Married men in the house, which do you see keeps your marriage - love for your wife or Respect for her?

On one hand, one lady who is all nice and sweet, puts all her emotions into the rship, but her attitude, intellect needs some work. You are ready to help build her, educate her but you fear you might not respect that much. Her dream is a loving husband.

On the other hand, another lady, is not the loving/romantic type type, a little cold, but she is responsible and smart. You respect her a lot, but it looks, you will both have to grow the love. She'll have the tendency, say any disrespect, I'm packing my bags instead of working things out. Her primary focus is to be respected in her marriage.

Lastly, what do you ladies want? I hear some women say love, some say respect, some say both. It varies based on those who believe strongly in love vs those who don't want disrespect from their husbands. But one thing is sure, most women deep down want one over the other.

LOVE COVERETH ALL THINGS.


If u love ur wife/husband, you will Respect, Tolerate, truthful and be faithful to him/her.

"For without Love, ye can do nothing" .

Forget Marriage these days. It’s overhyped. It’s just necessary in our society. Btw: Torie8 which of the following will keep you?

opera1:
LOVE COVERETH ALL THINGS.

So will you agree, it's OK if a man loves his wife deeply, but cures his intellectual needs, or even one time sexual urges with another woman.

Reason - he love his wife, but she can't give him these needs, and he doesn't respect her enough to not ho outside for these stimulations.

Both love and respect is not even enough.

with love comes respect

How can you even love someone when you don't respect them

It's either lust or infatuation.

Respect is the key, the word love is just a chemical reaction .....

The bible said a man should love his wife
Woman respect n submit to ur husband

Love beat respect anytime.

missimelda01:
How can you even love someone when you don't respect them

It's either lust or infatuation.

It's possible.
But you can love your brother or sister, but their way of life would cause you not to respect them. You would love them dearly, but wish they could change.

Stephenmoka4:
Love beat respect anytime.

How so? Can you explain more.

Money
Money
Money

Non... when 2 people find long lasting happiness it's not because they love each other but, because they're good people."

johnrix:


How so? Can you explain more.

If you love someone, I don't think you will disrespect them by doing things that disturbs their emotional being. With love, one would not willingly do what will provoke the other.

Blackmoran:
Respect is the key, the word love is just a chemical reaction .....

Lol... chemical kwa

jawalis:
Forget Marriage these days. It’s overhyped. It’s just necessary in our society. Btw: Torie8 which of the following will keep you?

Well I think the two go together, you can't respect someone you don't love.

Torie8:

Well I think the two go together, you can't respect someone you don't love.

I think you can. Example, though I know this is not a romantic relationship, but you can deeply respect your friend/person but not love them.

Seems majority consensus is this:

MEN WANT RESPECT.

WOMEN WANT LOVE.

Nigerian ladies don't love or respect anymore, they only want your money and that all.

The more money in your bank account the more the love and respect she will have for you.

Torie8:

Well I think the two go together, you can't respect someone you don't love.

That’s not always true you know

johnrix:


I think you can. Example, though I know this is not a romantic relationship, but you can deeply respect your friend/person but not love them.

Pardon me but before you call someone your friend either romantic or just platonic friendship love must be there.

jawalis:

That’s not always true you know

You respect someone because you care and you don't want to hurt them.
Tell me what that means to you?

Torie8:
You respect someone because you care and you don't want to hurt them.
Tell me what that means to you?

Honestly respecting someone doesn’t mean I care about them. Personally I do respect people for different reasons. E.g. I may respect someone and let her be on her own just because I don’t want to do anything with her. That doesn’t mean I care but rather am just trying to avoid sh!t. Again I may chose to respect Anyone probably because of what they have done to me. Etc. I may not respect you and at the same time I do not want you hurt. It’s two way thing.

jawalis:

Honestly respecting someone doesn’t mean I care about them. Personally I do respect people for different reasons. E.g. I may respect someone and let her be on her own just because I don’t want to do anything with her. That doesn’t mean I care but rather am just trying to avoid sh!t. Again I may chose to respect Anyone probably because of what they have done to me. Etc. I may not respect you and at the same time I do not want you hurt. It’s two way thing.

But before you think of respecting someone,something must have crossed your mind

Torie8:

But before you think of respecting someone,something must have crossed your mind

I listed two of them above. Lots of things might pushed me to respect anyone. One of them is when am avoiding any firm of interaction. I’ll be forced to respect such individual.