Let us examine this in the context of the following cultures;

Igbo
Yoruba
Hausa
Urhobo
Ibibio
etc

Pls not that we are only examining the cultural aspect and not anything religious.

I think its a Nigerian thing that the child goes to whoever can take care of the baby, and most times its the girl that suffers because its only her family that will never want to see there daughter and granchild in ruins, so u see where my signature comes from.

In Igbo culture, a child born out of wedlock belongs to the girl's family and whoever marries her later, may have the child if he desires, otherwise, he/she remains with his/her mother's family.

But in Urhobo and Yoruba, the child belongs to the man whether married or not.

I hope I am correct

nossycheek:

In Igbo culture, a child born out of wedlock belongs to the girl's family and whoever marries her later, may have the child if he desires, otherwise, he/she remains with his/her mother's family.

But in Urhobo and Yoruba, the child belongs to the man whether married or not.

I hope I am correct

Hmmn. . . . .in Edo, and Yoruba, the child belongs to the man, only if he accepts paternity of the child.

In parts of the Niger-Delta e.g. among the Nembe, the child belongs to the woman's family as a number of villages in that area are matrilineal.

Among some Northern tribes, the child belongs to the man's family if he declares himself to be the father.

Yea in igbo land the woman takes care of the baby but when the baby grows up he/she will choose were he belongs. If the its a he definitely he will choose to follow his father cos the insult he will face from his mother's side will be too much. But gyls always stick to their mother.
So it depends on the gender.

In Edo (Bini) the child only belongs to a man if he pays the bride price otherwise the child belongs to the girls family

PS: there are several tribes within the Edo group and each culture may be different.

Etin:

In Edo (Bini) the child only belongs to a man if he pays the bride price otherwise the child belongs to the girls family

Exactly what is practiced in Igbo land. But the child may grow up and go to his/her father who gains from the mother's sufferings.
If I am in such a situation, i will tell the child that the father died in an accident and I can't locate his family members neither do I
know his village

In the Ibibio culture, the man can claim the child, only if he pays a collosal fine to the girl's family. But times have changed, fathers, sometimes might be reluctant to carry on the responsibility in these hard times, while harboring fears that the child, would eventually seek out their father. But, I support that tradition.

In Nigeria, If the father in general accepts that he is the father then both the parents in a way owns the child even if the mother will take more of the burden of the child or children. However if the father doesn't accept he is the father, then that kid will be labeled as a bastard child and the mothers family will take the brunt of the responsibility.

In America majority of the time the mother feels the brunt of it unless she tracks down the father, gets a paternity test and involves the law so he pays child support

Whose surname does the child bear

nossycheek:

Exactly what is practiced in Igbo land. But the child may grow up and go to his/her father who gains from the mother's sufferings.
If I am in such a situation, i will tell the child that the father died in an accident and I can't locate his family members neither do I
know his village

That is bad....a child has the right to know his father. In Igbo land its the man owns the child bride price or not Igbo land is patrilineal society and a child bears the father's name u know

tonychristopher:


That is bad....a child has the right to know his father. In Igbo land its the man owns the child bride price or not Igbo land is patrilineal society and a child bears the father's name u know

Hmmm. I disagree. In Igboland (well, in my community at least), if a woman bears a child out of wedlock, the child would be seen as a descendant of its grandfather (and not the father) and would answer the grandfather's name, almost as if its biological father never existed. It's this same concept that gave birth to the old practice of fathers without male children permitting their daughters to be impregnated by a man out of wedlock, so as to take the [male] child as their own son.

in Igboland the woman/mother owns the baby and that child will bear his/her mum's surname.

The man can only claim the child if he paid the bride price

In yoruba culture if the man claims responsibility then he is d father and owns d child. It is a big stgma for a child not to be claimed by any man in yorubaland

Following

I think the child should go to the girls family until the man lays a claim on the woman by paying her bride prize. How man go just enter person house, give im daughter belle, collect the pikin clean mouth waka, na only him waka come?

In yoruba the child belongs to the man n the child would be stigmatized "omo ale" as long as it remains with the mother. Though it will remain with the mother till the father will come to claim paternity, else the stigma remain as long.

Lawyers be like- Edet v Essien.

As for me, I know a certain Nigerian musician is responsible.
#shhhh I didnt say nothing o...


#NothingDeyHappen

its d parents of the girl..


God, after 7 years, this thread made frontpage.

So shall everything that has been delayed and forgotten in your life, resurface for your good and make headline in your life IJN...

The person wey born the child out of wedlock...

Ndipe: In the Ibibio culture, the man can claim the child, only if he pays a collosal fine to the girl's family. But times have changed, fathers, sometimes might be reluctant to carry on the responsibility in these hard times, while harboring fears that the child, would eventually seek out their father. But, I support that tradition.

+ Annang

I don't know about anyother tribe but in Ibo land the child belongs to the Family of the woman

In Igbo land,Once no bride price was paid, d lady's family owns d child!

I don't care about all these traditional _bullshit.

If I give girl belle now con run comot. Some years later I con carry my two legs waka come say na me get pikin because I be Yoruba man, if dem carry hot water or acid pour for my blockus dem get fault?

Facts should be faced and not some traditional nonsense.

I dont know

[quote

author=Etin]In Edo (Bini) the child only belongs to a man if he pays
the bride price otherwise the child belongs to the girls family

PS: there are several tribes within the Edo group and each culture may
be different.[/quote] my dear i disagree i am a bini man and the child
belong to the father whether he hads paid the bride price or
not,afterall the child bear his father surname not the mother abi?

No matter where you come from,the child belongs to the father.

The lady, except the man claims the responsibility

[quote
author=nossycheek]

Exactly what is practiced in Igbo land. But the child may grow up and go
to his/her father who gains from the mother's sufferings.
If I am in such a situation, i will tell the child that the father died
in an accident and I can't locate his family members neither do I
know his village[/quote]kai u wicked oo

The father of the woman.