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Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by Acidosis(m): 8:48am On Jul 29, 2020 |
mariahAngel:Working from home, spending little or zero time in traffic is not making the most of the 24hrs?
Why do you want to miss your husband? There's a possibility that you grew up in families where the man is hardly around or available, but that's not the norm across the board, okay?
So it's more of a prejudice or perception towards those working from home? Dating someone that works from home doesn't necessarily mean you both see each other 24/7 unless you guys cohabited. If you come once in a while to see your work from home guy, why is that a problem? 1 Like |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by bukatyne(f): 9:12am On Jul 29, 2020 |
Casemiro: They were living a fake life before the lockdown which was exposed during the lockdown and resulting remote work. It is an opportunity for them to honestly sit down and resolve their issues. 1 Like |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by mariahAngel(f): 9:18am On Jul 29, 2020 |
Munzy14: Owudikwa nke I ga ngaghari nke obe, gakwa ke nwere ishi No be excuse to come waka useless waka...akukwalam onye owu ishi o Ihe m wu, wu smart working Odogwu... Ka'm nu ihe! Just read OP's explanation... It's totally different from what we see in housewife.. A man in op's narrative is comfortably rich na... Even at that, I will still drive to biz office, interact with workers, learn one or two and return home... I am not even too extroverted nor introverted sef... just in middle as an Aquarius. There's just something unexciting about a man who works from home sha 1 Like |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by mariahAngel(f): 9:39am On Jul 29, 2020 |
Acidosis: I grew up in an environment where men go out to work and come back later in the day. That's the norm across the board. 2 Likes |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by Acidosis(m): 9:50am On Jul 29, 2020 |
mariahAngel: We all grew up in that environment where there is no internet, where men have to go out everyday to make a living. However, times have changed. It would do you and your man a lot of good to evolve with the emerging reality so your man doesn't lose his job to those willing to embrace telecommuting. Let me remind you again that Covid-19 is still around and third mainland bridge would remain closed for at least 6 months. 3 Likes |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 9:53am On Jul 29, 2020 |
Acidosis: When you marry wey you no tell me? |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by Acidosis(m): 10:03am On Jul 29, 2020 |
UyaiIncomparabl: Madam face your evangelical work |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by Munzy14(m): 10:17am On Jul 29, 2020 |
mariahAngel:ngaghari nke obe... That's unproductive waka na.. Na so, nwoke n'ebe godi wawuwawu... True, before your wife will mistakenly take u as househelp... A scenario like, she entered and see something misplaced, she will be like "kedu onye nzuzu wusara ihe ebe a"?... and if it be the hubby, then the man will come out and say honey o wu m ooo.... Na like that my fellow Man a nara godi the wife onye nzuzu unknowingly.....
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Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by mariahAngel(f): 10:17am On Jul 29, 2020 |
Acidosis: Tell me this the day you can download houses, foods, clothes, cars through the internet. Until then... However, times have changed. It would do you and your man a lot of good to evolve with the emerging reality so your man doesn't lose his job to those willing to embrace telecommuting. He can't lose something he owns. Let me remind you again that Covid-19 is still around and third mainland bridge would remain closed for at least 6 months. It's still not enough to keep a hardworking man down... They always find a way around situations. 1 Like |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by Munzy14(m): 10:24am On Jul 29, 2020 |
Casemiro:Very very..... |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by Munzy14(m): 10:28am On Jul 29, 2020 |
Acidosis:Use scarcity to create value.. Atimes. |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by Munzy14(m): 10:31am On Jul 29, 2020 |
Acidosis:I agree with just the bolded... 1 Like |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by Acidosis(m): 10:36am On Jul 29, 2020 |
mariahAngel: Well I understand your view and I'm not even trying to force my opinion on you. Only trying to correct the impression that "to be hardworking, you have to go out in the morning and come back at night." |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by Acidosis(m): 10:38am On Jul 29, 2020 |
Munzy14: True. But I wouldn't classify the idea of leaving your home at 6am and returning at 8pm as scarcity. That's a norm the wife and the kids will obviously get used to especially if you have to do this for 35 years. |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by Munzy14(m): 10:43am On Jul 29, 2020 |
Acidosis:6am-8pm? no, I can't. You won't even have time for the wife and kids especially. I am talking 8am-5pm... For normal white collar. And 10am -2pm for business executives. 6am - 8pm is slavery especially in the bank sector.. Of which I don't subscribe to.. 1 Like |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by bukatyne(f): 11:00am On Jul 29, 2020 |
Munzy14: @bold: Do you work sir? No offense meant here. Offices resume 8am to 5pm. Thay means you have to be in the officer by 8am (probably woken up 5am/6am depending on your promixity) to the office and jump on the road so you can be in the office by 8am. Yoi also close by 5pm and get home God knows when (again depending on the promixity). 8am - 5pm does not factor the commute time which is about 4/5hrs especially for people who think living far to the commercial centers where most of the jobs are because of the cost of living makes sense. This is totally different from living in Lekki/working in V/I peeps or living very close to your workplace which is ideal. People who also work outside Lagos also enjoy the lack of traffic and slower paced environments. Problem is most opportunities are in Lagos More people are beginning to embrace remote work to have better quality of life. Leaving your house 6am (which is late in some parts) and getting home 10pm is not 'life'. This is unfortunately the reality for a lot of people even though a number of companies started embracing flexi work hours before the lockdown. |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by mariahAngel(f): 11:39am On Jul 29, 2020 |
Acidosis: I appreciate that. |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by mariahAngel(f): 11:43am On Jul 29, 2020 |
Munzy14: Onye nzuzu Husband: Nne gini k'anyi g'eri n'abali a? Wife: Udi ajuju gini ka I na ju dim? Maka na onwere udi ajuju n'agbakashi mmadu ahu Oh! Ihe ichoro nnoo wu na m gachaa bata, m bia shiwere gi no nu ulo ke'mgbe ututu nri okwaya? Bia godi, gini ka isi I no n'ulo emedi ke'mgbe ututu m puwara 1 Like |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by Munzy14(m): 12:10pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
bukatyne:You people always use lagos to generalize work time. And you forgot, not everyone stays in lagos. The issues you stated above are one out of many reasons I avoid lagos... A lot slavery in the name of work. Some of us off lagos, take few minutes through and fro to work. Coming to lagos for me, is mostly business and transactions... voom! am off. Life is fun in lagos + opportunities , but the fact that somethings limits people, is a huge impedance na. I easily get bored, that's why you can't find me doing one thing repeatedly. Av worked and resigned.. To work for myself and combine lecturing later which give enough Time for personal business. |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by Munzy14(m): 12:21pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
mariahAngel:lmao.... you are very much aware of this kind life. And when marriage starts sounding this way, The Lovy-dovy begins to die a natural death... Before u will say Jack! oga has started buying clothes for househelp... And madam, will now suspect and boom, pull the roof down. I don't doubt the fact some men make huge income from home, but that home being office tire me, unless it's your own house, you can build a detached self contain office, and stay there... where by if wify returns, she won't even get to see u immediately. Example a lawyer whose chambers is situated in his house... And online sales rep plus people in the ICT sector. |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by bukatyne(f): 12:54pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
Munzy14: @bold: I have already addressed out of Lagos locations in the post you quoted. |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by Kobojunkie: 12:44am On Jul 30, 2020 |
Casemiro:What is wrong with a husband doing the chores ? No be him home too? Casemiro:Staying at home doing what though? |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by Kobojunkie: 12:49am On Jul 30, 2020 |
No hardworking man would like to be a househusband, even if he earns a lot working from home.[/quote] Where do you get that from? mariahAngel:A man who is comfortable in his own self, need not worry about labels. And a woman who loves her husband would not mind seeing him everyday, even if he shares the chores in the house with him. It's even better when there are kids involved as they learn from seeing their mother and father model what a good marriage ought to be for longer than many of us were raised to see. mariahAngel:If image is what you are into marriage for, then life knows how to shock you there too! 1 Like |
Re: Househusband? How Does It Feel Like by Kobojunkie: 12:52am On Jul 30, 2020 |
Unnerve:But it ain't feminists who have a problem with men who make themselves house-lords. The same men did chores when they lived alone, so why should they then sit back as lords in a home that is also theirs? There is feminism, and there is COMMONSENSE ... I suggest we all subscribe to the latter. Oyinbo man, when him dey home, go carry himself go fix up stuff around the house, takes out the trash, make breakfast for the whole house, take the kids to play so that his wife can rest etc. Why Nigerian man no fit do the same? Because na only him get ego? |
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