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What Should She Do? by Rosebloom: 6:47pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
This lady recently got a federal job in Delta and met a guy who resides in Abuja . He proposed and they had agreed she'll work for at least two years while they try long distance. After they had been in the relationship for a while the guy told her while he agrees to the arrangement he'll retract his end of the bargain if the long distance interferes(he was basically saying he doesn't want long distance). Suggested rather she quit and come look for a job in Abuja or start a business. Note that he also does not want a stay at home wife. |
Re: What Should She Do? by dingbang(m): 6:54pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
She should continue with her federal job in delta state. 14 Likes |
Re: What Should She Do? by Rosebloom: 6:54pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
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Re: What Should She Do? by SweetCunt97(f): 6:57pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
Rosebloom:Yes. Unless he has a job for her in Abuja or he'll give her money to start the business if not, she should forget about him. How can a sane person ask a lady to quit her govt job? As per demigod wey him be or his he a millionaire? Abeg o 25 Likes |
Re: What Should She Do? by dingbang(m): 6:57pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
Rosebloom:and forgo the situationship 14 Likes |
Re: What Should She Do? by longetivity(m): 6:59pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
her choice her life |
Re: What Should She Do? by Rosebloom: 7:00pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: Lol He accepts to help her start a business. The question is how well she'll do in business for someone that has never tried. As man wey him be� |
Re: What Should She Do? by Rosebloom: 7:01pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
dingbang: What makes it a situationship ? |
Re: What Should She Do? by Rosebloom: 7:01pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
longetivity: Thanks for the elaborate contribution dear. |
Re: What Should She Do? by magnificient7: 7:02pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
Are they married now? Has wedding plans commence? Or has a wedding date been fixed? If the answer is no, no even reason to quit. If the answer is yes, then she can start searching for a job in abuja 3 Likes |
Re: What Should She Do? by dingbang(m): 7:03pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
Rosebloom:the moment you created a thread about it, trust me, it became a situationship 4 Likes |
Re: What Should She Do? by Rosebloom: 7:04pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
dingbang: I see |
Re: What Should She Do? by Rosebloom: 7:04pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
magnificient7: And if she doesn't get one? |
Re: What Should She Do? by Klass99(f): 7:24pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
. 6 Likes |
Re: What Should She Do? by dingbang(m): 7:25pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
Klass99:I swear... |
Re: What Should She Do? by Rosebloom: 7:26pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
Klass99: I never even asserted it was my friend. You are right to make your assumptions though. You can now go ahead and make a concise contribution. PS : you're angry sha |
Re: What Should She Do? by mariahAngel(f): 7:32pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
Rosebloom:Imagine the question... |
Re: What Should She Do? by Klass99(f): 7:34pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
. 12 Likes |
Re: What Should She Do? by dingbang(m): 7:35pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
Klass99:lmao. na true na. Because na so so I miss you I miss you too , I wish I was there with you yarns everyday 3 Likes |
Re: What Should She Do? by Gloriagee(f): 7:39pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
After quitting the job, he'll call her a leech. Na today? SweetCunt97: 2 Likes |
Re: What Should She Do? by bukatyne(f): 7:40pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
Rosebloom: Move to Abuja as what? Wife? Fiancee? Girlfriend? Bedmate? Oga has already told you he will retract his end of the bargain (what end: relationship/proposal) if thee distance interfers (which it will because it is a long distance). Smart guy! Doesn't want to carry the guilt of a breakup so he gives you conditions like 'I will move on if water makes me wet' or 'if petrol makes my car move' or 'if air makes my balloon float'. You better te pa mose: if the relationship would be, it would. If it won't, let it die a natural death. 4 Likes |
Re: What Should She Do? by Gloriagee(f): 7:42pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
U sure the guy doesn't wanna bail. If the guy is worth it, she can work a transfer after a while. Her marriage cert should suffice. She should do her due diligence sha... Rosebloom: 1 Like |
Re: What Should She Do? by socialmediaman: 7:48pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
@Rosebloom If they are not married yet or planning their marriage, leaving her job for Abuja may be a bit of an expensive risk, except she can easily get another job there. Whatever is the case, she should note that what the guy made was an offer that works for him, she should make a decision that works for her as well... it's her decision, and the guy legally doesn't owe her anything if it doesn't work out later. What she could do in the interim is visit more often if that will help, that seems like a good sacrifice to make for your relationship. But do not quit your job at the convenience of a guy if you're not sure you both are getting married and building a life together |
Re: What Should She Do? by Rosebloom: 8:07pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
bukatyne: They are getting ready to be married but he said he would not for the sake of her job be in a long distance marriage. |
Re: What Should She Do? by Rosebloom: 8:08pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
Gloriagee: You have a point. |
Re: What Should She Do? by Rosebloom: 8:11pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
Klass99: Sorry about your cousin. They're engaged. He's practically saying she'll quit once they've tied the knot. Big deal about something that's so stressful, especially for the woman. I get you jare. |
Re: What Should She Do? by Klass99(f): 8:23pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
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Re: What Should She Do? by merieam16(f): 8:34pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
dingbang:or the conditionship |
Re: What Should She Do? by merieam16(f): 8:36pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
Rosebloom:Shey na d man won start business cos i no understand dis ur half baked story 1 Like |
Re: What Should She Do? by bukatyne(f): 8:38pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
Rosebloom: I am sorry, I do not like the tone of the husband to be. He sounds like he is doing the girl a favor and very uncommitted to the union. He doesn't want a long distance marriage (fair), he doesn't want a housewife (fair). What is he doing to ensure it works out? Babe is currently working at Warri: have they discussed she can get a transfer to Abuja? If yes, what are the prerequisites? If no, what is the plan? When do they plan to get married? Is he actively looking for a job at Abuja? Is her line such that she can do stuff on her own? Is he working towards that? What is he doing to ensure that things wok out for them apart from telling the lady what he wants/doesn't want? Is he interested in the future career/ plans of the lady or is he the type of 'I don't want a liability' husband so his goal is an earning wife and not a wife growing in something worthwhile? I think the lady has to ascertain he is marriage worthy or he is fit to give her the kind of marriage she wants before thinking of moving or transferring to meet him. These are pointers to the kind of husband he would be. Except she is a 'man na man, all men are the same' type of lady. 4 Likes |
Re: What Should She Do? by Rosebloom: 8:40pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
bukatyne: This is very illuminating. Lol @man na man. That's the mantra of desperate ladies. 1 Like |
Re: What Should She Do? by mariahAngel(f): 8:44pm On Sep 05, 2020 |
bukatyne: O tie ti wa sun eyan 1 Like |
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