Bare me witness here - Nigerian schools, especially the expensive private ones, are significantly cutting back on child discipline. Gone are the days when we were flogged with "pankere" in classrooms and we thought it made us better students. Now, I begin to wonder what the future holds for the new generation; Is this lack of discipline good for our children? i saw this topic on another forum and it caught my attention cuz i have been wanting to ask this same question myself.

I see this trend as purposely going against God's instruction on how we should raise our children, whats yours

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My eldest sister is old skool and it was skool's policy to cane students then, i remember my mum tying wrapper round a waist to go beat up one teacher that flogged my sis mercilessly, that was the last time someone caned her in skool cos no one wanted to be beaten up by my mum,lol

It is neither love nor hate. . . . .just poor communication.
You only NEED to talk to a child and explain that actions have consequences.
Then you reward or punish accordingly by adding or subtracting from the priviledges the child looks forward to(Not be double standards as in spanking him or her to death then given him or her all the gifts and presents in the world).
Where does corporal punishment come into all these except for poor communication patterns?
Violence never solved any domestic problems.

You only succeed in raising angry bullies with all that pent-up resentment and the desire for revenge is endless to whoever may fall victim.
One reason Nigerians do not adjust well in foreign countries, since they were never taught to communicate without 'yelling' and 'punching'!
Small wonder why the percentages of domestic violence cases amongst Africans remains high and RISING in Africa especially. It had become the norm/culture/tradition.

Men beating/killing their wives and vice versa all in the name of discipline never an issue, even where these cases turn fatal, even in foreign countries where such things happen also(ever wonder why people have their children taken away from them if they caught spanking their kids? Blacks can never be smarter than whites. . . .I mean NEVER!)

Corporal punishment is never an effective way to discipline a child.
Parents just take out their frustration on their children for no reason in the name of discipline.
No wonder children keep getting suspended from schools for fighting.
How do you use coporal punishment for children with undiangosed attention deficit disorder or chemical/homornal imbalance for instance?

I tellya. . . some people have no business having children.
Even animals in the bushes would do better than MOST in understanding basic "child psychology".

Please, parents should endeavour to find out why children 'act-out', instead of raising domestically violent children who turn out to be violent adults.
Angry, frustrated parents with extremely poor communication skills/stress relief managements NEVER make successful social partners and become sociopaths for the most parts.

You reap what you sow.

Nice thread,and very timely,well wat can we say for we all eagerly wait for d manifestation of d promise of God,