una e sweet pass lmao

go and reconcile with your husband, fine you are going through a divorce which is not yet finalized,his help will be needed since you don't want to offend your creator by an act of immorality but i know your ego won't allow you

if i were you I'll use orobo pepsi bottle to do the trick keeping my ego intact

Optimistic4life:
1. Okay I get you. So if I long for sex with my ex husband, that shouldn't be a sin then.
2. So let me ask you. Is selfplay/selflove/masturbation a sin?

3. The body desiring what it needs naturally just like we eat. Not fantasies towards anyone in particular.

1. You are no longer married to him so it would be sin.
2. What is sin is the lust in your heart that usually comes before or during the acts themselves.

3. There is nothing natural about those desires or you would be born lusting from your very birth. You develop these desires over time and as such can also chose to control them rather than allow them control you.

I think we all know what is meant by sexual lust and that is what Jesus Christ said is sin.

Lol.. some of us have stayed 3+ decades without sex... U won't die... Self control puts you in control

Bigredmachine:
OP get married again... As e dey hot... If you marry again God no go vex...

go marry an nan. See how you asked her to go marry as if she can decide when or who yo marry her. Op the situation is really difficult. May God gibe you strength.

udoji2021:


Chai!
who and who will make heaven liedis?

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Who tell you guys say heaven or hell dey self?

kepstone:
Lol.. some of us have stayed 3+ decades without sex... U won't die... Self control puts you in control

Wow... 3+ decades? Do you think you are maybe a Eunuch at this point?

Madam go back n build ur home with your husband....
God hates divorce.....

nike4love:
Madam go back n build ur home with your husband....
God hates divorce.....

And like every other sin(except the one), God forgives even the sin of divorce.

My sister move on with your life. Open yourself to dating again but you have to be careful because some men love to take advantage of a woman who’s either separated or divorced. You will definitely find love again.

Optimistic4life:


So the thought of sex coming through my mind has already made me a sinner?

Ignore that man/lady, if you can. S/he's an atheist and is trying to play with your conviction.

To your question: it's not easy naturally, even for those who don't have sexual history, let alone for someone who was once married. But with God's grace and discipline, it's possible.
PS: Talking from experience.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

It's been 18months since you separated with ur partner and it's obvious there is no getting back together...Why don't you loosing up and make friends again, open up and try going into a relationship so you don't fall into the temptation of having Random sex.


You can't kill urself ok
In the end, you just human.

RenaissanceGuy:
Ignore that lady, if you can. She's an atheist and is trying to play with your conviction.

To your question: it's not easy naturally, even for those who don't have sexual history, let alone for someone who was once married, but with God's grace and discipline, it's possible.
PS: Talking from experience.

Interesting!

So, you who believe yourself a Christian don't even consider the very commandments of Jesus Christ, as given you even in Matthew 5 vs 27-28 worth trusting in, and obeying?

Diary of a thorn front page evening magazine

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Lol, stayed with sex throughout my pregnancy and until my baby clocked a year and 5 months. Practically seduced this son of man but unfortunately d sex aint nothing to write home about. I intend starving my flesh and feeding the spirit from now sha

Kobojunkie:
Wow... 3+ decades? Do you think you are maybe a Eunuch at this point?

he's probably a virgin