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Re: Parent Financial Support After Marriage by bukatyne(f): 9:25pm On Jul 12, 2020 |
RedPhoenix: I am wondering what you are going on about here. Everyone has dropped their own perspectives and advised him to talk to her as he doesn't even know his babe's standpoint on this. If I agreed with your first post, we would not be here right? Ok, I agree with you. Let him share the money N50k each or N25K each for both parents. |
Re: Parent Financial Support After Marriage by SweetCunt97(f): 9:28pm On Jul 12, 2020 |
RedPhoenix:Splitting the money will make his family hate his wife. 1 Like |
Re: Parent Financial Support After Marriage by RedPhoenix: 9:28pm On Jul 12, 2020 |
bukatyne: What is this one saying. |
Re: Parent Financial Support After Marriage by RedPhoenix: 9:29pm On Jul 12, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: Marriage is between man and wife. Both the discussion of money sharing, who knows and who hates are purely distractions |
Re: Parent Financial Support After Marriage by blessedaunty: 9:33pm On Jul 12, 2020 |
It actually depends on your income and hers and whether you will want to put funds together, to pay for bills. As a single lady how much does she give her parents monthly? l and hubby work, at the end of the month, i send my to my parent while hubby sends to his. We also put money together to take care of bills. It depends on you whichever way you want it. You can discus with your fiance. It is not compulsory to send to hers. 1 Like |
Re: Parent Financial Support After Marriage by Eketem: 10:07pm On Jul 12, 2020 |
Beyond what you want to give to parents have the full financial debate 1. What do you both earn and what are your family monthly bills? Rent, light, fuel, DSTV,food etc. Who does what? What kind of ideology does she have towards finances? Does she expect a husband to do it all? Does she expect a wife to support? Does she expect a husband and wife to come together put resources together and pay bills? What are her views to extended family? 3 Likes |
Re: Parent Financial Support After Marriage by SweetCunt97(f): 10:19pm On Jul 12, 2020 |
RedPhoenix:Na dem sabi |
Re: Parent Financial Support After Marriage by Ikjosh04: 10:25pm On Jul 12, 2020 |
LewsTherin: |
Re: Parent Financial Support After Marriage by cococandy(f): 12:07am On Jul 13, 2020 |
Exactly what to do. Joint account. Fairness on both sides. If emergency arises or something happens and someone needs more for a genuine reason, then send more. No biggie Takotsubo: |
Re: Parent Financial Support After Marriage by Nobody: 12:54am On Jul 13, 2020 |
pocohantas:Best contribution on this thread. |
Re: Parent Financial Support After Marriage by Boss13: 3:04am On Jul 13, 2020 |
LewsTherin: Great advice. OP, do have this discussion with your fiance so both of you can come to a good conclusion. 1 Like |
Re: Parent Financial Support After Marriage by Unnerve: 7:39am On Jul 13, 2020 |
bukatyne:Lol, I quite find it odd though how any parent today will be comfortable collecting a monthly donation from a young married couple they ought to let build their lives. Perhaps people who do this have parents who have no single source of income of their own, but even then, my grandparents, all late from both sides, who didn't attend school, didn't work formal jobs and had no pensions or gratuities, weren't receiving a monthly salary. Not to mention we talking about parents today who are mostly retirees or business owners. 3 Likes |
Re: Parent Financial Support After Marriage by Miarose: 9:26am On Jul 13, 2020 |
Don't get involved in monthly remittances now and you shouldn't have told her what you give your family. If you ever stop ,you become bad and if u cut into your parents budget, they will resent her. However, since you have towed the path of openness, ask her what she and her siblings make available to their parents monthly.They must have something on the table, which you can just increase by a token. You may even find out that the aggregate sum from she and her siblings might top the 50k you give your parents. Chorismate: 2 Likes |
Re: Parent Financial Support After Marriage by LewsTherin: 1:11pm On Jul 13, 2020 |
Chorismate: You're not wrong. But I can't say you're right either. I don't think it should be a question of what either of you is giving to which set of parents. It should be a question of how much each set of parents have available for a good life and both of you ensure both sets have that. Either by coordinating each set of siblings (if you are in a position to do that) or by ensuring what you give each set is sufficient for that. It is dicey though. A test of a good man is the ability to balance competing needs. So flex your good-man-muscles. But seriously, you need to properly discuss finances with your lady. Very important. 2 Likes |
Re: Parent Financial Support After Marriage by bukatyne(f): 2:12pm On Jul 13, 2020 |
Unnerve: Well, different strokes for different folks. I know a friend who believed her husband should give both parents same thing as his duty. We run a joint account and give both sides as required. Some on a monthly basis, others as needed. If someone is comfortable, why should we even what we give when the other party needs it? This is apart from what we give for festive seasons of course. He really needs to take to his babe sha. Even this thread is based on his speculation. The babe might/might not expect him to send N50k to her own family. |
Re: Parent Financial Support After Marriage by NtiObaEneke(f): 2:36pm On Jul 13, 2020 |
Chorismate:Bride price |
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