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My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by kenwills(m): 9:30pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
Hello nairalanders, I've been on this forum for a longtime but I decided to create a new account to remain anonymous. We are just 3 but my elder sister always feels unconcerned about I and my younger brother to the extent that if I don't call to check on her she never does, she ceases any opportunity to talk bad about me to anyone who cares to listen and since I've been in school, she has never bothered to know who foot my bills, pays my fees nor how I survive. I felt uncomfortable with this attitude because she has been like this since childhood. So I approached her recently, and asked her why she behaves as though I'm an enemy to her. I made her see reasons why we should lookout for each other and hold no grudges against one another, seeing that our parents is no more. But she flared up suddenly and started shouting at the top of her voice, that we have no business at all and whatever I become tomorrow is none of her business either, that I should stay away from her henceforth cos she's never going to support me in any way. I was heartbroken to hear what has been on her mind over an unknown issue because I only wanted us to be united as one family. Pls I need your advice, if you were in my shoes what would you do? 3 Likes
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Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by Olunmercy56(f): 9:31pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
Just be looking unto God, the Alpha and Omega 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by Tocynone(m): 9:32pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
I believe everyone has their own challenges. She may be going through a lot without informing you. Just give her more time 5 Likes |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by TransAtlanticEx(m): 9:33pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
Man weh no get money must suffer for women hand,na their way...Whether sister,girlfriend or whatever except mothers,in my own case atleast. Nwanne belu e belu,when hustle pay e go dey call you for phone dey pass phone to her children make them rapport with their uncle. That time bone her,her bastard children and the damn husband,if she will ever have any. Na so them dey run this kind matters. Welcome to the world of suffering bro,enjoy it and dont let it weigh you down. Goodluck. 9 Likes |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by kenwills(m): 9:38pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
Tocynone: OK thanks for your input. 1 Like |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by ojun50(m): 9:40pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
Better go make money and forget say you get on yeye elder sister for one side, later she go fine you...... This kind tin na small issue 5 Likes |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by Righteousness89(m): 9:41pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
This is where you Consult My DADDY who Has the Heart of Man in His Hands.. Be the Instrument that God will use to bring your Family together.. It's Very Important that we Know God and Surrender to JESUS, not Just in Mouth but indeed.. When there is a Problem we stand in the Gap to pray. Problems like this goes on for long when there is no one to Stand in the Gap in Prayers.. 4 Likes |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by Ugaboy: 9:41pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
you have to live your life without her, make sure u build a life in such that she wont resist to get reach you. look i started with with you & ended you, cus only you can do it better, she owe you nothing. 2 Likes |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by Abdulhakeem78(m): 9:42pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
@Kenwills, accept her the way she is and be more focus on your achievements. I believe if you make it to the top she would definitely love to be around you. Money calls people to your presence while poverty distances them from you. Work on your success, I believe she will come to you either directly or indirectly. 2 Likes |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by etrange: 9:54pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
TransAtlanticEx: Everything is an opportunity for you people to bash women. A lot of elder sisters are the bread winners of their families out there in the absence of their parents but once there's a bad story involving a lady, you guys collectively call them out. You think men would have been any better if all the crimes, rape stories, etc we see on the front page everyday are used to collectively bash the masculine gender? You make exception for mothers as if the girlfriends, sisters and wives aren't the same women that constitute mothers. If someone does something wrong, call the person out and leave the gender. Sexism is not different from racism. 22 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by kenwills(m): 10:06pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
Ugaboy: Alright thanks |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by kenwills(m): 10:09pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
Righteousness89: OK I'll pray over it. Thanks! 1 Like |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by TransAtlanticEx(m): 10:10pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
etrange:Carry your feminism or whatever move very far from me please. I wasnt saying all female are like that but a huge majority. Thank you. 3 Likes |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by kenwills(m): 10:11pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
Abdulhakeem78: Thanks bro! |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by Jesslove(f): 10:13pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
I don’t blame her . She don’t want to have anything to do with you cos you are a guy she feels helping you will be pointless cos someday you will get married to a Jezebel who will label her as a witch and you will forget everything good she has done for you. Just be a man and let her be |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by etrange: 10:21pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
TransAtlanticEx: Like a huge majority of men are rapists or scammers? I don't know what feminism is but I know that judging people based on their gender instead of the content of their individual characters is discrimination and no one would like to be on the receiving side of such egregious labelling. 17 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by swiz123(m): 10:24pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
Jesslove: Go and wash plates if you have nothing to say 10 Likes |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by Jesslove(f): 10:25pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
swiz123:E dey pain you? ���� |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by TransAtlanticEx(m): 10:26pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
etrange:Sorry ma. |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by swiz123(m): 10:27pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
Jesslove: What pains me is that girls like you make me feel NL guys are right by saying Nigerian girls are dumb |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by etrange: 10:28pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
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Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by Jesslove(f): 10:28pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
swiz123:Hahaha the same way I thinks NL guys are good for nothing , lazy and beggars ��� 1 Like |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by TransAtlanticEx(m): 10:29pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
etrange:So why you carry lady matter for head? I'm curious |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by Annwrites: 10:33pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
You couldn't have said it more. The double standards leaves me nonplussed many times. But then, I realize that cismen are largely untrained and really just over grown babies seeking validation. He just wanted to be noticed. etrange: 5 Likes |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by etrange: 10:38pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
TransAtlanticEx: I will answer to the best of my ability. I live in a country where I am judged by the colour of my skin. Even before I say a word, assumptions are made about me. I know what it feels like to be perceived based on the action of others like me. I've been on Nairaland for 10 years, I've seen the trends and I can say for sure that the misogyny that goes on on this forum is worst than tribalism. Of course, I can't change that. But I will always air my opinion because I have sisters; loving sisters who are still in Nigeria. Thanks for asking. 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by Annwrites: 10:40pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
Your relationship with your sister is presently not healthy. Give her the space she desperately asked for. You deserve better. Not all relationship with ones sibling is rosy. Go about your life on your own. You could call her once in a while to check up on her. But try not to ask her for anything. However, try not to hold this against her. Be ready to be there for her if need be in the future. 5 Likes |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by TransAtlanticEx(m): 10:43pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
etrange:I see,great. Are your sisters in Nigeria? If so,How well do they treat poorer men? If you could be objective and honest about this,then I think I'll change my stance on patterns that occur based on gender. Because believe it or not,women usually treat poorer men like trash. I'm sure your sisters aren't married to or have poor men as their last choice. This is no bias btw... 2 Likes |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by kenwills(m): 10:43pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
Annwrites: Thanks for the advice. I appreciate! |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by jabolo(m): 10:44pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
Annwrites: Many men do not support his immature rants. As, I hope, many women would disown your own unfortunate generalization. Sad. It's not a perpetual war of the sexes. Why should it be? I only have to look at my own cherished sisters and mother I'll always fight for. The fantasists aka 'pill dispensers' will be along soon. 3 Likes |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by VirginFinder: 10:57pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
Dotherightthing: |
Re: My Elder Sister Feels So Unconcerned by Annwrites: 10:58pm On Aug 17, 2020 |
You know it is okay to be quite if you have nothing intelligent to contribute. Ciao! jabolo: |
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