I met this lady in 2012 while at achool and we started dating same year. She is a very gentle and quiet girl and i am also quiet but better than her. She gives me no problem and does not demand too much. She earns a living for herself and comfortable. We are both 28 years.

I have one major problem with our relationship. We cant have good conversations together and we are not friends. Over the years, she has promised to improve in terms of communication, but i am not feeling it at all. We are not friends. Whenever we are together, i have to call my friends to have conversations and relieve my boredom. A friend advised me to go see her parents, maybe she will change afterwards, this did not change anything. Throughout our 5 hours journey from her parent's house to mine, we did not discuss at all, despite my effort to engage.

She does not show emotions. I have tried several times to get her angry, but she would not show emotions. One time, i did a photoshop of me having a video call with a naked girl, and i gave her my phone to check pictures. She saw the picture, but gave no emotion at all. She just checked it and scrolled to the next picture. I WAS FLABBERGASTED.

Please, its been 7 years in this relationship, and her parents are already talking about marriage. I need advise as i want a fun
marriage, and be friends with my wife.

Can such a woman change?, or will I have to accommodate that for the rest of my life.

She does not show emotions. I have tried several times to get her angry, but she would not show emotions. One time, i did a photoshop of me having a video call with a naked girl, and i gave her my phone to check pictures. She saw the picture, but gave no emotion at all. She just checked it and scrolled to the next picture. I WAS FLABBERGASTED.

If she talks and complains to you, you will still complain that she nags.

What do you want self?

You even have a problem yourself.
Every human has what excites him/her no mater how cool or reserve he/she is.
For a whole five years, you haven’t understood your woman to know what does excite her and make her talk and look lively?

One time, i did a photoshop of me having a video call with a naked girl, and i gave her my phone to check pictures. She saw the picture, but gave no emotion at all. She just checked it and scrolled to the next picture.

This part caught my attention.

I hope she is not pretending and only waiting to be a full madam before showing her true character.

No matter how quiet and gentle someone is, what you did should have made her react.
Even if it's to have a talk or something.


But na wa for you o.
You have dated someone for 7 years, and are now asking questions. Questions you should have asked 6 years ago.

Odiegwu.


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Is she an Efiko,she is probably analysing you, May be you need more intellectual discuss to get her talking. It doesn't mean she is not lovable,she just can't express it. People like that are super focus all your Photoshop don't move them .Find out what she is passionate about and get talking along that lines .My girlfriend is super quite but I know she is a lovely unemotional person. I try to weigh her actions, love is what you do to show it,not necessarily only communication.

Hmmm

Guy do wetin dey your mind.

I've read this somewhere before.

take her out, take her to somewhere she really luv and have a heart to heart talk with her. tell her everything you said here and you'll have a headway.

temijoshuaa:
I met this lady in 2012 while at achool and we started dating same year. She is a very gentle and quiet girl and i am also quiet but better than her. She gives me no problem and does not demand too much. She earns a living for herself and comfortable. We are both 28 years.

I have one major problem with our relationship. We cant have good conversations together and we are not friends. Over the years, she has promised to improve in terms of communication, but i am not feeling it at all. We are not friends. Whenever we are together, i have to call my friends to have conversations and relieve my boredom. A friend advised me to go see her parents, maybe she will change afterwards, this did not change anything. Throughout our 5 hours journey from her parent's house to mine, we did not discuss at all, despite my effort to engage.

She does not show emotions. I have tried several times to get her angry, but she would not show emotions. One time, i did a photoshop of me having a video call with a naked girl, and i gave her my phone to check pictures. She saw the picture, but gave no emotion at all. She just checked it and scrolled to the next picture. I WAS FLABBERGASTED.

Please, its been 7 years in this relationship, and her parents are already talking about marriage. I need advise as i want a fun
marriage, and be friends with my wife.

Can such a woman change?, or will I have to accommodate that for the rest of my life.

SLAP HER FOR NO REASON, LETS SEE

She probably thinks you're boring too lol.. anyway, a quiet guy like you shouldn't have ventured into a relationship with a quiet girl, you should date bubbly, highly extroverted girls, they have a way of bringing quiet guys out of their shells and they can keep conversations going even when you're not talking much.

I wonder how two people can be in a relationship for 7 years without being friends, if I don't like someone's vibe, I can't stand being in a romantic relationship with them for even two months. What have you guys been doing together for the last 7 years? Just sex and romance? How did the relationship last so long without meaningful conversations?

7 years is just too long, if you break up with her now, it's gonna seem like you wasted her time. You knew she was quiet before you started dating her so why do you want her to change who she is now? But I must confess that her case is quite special because most quiet people tend to be talkative around people they are close to, I'm an introvert myself but I'm a completely different person around my loved ones, If I date a guy for up to 7 years, we're gonna be like twins, he'll be my gossip partner and I'll fart freely in his presence sef , 7 years is too long to not be comfortable with someone haba!

Guy u better run

Bro a good point you have raised here and I feel you 100% because I know exactly what you are talking about.. My golden Advice for you is run run run!! End it now. She will never change as dating her is like dating yourself and she can never make any Positive impact on your life especially at the area of advise.. You will always be an alfa n omega at home in whatever you are set to do be it positive or negative without guide in companionship. This type of lady is not multivated at all as they show no interest in anything.. No time for movies, news, sports or events happening around them. They are forgetful and are not committed to anything..

You may be troubled and need a shoulder to lean on in tough times but you can't find. You maybe in distress and need someone to talk to but can't find.
You maybe suprised to find her fall asleep in the middle of discussion when you are in distress and actually talking to her.
Bro, I'm speaking from experience and don't wish to go into details.
This is my piece of advise for you and other would be husband who found their selves in relationship with such characters. Just run run run! It's no what it. The only good thing I have come to realize about this type of woman is like in my own case they most likely don't cheat. Btw who toto epp.

I don't think you have much issue but how were you comfortable enough to date her for perfect 7 years with this her attitude you perceive to be a problem.
My aunt's husband is just like the girl you narrated in your story, my auny is an extrovert and that complemented the two of them. The man doesn't talk much, he knows the right thing to do and he does it. Even if the lady shouts and makes frenzy, he will just keep mute. When i visited them on 3 weeks holidays, I can count how many times we talked. Even if i am in his car with him, we can drive for the whole day without him uttering a word.
Though he has friends that he do gist with in rare occasions

What exactly do we guys want? cause am confused rn if they're good you'll complain if they're bad you'll still complain

CyberEBOLA:
SLAP HER FOR NO REASON, LETS SEE

You must be boring AF, which is why you both never have meaningful conversation, which in turn begs the question why she is still with you.

After 7 good years nd u re now complaining claiming u didnt kno her enough or she' boring bla bla.When u ought to study her nd kno hw u guys will b able 2 compliment each other is only sex dat will b in ur head, naw its time 2 settle down u re talkin gibberish.

U av 2 marry her o.It ur cross carry it,cos no one is perfect not excluding u.

Fu ck me sideways! How the hell did this boring couple get to 7 years? The fact that u 2 were in a relationship for 7 years is a modern day miracle.

I am an ambivert and i will prefer an extrovert lady so we will have a great conversable relationship.
You are an introvert and your girl is also an introvert,so what were you expecting?
Guy,7yrs no be small thing.If you leave this girl,e no go better for you ooo because this matter could have been settled the first year of your relationship.

The part where you said you photoshop your picture ...
Sincerely I feel like she's been broken
Maybe y'all had issues in the past and she's decided to not give a fuvk about anything


But for the part where you said she hardly converses with you? For 7 years?

Abeg the next person has something to say.

paul100:
I am an ambivert and i will prefer an extrovert lady so we will have a great conversable relationship.
You are an introvert and your girl is also an introvert,so what were you expecting?
Guy,7yrs no be small thing.If you leave this girl,e no go better for you ooo because this matter could have been settled the first year of your relationship.

exactly, a problem like this should have been thrashed out within the first few months of the relationship. Vibe is very important in a relationship, if you don't vibe well with your partner after six months, you should consider quitting, instead of wasting their time for 7 years. It's possible that the OP's girlfriend is very beautiful, that's why he didn't let her go all these while. Most guys can tolerate a boring girl if she's very pretty.

temijoshuaa:
I met this lady in 2012 while at achool and we started dating same year. She is a very gentle and quiet girl and i am also quiet but better than her. She gives me no problem and does not demand too much. She earns a living for herself and comfortable. We are both 28 years.

I have one major problem with our relationship. We cant have good conversations together and we are not friends. Over the years, she has promised to improve in terms of communication, but i am not feeling it at all. We are not friends. Whenever we are together, i have to call my friends to have conversations and relieve my boredom. A friend advised me to go see her parents, maybe she will change afterwards, this did not change anything. Throughout our 5 hours journey from her parent's house to mine, we did not discuss at all, despite my effort to engage.

She does not show emotions. I have tried several times to get her angry, but she would not show emotions. One time, i did a photoshop of me having a video call with a naked girl, and i gave her my phone to check pictures. She saw the picture, but gave no emotion at all. She just checked it and scrolled to the next picture. I WAS FLABBERGASTED.

Please, its been 7 years in this relationship, and her parents are already talking about marriage. I need advise as i want a fun
marriage, and be friends with my wife.

Can such a woman change?, or will I have to accommodate that for the rest of my life.

Let me not lie.

She will not change. I don't think she will.


Wait, let me ask the elders first.

temijoshuaa:
I met this lady in 2012 while at achool and we started dating same year. She is a very gentle and quiet girl and i am also quiet but better than her. She gives me no problem and does not demand too much. She earns a living for herself and comfortable. We are both 28 years.

I have one major problem with our relationship. We cant have good conversations together and we are not friends. Over the years, she has promised to improve in terms of communication, but i am not feeling it at all. We are not friends. Whenever we are together, i have to call my friends to have conversations and relieve my boredom. A friend advised me to go see her parents, maybe she will change afterwards, this did not change anything. Throughout our 5 hours journey from her parent's house to mine, we did not discuss at all, despite my effort to engage.

She does not show emotions. I have tried several times to get her angry, but she would not show emotions. One time, i did a photoshop of me having a video call with a naked girl, and i gave her my phone to check pictures. She saw the picture, but gave no emotion at all. She just checked it and scrolled to the next picture. I WAS FLABBERGASTED.

Please, its been 7 years in this relationship, and her parents are already talking about marriage. I need advise as i want a fun
marriage, and be friends with my wife.

Can such a woman change?, or will I have to accommodate that for the rest of my life.

Is she S.U?

Openbusiness4:
Guy u better run

Na to Jakpa sure for this matter kl

karkinase:

Na to Jakpa sure for this matter kl

After 7 years. But if he could cope for seven years, then he can cope for the rest of his life.
The Lady is a very peaceful woman.its the responsibility of the OP to improve the vibe !