mariahAngel:

A man who makes the most of his 24hrs

Working from home, spending little or zero time in traffic is not making the most of the 24hrs?

What is there to look forward to in a man who stays home all day?
What is there to miss about him?

Why do you want to miss your husband?

There's a possibility that you grew up in families where the man is hardly around or available, but that's not the norm across the board, okay?

Yes, I have.

So it's more of a prejudice or perception towards those working from home? Dating someone that works from home doesn't necessarily mean you both see each other 24/7 unless you guys cohabited. If you come once in a while to see your work from home guy, why is that a problem?

Casemiro:



True.


But some of these couples were living a fairly happy life before the lockdown.


Don't you think such level of closeness may lead to 'see finish' ?


.

They were living a fake life before the lockdown which was exposed during the lockdown and resulting remote work.

It is an opportunity for them to honestly sit down and resolve their issues.

Munzy14:

House husband.. very strange... We have not finish with housewife, and the challenges, ma ya fo kwa nke husband....


A man who wakes up, get dressed and leave for either work place or business venture has huge respect from the wife, than the one that sits at home, watching zee world, and always on laptop doing whatever... Even if you are earning from home, just go out, and come in... .

It's better when your wife opens the gate to welcome u, than the other way.

Owudikwa nke I ga ngaghari nke obe, gakwa ke nwere ishi
No be excuse to come waka useless waka...akukwalam onye owu ishi o

Ihe m wu, wu smart working Odogwu...

Ka'm nu ihe!

Just read OP's explanation... It's totally different from what we see in housewife.. A man in op's narrative is comfortably rich na... Even at that, I will still drive to biz office, interact with workers, learn one or two and return home... I am not even too extroverted nor introverted sef... just in middle as an Aquarius.

There's just something unexciting about a man who works from home sha

Acidosis:

Working from home, spending little or zero time in traffic is not making the most of the 24hrs?

Why do you want to miss your husband?
It brings excitement.

There's a possibility that you grew up in families where the man is hardly around or available, but that's not the norm across the board, okay?





So it's more of a prejudice or perception towards those working from home? Dating someone that works from home doesn't necessarily mean you both see each other 24/7 unless you guys cohabited. If you come once in a while to see your work from home guy, why is that a problem?

I grew up in an environment where men go out to work and come back later in the day.
That's the norm across the board.

mariahAngel:


I grew up in an environment where men go out to work and come back later in the day.
That's the norm across the board.

We all grew up in that environment where there is no internet, where men have to go out everyday to make a living.

However, times have changed. It would do you and your man a lot of good to evolve with the emerging reality so your man doesn't lose his job to those willing to embrace telecommuting.

Let me remind you again that Covid-19 is still around and third mainland bridge would remain closed for at least 6 months.

Acidosis:



If your marriage hasn't gotten to the see finish level, then it is not a marriage but a WAR.

Couples are meant to see finish. And, respect has nothing to do with going out of your house and coming back at night everyday. I've been working from home since 2014 and will continue to do so. Yet, respect has never been an issue to talk about in my years of dating and even now that I'm married.

Unless one lives in a slum or hell, leaveeeing your home daily shouldn't be something you enjoy more than staying at home
with your family even if your job demands you travel 24/7.

Should one go out? Of course, that's why we have legs for mobility.

When you marry wey you no tell me?

UyaiIncomparabl:


When you marry wey you no tell me?

Madam face your evangelical work

mariahAngel:


Owudikwa nke I ga ngaghari nke obe, gakwa ke nwere ishi
No be excuse to come waka useless waka...akukwalam onye owu ishi o



Ka'm nu ihe!




There's just something unexciting about a man who works from home sha

ngaghari nke obe... That's unproductive waka na..


Na so, nwoke n'ebe godi wawuwawu...


True, before your wife will mistakenly take u as househelp...

A scenario like, she entered and see something misplaced, she will be like "kedu onye nzuzu wusara ihe ebe a"?... and if it be the hubby, then the man will come out and say honey o wu m ooo....

Na like that my fellow Man a nara godi the wife onye nzuzu unknowingly.....

Acidosis:


We all grew up in that environment where there is no internet, where men have to go out everyday to make a living.

Tell me this the day you can download houses, foods, clothes, cars through the internet. Until then...

However, times have changed. It would do you and your man a lot of good to evolve with the emerging reality so your man doesn't lose his job to those willing to embrace telecommuting.

He can't lose something he owns.

Let me remind you again that Covid-19 is still around and third mainland bridge would remain closed for at least 6 months.

It's still not enough to keep a hardworking man down...
They always find a way around situations.

Casemiro:





True.


That respect will begin to dwindle with time.

And respect is very important in marriage

Very very.....

Acidosis:


What's your definition of hardworking man?

And why do you feel you would get bored living with a man that works from home?

Have you ever met, dated, or married to a man that works from home?

Use scarcity to create value.. Atimes.

Acidosis:



If your marriage hasn't gotten to the see finish level, then it is not a marriage but a WAR.

Couples are meant to see finish. And BTW, respect has nothing to do with going out of your house and coming back at night everyday. I've been working from home since 2014 and will continue to do so. Yet, respect has never been an issue to talk about in my years of dating and even now that I'm married.

Unless one lives in a slum or hell, leaving your home daily shouldn't be something you enjoy more than staying at home
with your family even if your job demands you travel 24/7.

Should one go out? Of course, that's why we have legs for mobility.

I agree with just the bolded...

mariahAngel:


Tell me this the day you can download houses, foods, clothes, cars through the internet. Until then...



He can't lose something he owns.



It's still not enough to keep a hardworking man down...
They always find a way around situations.

Well I understand your view and I'm not even trying to force my opinion on you. Only trying to correct the impression that "to be hardworking, you have to go out in the morning and come back at night."

Munzy14:

Use scarcity to create value.. Atimes.

True. But I wouldn't classify the idea of leaving your home at 6am and returning at 8pm as scarcity. That's a norm the wife and the kids will obviously get used to especially if you have to do this for 35 years.

Acidosis:



True. But I wouldn't classify the idea of leaving your home at 6am and returning at 8pm as scarcity. That's a norm the wife and the kids will obviously get used to.

6am-8pm? no, I can't. You won't even have time for the wife and kids especially.


I am talking 8am-5pm... For normal white collar.

And 10am -2pm for business executives.


6am - 8pm is slavery especially in the bank sector.. Of which I don't subscribe to..

Munzy14:

6am-8pm? no, I can't. You won't even have time for the wife and kids especially.


I am talking 8am-5pm... For normal white collar.

And 10am -2pm for business executives.


6am - 8pm is slavery especially in the bank sector.. Of which I don't subscribe to..

@bold:

Do you work sir?

No offense meant here.

Offices resume 8am to 5pm.

Thay means you have to be in the officer by 8am (probably woken up 5am/6am depending on your promixity) to the office and jump on the road so you can be in the office by 8am.

Yoi also close by 5pm and get home God knows when (again depending on the promixity).

8am - 5pm does not factor the commute time which is about 4/5hrs especially for people who think living far to the commercial centers where most of the jobs are because of the cost of living makes sense.

This is totally different from living in Lekki/working in V/I peeps or living very close to your workplace which is ideal.

People who also work outside Lagos also enjoy the lack of traffic and slower paced environments. Problem is most opportunities are in Lagos

More people are beginning to embrace remote work to have better quality of life.

Leaving your house 6am (which is late in some parts) and getting home 10pm is not 'life'.

This is unfortunately the reality for a lot of people even though a number of companies started embracing flexi work hours before the lockdown.

Acidosis:


Well I understand your view and I'm not even trying to force my opinion on you. Only trying to correct the impression that "to be hardworking, you have to go out in the morning and come back at night."

I appreciate that.

Munzy14:

ngaghari nke obe... That's unproductive waka na..


Na so, nwoke n'ebe godi wawuwawu...


True, before your wife will mistakenly take u as househelp...

A scenario like, she entered and see something misplaced, she will be like "kedu onye nzuzu wusara ihe ebe a"?... and if it be the hubby, then the man will come out and say honey o wu m ooo....

Na like that my fellow Man a nara godi the wife onye nzuzu unknowingly.....

Onye nzuzu

Husband: Nne gini k'anyi g'eri n'abali a?

Wife: Udi ajuju gini ka I na ju dim? Maka na onwere udi ajuju n'agbakashi mmadu ahu
Oh! Ihe ichoro nnoo wu na m gachaa bata, m bia shiwere gi no nu ulo ke'mgbe ututu nri okwaya?
Bia godi, gini ka isi I no n'ulo emedi ke'mgbe ututu m puwara

bukatyne:


@bold:

Do you work sir?

No offense meant here.

Offices resume 8am to 5pm.

Thay means you have to be in the officer by 8am (probably woken up 5am/6am depending on your promixity) to the office and jump on the road so you can be in the office by 8am.

Yoi also close by 5pm and get home God knows when (again depending on the promixity).

8am - 5pm does not factor the commute time which is about 4/5hrs especially for people who think living far to the commercial centers where most of the jobs are because of the cost of living makes sense.

This is totally different from living in Lekki/working in V/I peeps or living very close to your workplace which is ideal.

People who also work outside Lagos also enjoy the lack of traffic and slower paced environments. Problem is most opportunities are in Lagos

More people are beginning to embrace remote work to have better quality of life.

Leaving your house 6am (which is late in some parts) and getting home 10pm is not 'life'.

This is unfortunately the reality for a lot of people even though a number of companies started embracing flexi work hours before the lockdown.

You people always use lagos to generalize work time.

And you forgot, not everyone stays in lagos.


The issues you stated above are one out of many reasons I avoid lagos... A lot slavery in the name of work.

Some of us off lagos, take few minutes through and fro to work.


Coming to lagos for me, is mostly business and transactions... voom! am off.

Life is fun in lagos + opportunities , but the fact that somethings limits people, is a huge impedance na. I easily get bored, that's why you can't find me doing one thing repeatedly.

Av worked and resigned.. To work for myself and combine lecturing later which give enough Time for personal business.

mariahAngel:


Onye nzuzu

Husband: Nne gini k'anyi g'eri n'abali a?

Wife: Udi ajuju gini ka I na ju dim? Maka na onwere udi ajuju n'agbakashi mmadu ahu
Oh! Ihe ichoro nnoo wu na m gachaa bata, m bia shiwere gi no nu ulo ke'mgbe ututu nri okwaya?
Bia godi, gini ka isi I no n'ulo emedi ke'mgbe ututu m puwara

lmao.... you are very much aware of this kind life.

And when marriage starts sounding this way, The Lovy-dovy begins to die a natural death... Before u will say Jack! oga has started buying clothes for househelp...

And madam, will now suspect and boom, pull the roof down.

I don't doubt the fact some men make huge income from home, but that home being office tire me, unless it's your own house, you can build a detached self contain office, and stay there... where by if wify returns, she won't even get to see u immediately. Example a lawyer whose chambers is situated in his house... And online sales rep plus people in the ICT sector.

Munzy14:

You people always use lagos to generalize work time.

And you forgot, not everyone stays in lagos.


The issues you stated above are one out of many reasons I avoid lagos... A lot slavery in the name of work.

Some of us off lagos, take few minutes through and fro to work.


Coming to lagos for me, is mostly business and transactions... voom! am off.

Life is fun in lagos + opportunities , but the fact that somethings limits people, is a huge impedance na. I easily get bored, that's why you can't find me doing one thing repeatedly.

Av worked and resigned.. To work for myself and combine lecturing later which give enough Time for personal business.

@bold:

I have already addressed out of Lagos locations in the post you quoted.

Casemiro:
It is known that some men prefer housewives who are always at home.
Now let's look at it from a different angle. What about househusbands? How does it feel like to be one.
By househusbands, I don't mean a man who sits at home washing the dishes, cooking, and doing the laundry while the wife is out there doing one business or the other to bring food to the table.

What is wrong with a husband doing the chores ? No be him home too?

Casemiro:
By househusband, I mean a man who makes his money passively and doesn't need to go out everyday to bring food to the table. He probably has a business that fetches him money, maybe he is into real estate, works online as a freelancer, has many shops with boys, or any other source that gives him ample time to stay at home.
such men prefer staying at home than hanging out all day.
So, how does it feel like to be a househusband?
Your input is highly appreciated

Staying at home doing what though?

No hardworking man would like to be a househusband, even if he earns a lot working from home.[/quote] Where do you get that from?

mariahAngel:
Even the word Househusband is unattractive. A total turnoff.
One would easily get bored of such men even as a housewife.

A man who is comfortable in his own self, need not worry about labels. And a woman who loves her husband would not mind seeing him everyday, even if he shares the chores in the house with him. It's even better when there are kids involved as they learn from seeing their mother and father model what a good marriage ought to be for longer than many of us were raised to see.

mariahAngel:
There's something very attractive about men who go out to work and come home later in the day.
For such men, you'd do anything to please.
To me, a handsome man is a hardworking man, not a fine boy.

Munzy14, I wu househusband k'owu hardworking Dike?

If image is what you are into marriage for, then life knows how to shock you there too!

Unnerve:
This is the definition of a househusband, and if feminism and gender equality should ever be taken seriously, then there's nothing wrong with a househusband going by the above definition.

It's a brave new world and I recommend that all feminists (in staying true to their belief) ought not to have any issues with househusbands, they may also ensure they are married to such.
I love women who can walk their talk.

But it ain't feminists who have a problem with men who make themselves house-lords. The same men did chores when they lived alone, so why should they then sit back as lords in a home that is also theirs?
There is feminism, and there is COMMONSENSE ... I suggest we all subscribe to the latter.
Oyinbo man, when him dey home, go carry himself go fix up stuff around the house, takes out the trash, make breakfast for the whole house, take the kids to play so that his wife can rest etc. Why Nigerian man no fit do the same? Because na only him get ego?