kode12:
You initiate, she does not refuse, you do, she enjoys it. Bros what is the problem now? You enjoy she enjoys, everybody is happy shikena. She just might not be wired to demand for it, or have a lower sex drive than you are, but the fact that she doesn't deny you is great. What if she begins to sleep with jean shorts every night . Try and exercise more and get ripped, maybe when you take off your shirts and she see triceps and arms with all the drip, her engine will start firing

crackhaus:
If she's not refusing you, then you have no problem YET... Keep initiating it

You can buy a sëx toy (specifically a vibrator), keep it hidden in a place only you can access. Whip it out on your next session without her knowledge, then use it to tease her (clìtoris & vagìna area) – don't stop until she begs you to have penetrative sex with her.

Is it not begging you're looking for? They always end up begging for penetration when the vibrator tease has reached astronomical levels... don't worry yourself, you don't have problem.

Welcome back.

@zaza999, keep talking to her about it.

Another thing you can do is ask her questions when you guys are in bed since she is responsive. 'Do you want me', 'Am I the one making you feel this way', 'I want to hear you call me my name' bla bla.

At least, you still feel desired.

zaza999:


I have sat her down and talk over it but she did not give an reason for that.I want to know if is is common among couples or anybody has witnessed such and way out.

That your wife initiates sex as well can make a man feel hot and feeling of being belonged and loved,but for me when I am the one that does it often,I personally feel as if I am forcing it on her for what she don't want and it can phycologically affect your performance in bed.And like I said once the game start ,honestly speaking she enjoys it more than me that I will be telling him so she has been feeling this and living in silent. Honestly I don't understand this act.

It's just not her thing (to initiate sex)
She's probably more traditional.

bukatyne:

Welcome back.

@za.za999, keep talking to her about it.

Another thing you can do is ask her questions when you guys are in bed since she is responsive. 'Do you want me', 'Am I the one making you feel this way', 'I want to hear you call me my name' bla bla.

At least, you still feel desired.

kode12:
You initiate, she does not refuse, you do, she enjoys it. Bros what is the problem now? You enjoy she enjoys, everybody is happy shikena. She just might not be wired to demand for it, or have a lower sex drive than you are, but the fact that she doesn't deny you is great. What if she begins to sleep with jean shorts every night . Try and exercise more and get ripped, maybe when you take off your shirts and she see triceps and arms with all the drip, her engine will start firing

Loool ooo, nairaland ehnnn

The OP has no issue joor

zaza999:


I have sat her down and talk over it but she did not give an reason for that.I want to know if is is common among couples or anybody has witnessed such and way out.

That your wife initiates sex as well can make a man feel hot and feeling of being belonged and loved,but for me when I am the one that does it often,I personally feel as if I am forcing it on her for what she don't want and it can phycologically affect your performance in bed.And like I said once the game start ,honestly speaking she enjoys it more than me that I will be telling him so she has been feeling this and living in silent. Honestly I don't understand this act.

You have been offered a whole load of good advice. Enough please. As someone said, it seem you are looking and poking holes searching for micro problem. Stop whining for Christ's sake

crackhaus:
If she's not refusing you, then you have no problem YET... Keep initiating it

You can buy a sëx toy (specifically a vibrator), keep it hidden in a place only you can access. Whip it out on your next session without her knowledge, then use it to tease her (clìtoris & vagìna area) – don't stop until she begs you to have penetrative sex with her.

Is it not begging you're looking for? They always end up begging for penetration when the vibrator tease has reached astronomical levels... don't worry yourself, you don't have problem.

U are finally free
Go and sin no more

This post just reminded me of a certain shop 2 of my female colleagues said I should pay a visit. That i should enter the inner room not the one meant for everybody and tell them what I saw and my choices
Gosh, I was blushing really hard

@topic, guy, u should continue to initiate it as that might be her turn on presently. Some have it the other way round. Husband is at his best when the wife initiates and ride him. As long as she is very willing and responsive, fire on.

Maybe, in the heat of the show or as soon as she is back from heaven, chip that in. You will get your reply why she changed.

descarado:

U are finally free
Go and sin no more

This post just reminded me of a certain shop 2 of my female colleagues said I should pay a visit. That i should enter the inner room not the one meant for everybody and tell them what I saw and my choices
Gosh, I was blushing really hard

@topic, guy, u should continue to initiate it as that might be her turn on presently. Some have it the other way round. Husband is at his best when the wife initiates and ride him. As long as she is very willing and responsive, fire on.

Maybe, in the heat of the show or as soon as she is back from heaven, chip that in. You will get your reply why she changed.

I'm tempted to ask what happened next.
Did you go to the shop? Did you enter the inner room? What was the outcome?

crackhaus:

I'm tempted to ask what happened next.
Did you go to the shop? Did you enter the inner room? What was the outcome?

Mr curiosity
I am yet to go.
Probably next week.
I'm super curious too

descarado:

Mr curiosity
I am yet to go.
Probably next week.
I'm super curious too

Sha let me know what comes of it.

You probably have pot.belly like Afroknight . Please work out, build nice arms, 6packs, strong chest and well trimmed waist and facial muscles. And don't forget to wear red boxers. Be sexy! Be edible! Hahahaha

Palema007:
You probably have pot.belly like Afro knight . Please work out, build nice arms, 6packs, strong chest and well trimmed waist and facial muscles. And don't forget to wear red boxers. Be sexy! Be edible! Hahahaha

Point of correction. I’m edible. I be like cake.

It beats my imagination when married men complain that they are the ones that initiate SEX. For me MORNING SEX na sure banker, when my woman see my prick stand like Iroko, on a ripped body to die for. Her hormones must succumb. Moreover you must learn to fork your woman in bed and out of bed.

Lol. Don't yiu have a gf?

Maybe it is her upbringing..She may not feel proper initiating the move. It is still good that she doesn't deny you when you ask but asking all the time isn't right either. Make sure that you take your birth regularly and brush your teeth. There might be something putting her off but when you start, she can't stop just like how some rape victims enjoy it despite not wanting it.

Most people that commented ain't married yet, op most married men are facing the same thing in their home too, go and ask some of ur married friends.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, once pickin enter na u go dey initiate all d time o.
When I was reading I was almost shocked cuz I thought you were some one I know, I scrolled up to see d day It was posted, but u are not d one sha cuz that one happened last week.
Ur own is even better that you brought it to a faceless forum, but my friends hubby was calling his wife's friends to talk to her about it, he said if she doesn't desire him anymore, she should let him know. Not knowing d people he was even calling to intervene in their issue ain't different at all.

you are still complaining, what will you now do if she fixed a timetable for it? you men should stop putting so much emphasis and complains on sex in marriage,use that period that she doesn't want to be touched to fast and pray and speak to your God over your family.I hate men that carry sex matters for head like their breath depends on it

AfroKnight:


Point of correction. I’m edible. I be like cake.

Afi cake nah...

I hope you don reduce your potbelly

Nope...

Palema007:
Afi cake nah...

I hope you don reduce your potbelly