Adekunlegold9ja:
Good morning,
The subject refers.
Unfortunately I have fallen into the dreadiest zones in relationship.
I have been friendzoned.
The lady keep on calling though.
I need an advice on what to do.
I have been thinking of ignoring her but I feel it's gonna look like I am desperate or probably a bad person. Because the girl in question is actually good and she had done a lot good things for me I won't ever forget.

Adekunlegold9ja:
Good morning,
The subject refers.
Unfortunately I have fallen into the dreadiest zones in relationship.
I have been friendzoned.
The lady keep on calling though.
I need an advice on what to do.
I have been thinking of ignoring her but I feel it's gonna look like I am desperate or probably a bad person. Because the girl in question is actually good and she had done a lot good things for ne I won't ever forget.

Mood11:
Not all puccy should be fuvvcked... No be only people your parent born be your sister or brother.. Embrace agape love.

Adekunlegold9ja:
Good morning,
The subject refers.
Unfortunately I have fallen into the dreadiest zones in relationship.
I have been friendzoned.
The lady keep on calling though.
I need an advice on what to do.
I have been thinking of ignoring her but I feel it's gonna look like I am desperate or probably a bad person. Because the girl in question is actually good and she had done a lot good things for ne I won't ever forget.

Adekunlegold9ja:
Good morning,
The subject refers.
Unfortunately I have fallen into the dreadiest zones in relationship.
I have been friendzoned.
The lady keep on calling though.
I need an advice on what to do.
I have been thinking of ignoring her but I feel it's gonna look like I am desperate or probably a bad person. Because the girl in question is actually good and she had done a lot good things for ne I won't ever forget.

Adekunlegold9ja:

I have been thinking of ignoring her but I feel it's gonna look like I am desperate or probably a bad person. Because the girl in question is actually good and she had done a lot good things for ne I won't ever forget.

Zzor:
must everything be relationship,cant you be her very good friend

TheCork:



Bro u chatin $hit sir. Punnny is meant for entering!!

Zzor:
must everything be relationship,cant you be her very good friend

Adekunlegold9ja:
Good morning,
The subject refers.
Unfortunately I have fallen into the dreadiest zones in relationship.
I have been friendzoned.
The lady keep on calling though.
I need an advice on what to do.
I have been thinking of ignoring her but I feel it's gonna look like I am desperate or probably a bad person. Because the girl in question is actually good and she had done a lot good things for ne I won't ever forget.

Epositive:
Ghost her.

Adekunlegold9ja:
Good morning,

MJBOLT:

you neva ready to comot from the friendzone,dont worry she will soon make you the GCFR of the friendzone.

PoliticallyInco:

While a friend can be of any gender, race, class or creed, I have always counselled that a man keeping a woman as a friend or bestie or staying in the friend zone should be totally discouraged and unacceptable by the man in question. I for instance do not keep women as friends. If you catch me smiling with a lady, then know we have had sex. Not that we are about to, but we have actually had it. And that is the only reason I'll say 2 or 3 words to her in public, especially in the officrle. Otherwise I'll only speak to her on strictly official terms.

Reactions in this sort of situation, however, depends on personalities and what your INSTINCT and REASON tells you. You are considering not hurting her feelings by leaving the friend zone? Please LIVE FOR YOURSELF FIRST (and no one else), then your dependants who are too little or too old and require your assistance. It is after this you can consider what she thinks. Think of yourself first. What is it you really want? What was your original intention, how is your psychological make-up and how is the current situation. Is the "friend zone" parasitic, symbiotic or commensalistic?

Let me explain the scenarios for you.

If by instinct you wanted to have physical, sexual and romantic relationships with her, then it is advisable you limit or totally stop talking to her at this stage. Pull away. Completely. Simple courtesies like "Good morning" and nothing else. I would have added "How are you"?, however you may get dragged in loose self controll and go on and keep talking, worsening your case. Most of you kids do not know the virtues of speaking little and being difficult to read and figure out. Additionally, besides simple general courtesies, she should know nothing about you, or your day, or your activities anymore, unless the one she stumbles upon. And even then, immediately limit her from knowing any further. Also, pay no attention to her business and whatever she is doing. None at all. Live your life. Drawing close to her or putting and poking your nose into her business MAY only cause you the following:

-heart break when you realize she keeps pulling away and doesn't "love" you. Wherever love means.
-jealousy when you see her with another guy happy and smiling
-anger out of frustration
-envy of the guy(s) she is with
- money you spend to impress her and do her favours
- time you spend to be a "friend" and assist her with errands
-effort/energy you spend in impressing her and doing her favours as a "friend".

Stop all outings etc with her. Create excuses and limit the interaction with her. Now don't do this in a sad manner. Be happy and associate with other people. Live your life happy and healthy but without her in it in any form. To keep chasing a woman headlong, who is running away from you is the most antiseductive thing a Man can do. I don't want to delve into the psychological science of this. I see friend-zoning as subtly ridiculing the romantic advances of a man." Sorry you can't eat this food, but you are allowed to look at it, long for it and take in its aroma".


Now if you are made differently and by instinct you do not feel any desire to have anything physical or sexual with her, then go ahead. It is your time, your pride, your money and effort. A lady will hardly ever want to be your friend if she is not getting something out of it. Either company, protection or material/financial benefits. If you do not mind being used this way or if you are also gaining something else from her, then why not. Keep staying in the friend zone. Like I said if the relationship is parasitic against you, then it isn't worth it. If it is Sybiotic,then weight your costs and benefits and decide. Such relationships are hardly commensalistic, sorry.

PoliticallyInco:

While a friend can be of any gender, race, class or creed, I have always counselled that a man keeping a woman as a friend or bestie or staying in the friend zone should be totally discouraged and unacceptable by the man in question. I for instance do not keep women as friends. If you catch me smiling with a lady, then know we have had sex. Not that we are about to, but we have actually had it. And that is the only reason I'll say 2 or 3 words to her in public, especially in the officrle. Otherwise I'll only speak to her on strictly official terms.

Reactions in this sort of situation, however, depends on personalities and what your INSTINCT and REASON tells you. You are considering not hurting her feelings by leaving the friend zone? Please LIVE FOR YOURSELF FIRST (and no one else), then your dependants who are too little or too old and require your assistance. It is after this you can consider what she thinks. Think of yourself first. What is it you really want? What was your original intention, how is your psychological make-up and how is the current situation. Is the "friend zone" parasitic, symbiotic or commensalistic?

Let me explain the scenarios for you.

If by instinct you wanted to have physical, sexual and romantic relationships with her, then it is advisable you limit or totally stop talking to her at this stage. Pull away. Completely. Simple courtesies like "Good morning" and nothing else. I would have added "How are you"?, however you may get dragged in loose self controll and go on and keep talking, worsening your case. Most of you kids do not know the virtues of speaking little and being difficult to read and figure out. Additionally, besides simple general courtesies, she should know nothing about you, or your day, or your activities anymore, unless the one she stumbles upon. And even then, immediately limit her from knowing any further. Also, pay no attention to her business and whatever she is doing. None at all. Live your life. Drawing close to her or putting and poking your nose into her business MAY only cause you the following:

-heart break when you realize she keeps pulling away and doesn't "love" you. Wherever love means.
-jealousy when you see her with another guy happy and smiling
-anger out of frustration
-envy of the guy(s) she is with
- money you spend to impress her and do her favours
- time you spend to be a "friend" and assist her with errands
-effort/energy you spend in impressing her and doing her favours as a "friend".

Stop all outings etc with her. Create excuses and limit the interaction with her. Now don't do this in a sad manner. Be happy and associate with other people. Live your life happy and healthy but without her in it in any form. To keep chasing a woman headlong, who is running away from you is the most antiseductive thing a Man can do. I don't want to delve into the psychological science of this. I see friend-zoning as subtly ridiculing the romantic advances of a man." Sorry you can't eat this food, but you are allowed to look at it, long for it and take in its aroma".


Now if you are made differently and by instinct you do not feel any desire to have anything physical or sexual with her, then go ahead. It is your time, your pride, your money and effort. A lady will hardly ever want to be your friend if she is not getting something out of it. Either company, protection or material/financial benefits. If you do not mind being used this way or if you are also gaining something else from her, then why not. Keep staying in the friend zone. Like I said if the relationship is parasitic against you, then it isn't worth it. If it is Sybiotic,then weight your costs and benefits and decide. Such relationships are hardly commensalistic, sorry.

TkhGuy:


Just be unavailable and treat like her your sister, try neutralizing the feelings you have for her by giving another girl a chance, and let her know you have a date, so she could feel the pain she want to put you through.

SHE WILL TURN YOU TO A SIMPS IF YOU DON'T FREE HER, she wants to enjoy your company while denying you hers.

PoliticallyInco:
While a friend can be of any gender, race, class or creed, I have always counselled that a man keeping a woman as a friend,or bestie, or staying in the friend zone, should be totally discouraged and unacceptable by the man (or any man) in question. I for instance do not keep women as friends. If you catch me smiling with a lady, then know we have had sex. Not that we are about to have sex. But we have actually had it,done it and will probably do it again and again. And that is the only reason I'll say 2 or 3 words to her in public, especially in the office environment. Otherwise I'll only speak to her on strictly official terms and basis. No smiles,no special attention, no jokes, nothing! The ladies I have had sex with I text them in the office instead.I remember just pulling out of an intern because someone came in earlier than we had both expected to the office. Buttoned my trousers, buckled my belt, composed myself and acted as if I didn't know her afterwards. But I would send an SMS and she would smile and giggle. The person kept wondering who was making her smile at her phone. I kept a straight face. Didn't look at her twice that day.

The appropriate reactions in this sort of situation you have found yourself, however, depends on personalities and what your INSTINCT and REASON tells you. Right now you are considering not hurting her feelings by leaving the friend zone? Please (and please again) LIVE FOR YOURSELF FIRST (and no one else), then live for your dependants who are too little or too old and require your assistance. It is after this you can consider what she thinks (as tertiary). Think of yourself first. What is it you really want? What was your original intention, how is your psychological make-up and how is the current situation. Is the "friend zone" parasitic, symbiotic or commensalistic?

Let me properly explain the scenarios for you.

If by instinct you wanted to have physical, sexual and romantic relationships with her, then it is advisable you limit or totally stop talking to her at this stage. Pull away. Completely. Simple courtesies like "Good morning" and nothing else. I would have added "How are you"?, however you may get dragged in, loose self controll, and go on and keep talking, worsening your case. Most of you kids do not know the virtues of speaking little and being difficult to read and figure out. Additionally, besides simple general courtesies, she should know nothing about you, or your day, or your activities anymore, unless the one she stumbles upon. And even then, immediately limit her from knowing any further. Also, pay no attention to her business and whatever she is doing. None at all. Live your life. Drawing close to her or putting and poking your nose into her business MAY only cause you the following:

-heart break when you realize she keeps pulling away and doesn't "love" you. Wherever love means.
-jealousy when you see her with another guy happy and smiling
-anger out of frustration
-envy of the guy(s) she is with
- money you spend to impress her and do her favours
- time you spend to be a "friend" and assist her with errands
-effort/energy you spend in impressing her and doing her favours as a "friend".

Stop all outings etc with her. Create excuses and limit the interaction with her. Now don't do this in a sad manner. Be happy and associate with other people. Live your life happy and healthy but without her in it in any form. To keep chasing a woman headlong, who is running away from you is the most antiseductive thing a Man can do. I don't want to delve into the psychological science of this. I see friend-zoning as subtly ridiculing the romantic advances of a man." Sorry you can't eat this food, but you are allowed to look at it, long for it and take in its aroma".


Now if you are made differently and by instinct you do not feel any desire to have anything physical or sexual with her, then go ahead. It is your time, your pride, your money and effort. A lady will hardly ever want to be your friend if she is not getting something out of it. Either company, protection or material/financial benefits. If you do not mind being used this way or if you are also gaining something else from her, then why not. Keep staying in the friend zone. Like I said if the relationship is parasitic against you, then it isn't worth it. If it is Sybiotic,then weight your costs and benefits and decide. Unfortunately most women ensure that such relationships are hardly commensalistic. They make sure they "use" you. Sorry.

PoliticallyInco:
While a friend can be of any gender, race, class or creed, I have always counselled that a man keeping a woman as a friend,or bestie, or staying in the friend zone, should be totally discouraged and unacceptable by the man (or any man) in question. I for instance do not keep women as friends. If you catch me smiling with a lady, then know we have had sex. Not that we are about to have sex. But we have actually had it,done it and will probably do it again and again. And that is the only reason I'll say 2 or 3 words to her in public, especially in the office environment. Otherwise I'll only speak to her on strictly official terms and basis. No smiles,no special attention, no jokes, nothing! The ladies I have had sex with I text them in the office instead.I remember just pulling out of an intern because someone came in earlier than we had both expected to the office. Buttoned my trousers, buckled my belt, composed myself and acted as if I didn't know her afterwards. But I would send an SMS and she would smile and giggle. The person kept wondering who was making her smile at her phone. I kept a straight face. Didn't look at her twice that day.

The appropriate reactions in this sort of situation you have found yourself, however, depends on personalities and what your INSTINCT and REASON tells you. Right now you are considering not hurting her feelings by leaving the friend zone? Please (and please again) LIVE FOR YOURSELF FIRST (and no one else), then live for your dependants who are too little or too old and require your assistance. It is after this you can consider what she thinks (as tertiary). Think of yourself first. What is it you really want? What was your original intention, how is your psychological make-up and how is the current situation. Is the "friend zone" parasitic, symbiotic or commensalistic?

Let me properly explain the scenarios for you.

If by instinct you wanted to have physical, sexual and romantic relationships with her, then it is advisable you limit or totally stop talking to her at this stage. Pull away. Completely. Simple courtesies like "Good morning" and nothing else. I would have added "How are you"?, however you may get dragged in, loose self controll, and go on and keep talking, worsening your case. Most of you kids do not know the virtues of speaking little and being difficult to read and figure out. Additionally, besides simple general courtesies, she should know nothing about you, or your day, or your activities anymore, unless the one she stumbles upon. And even then, immediately limit her from knowing any further. Also, pay no attention to her business and whatever she is doing. None at all. Live your life. Drawing close to her or putting and poking your nose into her business MAY only cause you the following:

-heart break when you realize she keeps pulling away and doesn't "love" you. Whatever the hell the word "love" means to you. To me the idea of love is simply the lies we are willing to tell ourselves at any given moment about accepting another persons flaws vs his/her good parts when we are sexually attracted to the person so that sex doesn't seem disgusting to us and the society.

-jealousy when you see her with another guy happy and smiling

-anger out of frustration

-envy of the guy(s) she is with

- money you spend to impress her and do her favours

- time you spend to be a "friend" and assist her with errands

-effort/energy you spend in impressing her and doing her favours as a "friend".

Stop all outings etc with her. Create excuses and limit the interaction with her. Now don't do this in a sad manner. Be happy and associate with other people. Live your life happy and healthy but without her in it in any form. To keep chasing a woman headlong, who is running away from you is the most antiseductive thing a Man can do. I don't want to delve into the psychological science of this. I see friend-zoning as subtly ridiculing the romantic advances of a man." Sorry you can't eat this food, but you are allowed to look at it, long for it and take in its aroma".


Now if you are made differently and by instinct you do not feel any desire to have anything physical or sexual with her, then go ahead. It is your time, your pride, your money and effort. A lady will hardly ever want to be your friend if she is not getting something out of it. Either company, protection or material/financial benefits. If you do not mind being used this way or if you are also gaining something else from her, then why not. Keep staying in the friend zone. Like I said if the relationship is parasitic against you, then it isn't worth it. If it is Sybiotic,then weight your costs and benefits and decide. Unfortunately most women ensure that such relationships are hardly commensalistic. They make sure they "use" you. Sorry.