If I Could Survive Domestic Violence And Remain This Happy, You Too Can- Nigerian Woman Writes As She Shares Her Story.

A Nigerian businesswoman, Azubuike Chinyere, has used her life experience to warn women against the ills of staying in a bad marriage.

In a post shared on her Facebook page, Chinyere recounted how her once-happy marriage turned sour and how she suffered domestic violence all through the period she was married. She stated that she walked out of her marriage after her husband beat her to a state of coma. She fled from her matrimonial home with their three children and went to stay with her parents where she began to pick up the pieces of her life.

If I could survive domestic violence and remain this happy, you too can- Nigerian woman writes as she shares her story

She added that she has forgiven her ex-husband and is so happy as a single mum.

Her post reads

”She got married in the most painful way anyone can think of.

She ended up managing her situation just to have a happy home.

Her husband whom she met as a “growing man” and gave him her support. She watched him grow from self-contain to 1bedroom to 3 bedroom flat and finally to their own duplex.

She watched him grow from a mere boat rider to a captain of a ship.
She watched him grow from leggedy benz to taxi, to Honda Bullet, to Toyota highlander and to Benz C class. She watched her used to be poor husband turn into a multi-millionaire.

Unfortunately things went sour. She started enduring domestic violence, abuse, infidelity and maltreatment from her inlaws.

She hid her tribulations from her family cos she didn’t want them worried. She also was scared of the society mocking her for having a failed marriage. She prayed, she fasted, she did vigils, she did the midnight heart to heart talk with her husband just to find out what went wrong but it got worse.

She endured domestic violence both from the beatings with the use of belt to insults and body shaming, use of boiling ring, she even gets woken up at 1am to cook for him, she has slept one day and woke up by the bucket of water poured on her and the worst of it all? She gave birth via CS and was beaten for not taking her sister in-laws calls which resulted to her surgery site tearing open and she went into the theatre for another stitching.

She has all the scars showing her survival.

And the last straw was when she experienced a fatal abuse which landed her in coma. But as a fighter she fought it and survived coma.

That was the end of her marriage. She ran to her parent’s house with her 3 beautiful kids. She left when the 1st child was 3yrs and the twins were barely 10months old.

Her parents took her kids from her and asked her to go finish school which she did, she went for nysc and started life afresh doing every legit job she could think of just to raise money.

She saw hell. She suffered. She entered into dangerous depression and became suicidal. She even started resenting her kids and living a life of regret. She almost became mentally unstable but it took a pastor and her mother to save her.

How? They introduced the power of FORGIVENESS. She tried her best to forgive her ex husband and his family. It wasn’t easy but she did it. She decided to focus on her future and her kid’s future.

Life started falling into place. She was hustling different businesses and finally became a School Director and a caterer.

She is not yet where she wants to be but she is in a happy place. Today she is with her kids, taking care of them and paying her bills ALONE without any support from anyone except her supportive family.

The 1st picture was taken after she forgave her ex in 2015.

The 2nd picture was taken in 2020, 5yrs later.

2019 her ex family called her for reconciliation but she made them understand that she has forgiven them and bears no grudge but reconciliation is never possible.

This is the summarized story of Azubuike Chinenye.

When I tell you I have seen a lot in this life, pls believe me.

I am not here to speak ill of my ex-husband or his family but to make you understand that marriage didn’t favor me. Life has thrown at me the status of single mother which I wear with pride.

If I could survive domestic violence and remain this happy, you too can.

It’s not easy. I won’t even lie to you, being a single mother doing everything is not easy but the peace of mind and Happiness makes me not to feel anything.

Dear You reading this, anytime you feel like giving up, anytime you go depressed, pls visit my page and look at my picture.

If I can survive it, you can.

I am not a motivational speaker; I am only here sharing my story and my personal experience hoping that someone out there learns from it.

I am Azubuike Chinenye a domestic violence survivor and a business mogul”

Na wa o, God is your strength o. But there is always three sides to a story

wow! so inspiring...i felt goose bumps on my body while reading this.



Nawa o some men sha

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Strong woman.

I wish her the best in all her future endeavors. Nothing but positivity

I've learnt to be careful of a one-sided story, especially the woman's side of the story.

I once went out with my ex and after a wonderful evening, on our way back to the car she slipped and her foot got stuck in a hole. I was alarmed, rushed to remove her foot from the hole, carried her to the car and took her to the clinic, I had to even back her up the stairs to where she got treated and they put a bandage over her leg and we were happy again as she got better.

Hmmmmm... after breakup, I heard that I beat her so badly and sprained her leg and thats why she had a bandage on her leg. I couldn't even imagine where that story came from, I was so shocked that I didn't even bother trying to defend myself as the story was told far and wide and I was the last person to hear the news of what I did.

Countless times, I have learnt never to judge based on the story of a scorned woman - very risky.

Sure bro

MurderX:
I've learnt to be careful of a one-sided story, especially the woman's side of the story.

I once went out with my ex and after a wonderful evening, on our way back to the car she slipped and her foot got stuck in a hole. I was alarmed, rushed to remove her foot from the hole, carried her to the car and took her to the clinic, I had to even back her up the stairs to where she got treated and they put a bandage over her leg and we were happy again as she got better.

Hmmmmm... after breakup, I heard that I beat her so badly and sprained her leg and thats why she had a bandage on her leg. I couldn't even imagine where that story came from, I was so shocked that I didn't even bother trying to defend myself as the story was told far and wide and I was the last person to hear the news of what I did.

Countless times, I have learnt never to judge based on the story of a scorned woman - very risky.

yea.. Amen!

cococandy:
I wish her the best in all her future endeavors. Nothing but positivity

yeah

Hathor5:
Strong woman.

yeahh...

merieam16:
wow! so inspiring...i felt goose bumps on my body while reading this.



Nawa o some men sha

Super woman, God will always be your strength. you are a winner and a conqueror. You shall live to enjoy the fruits of your labour in Jesus name Amen

Amen!!

Jesuisbelle:
Super woman, God will always be your strength. you are a winner and a conqueror. You shall live to enjoy the fruits of your labour in Jesus name Amen

She must have been really really young if she witnessed her husband's financial growth, had three children and still went to NYSC after she left the marriage.

I won't judge based on one side narration.

Whether or not her story is true, it doesn't negate the fact that spousal abuse is real.
I have seen it happen and still seeing it.

Some have died.
Some are still waiting for their spouses to change.
Some say they don't want their kids to come from different men.
Some will still die there.
Some have left and they became better.

Life has no duplicate. If she had remained and died, they wouldn't have come for reconciliation.

sure

Ishilove:
She must have been really really young if she witnessed her husband's financial growth, had three children and still went to NYSC after she left the marriage.

I won't judge based on one side narration.

True talk

LadySarah:
Whether or not her story is true, it doesn't negate the fact that spousal abuse is real.
I have seen it happen and still seeing it.

Some have died.
Some are still waiting for their spouses to change.
Some say they don't want their kids to come from different men.
Some will still die there.
Some have left and they became better.

Life has no duplicate. If she had remained and died, they wouldn't have come for reconciliation.

Ishilove:
She must have been really really young if she witnessed her husband's financial growth, had three children and still went to NYSC after she left the marriage.

I won't judge based on one side narration.

Yea, we need to hear from both parties to better evaluate what happened.

Sure

bigfrancis21:


Yea, we need to hear from both parties to better evaluate what happened.

bigfrancis21:


Yea, we need to hear from both parties to better evaluate what happened.

But why is that guys don't request to hear the other party when it is a guy who posts his story.

Till death do we part?

I'm happy that she is strong but I'm not believing her side of the story until I hear from all parties involved.

Social media justice is the worst today and the person who plays the victim most likely turns out to be the aggressor.

Most of the men changing in their marriage is not an ordinary thing, some are under a serious spell. Also I want to hear the man's side of the story, we women are good at playing the victim.

yeah dear... you're right

Nuttella:
Most of the men changing in their marriage is not an ordinary thing, some are under a serious spell. Also I want to hear the man's side of the story, we women are good at playing the victim.