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Re: Post Deleted by Olayinka8793(m): 9:08pm On Aug 04, 2020 |
Klass99:God blessed you abundantly my sister. You truly understand my pain. |
Re: Post Deleted by heryur(m): 9:28pm On Aug 04, 2020 |
Olayinka8793:
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Re: Post Deleted by Eketem: 9:28pm On Aug 04, 2020 |
If you marry now and live in the family compound; it will be easier for your brother. He will come and drop the kids with your wife and make life more stressful for her. Since you are not willing to do anything to help yourself keep managing till you build your house and move out 7 Likes |
Re: Post Deleted by PuZZyNegro: 11:01pm On Aug 04, 2020 |
Olayinka8793: All I can say is Afonjaaaaaaa Where's that stewpid person saying Igbo ladies this, Igbo men that. See, from Op father to his brothers, all irresponsible people, marrying women and bearing children they cannot take care of. 70% of Yorubas who married more than one wife don't live with them. It's more like being a community dick while the women hustle to train the children and of course the cycle continues as the guys join touting and cultism so early while the ladies take to baby mamarism and following babas to become the 10th wife 3 Likes |
Re: Post Deleted by highbee02: 11:24pm On Aug 04, 2020 |
UndauntedYOCA: I like your contribution on this matter, as little as the kids are, they know what's going on. Even if their father didn't reciprocate the gesture, just continue doing your best, it's called HUMANITY |
Re: Post Deleted by Gloriagee(f): 12:00am On Aug 05, 2020 |
U be real militant Exmilitant: |
Re: Post Deleted by Olayinka8793(m): 12:04am On Aug 05, 2020 |
PuZZyNegro:You are a disgrace to rationality, sensibility and logic. 4 Likes |
Re: Post Deleted by Nobody: 1:30am On Aug 05, 2020 |
There are different perspective to this narrative while I may blame ur bro for doing whatever he feels like do not be a deadbeat like him! Talk to your parents about how he’s always fond of doing that, talk to your mom separately, hear what she says, talk to your dad also, it’s good you are working. You can make them earn by teaching dem barbing, in time if they are able to learn quick, sublet the Shop to ‘em and open a new branch and expand! Think Positive boY. Quit whining, family won’t always make you happy, just have to make most of the situation you are served in life! Could be a blessing or a curse depends on how you handle the situation! |
Re: Post Deleted by Georgekyrian(m): 2:23am On Aug 05, 2020 |
Olayinka8793: Like you don't get her questions, give yourself a treat sometimes. Make hustle no go kill you |
Re: Post Deleted by jaymichael(m): 8:58am On Aug 05, 2020 |
Olayinka8793:A lot of people are in the grave now because of "what other people will think of them and their actions" The way e dey go, e be like say you too will be part of the statistics. If your other siblings think it is easy, they should take up the responsibility na. 3 Likes |
Re: Post Deleted by soonpoint(m): 10:05am On Aug 05, 2020 |
Call your brother and ask for money for the upkeep of his children. You should start from that call. His response will determine how you proceed. If you can afford taking care of them, please contionue, they are family. However i think your major grouse is that your brother abdicated his responsibility for you without any remorse. Call him, let him know he didnt drop anything for their upkeep and ask when he'll be coming to pick the kids. Because he may completely abandon them with you once he starts sending money for their up keep. Ideally, the kids shoukd be with their grandma and not a bachelor. But i guess he has weighed all options and agrees that you are most responsible or he is just irresponsible and nonchalant. Ògbéni málo fìtìjú kaárùn o 2 Likes |
Re: Post Deleted by Nobody: 10:12am On Aug 05, 2020 |
Olayinka8793:Stop cutting corners just tell him. After all you did not force him to have those children, how would a man without enough to take care of himself fight for the custody of his children. Africa! 1 Like |
Re: Post Deleted by Nobody: 10:14am On Aug 05, 2020 |
PuZZyNegro:Are you sure you are mentally stable? 1 Like |
Re: Post Deleted by HomerTimpson: 11:30am On Aug 05, 2020 |
Olayinka8793 hi bro,i wanted to comment since last night but i had low battery,i really understand what you are going through,now ask yourself this what if you are one of those lads? And someone else is abt to make this kind of your decision? or are you thinking those lads don't know what you are doing for them? You think they are still that small ? The table may turn tomorrow so i'll advice you to continue with good works you are doing I know its not easy financially especially when you have a project as that but, Whenever you want to make any lame move in the name of maning up,just remember BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER ANYTIME 3 Likes |
Re: Post Deleted by HomerTimpson: 11:36am On Aug 05, 2020 |
[quote author=heryur post=92463322][/quote] BEAUTIFUL QUOTE but did you know how the man died ? Just saying thou |
Re: Post Deleted by HomerTimpson: 11:46am On Aug 05, 2020 |
highbee02:you are second person that commented my comment after undauntedYOCA reading those other comments,its sad to see lots of people have lost being humane,if one can't make this kind of sacrifice for a family,and saying "I LOVE YOU TO A STRANGER where is the love ? |
Re: Post Deleted by Exmilitant(m): 11:57am On Aug 05, 2020 |
Gloriagee:Ex, actually.
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Re: Post Deleted by Olayinka8793(m): 12:30pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
HomerTimpson:Sacrifice should be a freely done thing from the mind, not forced on anyone. Being deprived of ones happiness and peace of mind against ones will all in the name of been forced to sacrifice is unacceptable. 4 Likes |
Re: Post Deleted by Gloriagee(f): 1:17pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
Okurr. I dey use one eye watch u o to confirm whether the militant na ex or na current status. Exmilitant: |
Re: Post Deleted by blank(f): 3:03pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
Please, don't abandon the kids. This might be the only holiday they get in a year. What I would suggest is to respectfully discuss with your brother and tell him that your salon is not making enough to support everyone. That if he can be leaving them for only 2 weeks that it would help you. Then also ask the oldest to be going with you to your salon and be teaching him as you work. Don't just teach him how to barb hair, teach him how to manage a barbing salon. Soon, he might set up one back at his home. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Post Deleted by chukzyfcbb: 5:58pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
Even if you pack into your house. your brother will bring your nephew there and leave them with you, then it would be harder to act because it is your house. Don't let anybody manipulate you, managing 3kids especially male kids is not easy. You have to find a way to talk to him. I don't know why people fear the consequences of talking to superior head. I can confront the decision of anybody CEO/MD/HOD etc(respectfuly though) as long as I have done my due diligence and I know my hands are clean. if you talk, you die if you no talk, you still die. so why not talk and die Man up bro and take a pinch of NLanders sentences. Most of them are hypocrites who would write things to get likes. #Nuff said 3 Likes |
Re: Post Deleted by PuZZyNegro: 6:50pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
SegFault: E pain m |
Re: Post Deleted by ImaIma1(f): 6:52pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
chii8: Best advice. OP this is what I wanted to suggest. Pack a bag and feign an important trip. He will carry his children with him. |
Re: Post Deleted by HomerTimpson: 8:08pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
Olayinka8793:while you may be right,but did you even know what blood is ? You even neglet the part i said what if you are one of those lads right now,what are we even saying,its your family not mine,make your decision and regret or happy in future...take care bro |
Re: Post Deleted by frozen70(f): 10:35am On Aug 06, 2020 |
Olayinka8793: As painful as it is, you have to make move quickly Children are on holidays and may continue to be till December You are building a house fine, it doesn't stop you to get married If you are not married yet, you will continue to be ready to cater for others because they assume that you don't have anything doing with your money As for your irresponsible brother, so far you are taking care if the children he left there, he will soon pregnant the third woman and on and on, those his wives left because he lacks responsibilities Mind you whatever you are doing for them has no valid and good record in their minds, I mean your family not those innocent kids So get a family engagement with your wife, so far you have a room to yourself in the family house, once you are married they restrain from disturbing you Even if its a mere introduction that's OK, the rest will follow up later You don't need to talk much with your brother over his kids, it will be regarded as insult But if you have a place to go and stay far away from the house for like two weeks and don't even come to shop, pls do those kids will be taken back by their father As far as you go to shop every day, you have to do the needful in them 2 Likes |
Re: Post Deleted by Aimerosa25(f): 12:33pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Let me tell you a thing or three,it's either you talk to your brother and make him understand that he needs to be a responsible father,or you drain your meagre resources when you've barely taken care of yourself,you are building remember,and it takes lots of expenses, or you take to prayer and ask God for guidance. 2 Likes |
Re: Post Deleted by Greatzeus(m): 9:17am On Aug 07, 2020 |
A barber wrote this? Omg Your command of English is very good,infact too good for a barber. This is why I always diss all these paper graduate that comes here and write blunders, saying 'please pardon my grammatical errors' ni gga please,you are a half baked graduate stfu. 2 Likes |
Re: Post Deleted by Blissquare(f): 9:49am On Aug 08, 2020 |
I understand your plight. it is the nature of your family. the way your dad raised his family results in people putting their responsibilities on others, not being accountable for one's actions. if you vouce out, everyone woukd say that you are bad. if you do not, you continue to suffer. what you must do is to leave your apprentice in the shop fir that period and determine to be unavailable shortly before your brother leaves. say you are going out of town and lie about when you would be back. you must nit be available otherwise more would be put on you. i am happy that you are gainfully employed despite your fathers ways. 1 Like |
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