GreaterFuture1:

You seem like a sensible teacher.
When I was in Secondary school, some teachers knew what I was going through yet still added to my problems and treated me badly, they gossiped me, made fun of my situation etc. (Nigerian Schools are Rubbish! especially private secondary schools). To put it mildly, That seriously affected me academically, emotionally and Psychologically

vickydevoka:

U are right though, buh some women wants jst kid

Amotolongbo:


Oh sorry about that bro.

And many of these teachers had their own problems they were nursing which could be worse than yours

Klass99:


@ The sentence in bold, oga you don't live in the same compound with them but I do and have done so for the last 2 years. So don't say what you don't know please!

As for your entire post I am appalled and seriously shaking my head. People will respond to you the way you treat them, sooner or later. So, if you think shouting at a woman and she not rising to the bait, is a cool thing, that's just messed up.

Why should anyone shout in the first place to communicate with another? Is he an animal? It just shows an ill mannered person with a poor upbringing and orientation, nothing more.

Stick with what you know of the women you've heard about via sermons and I'll stick with what I know from first hand experience of living within close range to this couple. Don't make assumptions about me or my post!




Lol our matter dey taya me. Oh, the things we do in the name of marriage, but if she were to speak her truth people will still castigate her for not covering her husband and for washing dirty linen in public.

On one of those occasions, she actually said he is a very nice man to people outside but when it comes to me............ I just thought hhmm, but charity begins at home nah. If he is not being nice to you then how can he be a generally nice person? The niceness to outsiders must be a facade because my few interactions with him, haven't left a good impression on me.

People will respond to you the way you treat them, sooner or later

As for your entire post I am appalled and seriously shaking my head. People will respond to you the way you treat them, sooner or later. So, if you think shouting at a woman and she not rising to the bait, is a cool thing, that's just messed up.

Why should anyone shout in the first place to communicate with another? Is he an animal? It just shows an ill mannered person with a poor upbringing and orientation, nothing more.

Stick with what you know of the women you've heard about via sermons and I'll stick with what I know from first hand experience of living within close range to this couple. Don't make assumptions about me or my post!

GreaterFuture1:

There is no "Claim" there. What do you disagree with or "reject"?

GreaterFuture1:
My Parents did Times 20 (×20) of all this to Me, Themselves and my Younger brother. Shouting, fighting Quarrelling etc. Was a norm Till they separated and even afterwards it was still there. From relatives to School, to Neighbors even amongst So called Fellow Christians, our "Christian Brothers and Sisters". A very Dysfunctional Family (and Community) made a Solid Sound Foundation for a Damaged Life.
The only thing I'm grateful to them for is that they gave me life. IMHO, Most Nigerians have no business bringing another human being to this World.

Lazykulture:
My parents fought all the time. I usually call it domestic wrestling instead of domestic violence. I usually dont interfere but my mom will always put the blame on me saying things like cant u talk to ur father? Do u like the way ur father is beating me? I hated my dad at one point till i realised my mum was the cause of their fight. It affected me big time.

Klass99:


Guy, you too get issues. Abeg just swerve one side first.

1b8m:
My parents are over 70, alive and still fight (abuse each other). They're both born again. The hypocrisy is too much that I swore to stay single than marry a born again. Infact i swore never to get married until i met a lady, the most amazing person I'll ever meet. It turns out she's married to this older man but she keeps promising me that she'll divorce him and be with me.
I'm so messed up now because I doubt that's going to happen. My problem now is I don't know how to move on. I don't know where to find someone like her.
I don't know why my life is such a puzzle

DuBLINGreenb:
Before,

Like the way Pastor David Ibiyeomie wanted to beat up Our daddy Mr. Freeze physically, spiritually and legally

The way Fani kayode wanted to hit journalist hard

The way Wike keeps fight everybody

The way Africans sorry Nigerians fight Others and the way they get insulted back

The way Igbos and Yorubas fight each other on Nairaland

It is disturbing our youths emotionally

Almunjid:

That's because they believed they're getting old already, and their biological clock is ticking away. Since they don't have any responsible man in their lives, they decided to get pregnant for any man that is available.
Guys who never had fathers in their lives will never believe in marriage. They'll do to other women what their irresponsible fathers did to their mothers (same with ladies). Children raised by single Mums are liable to be wayward and irresponsible.

Shalom!

emeijeh:
Why would 2 people who claim to love each other fight themselves?

It doesn't make sense

post=93744616:

Where is the sense in all these Incoherent jargons now?
Do some of you think before picking your palasa to type at all?
Gosh!

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
I agree

oluwaseyi0:
That's why I'm a strong advocate of divorce if the difference becomes unresolvable and tension is always high in the home

But most religion will rather couple pretend all is well even when the best thing is divorce

A woman getting steady beating from the husband and claiming she is staying for her children will just die a useless death, a man that the wife has given hypertension but still staying because of what pastor and church will say will just die for nothing

Amotolongbo:
That is the truth.

The very day I was touched and felt so emotionally humbled was the time I was teaching in a private school before going to answer the Clarion call.

Then I was teaching JSS2 (3 classes, A, B and C) Computer Science and SSS classes Geography.
To make things easier for me, I did tell these JSS 2 students to come by 7am every Tuesday, so that I would revise with them and have all the 3 classes on the same level.

One very Tuesday morning, I went as usual and revised the lessons with the children. I noticed that they were few in class that day and concluded in my mind that I was going to punish the students who were absent from the morning class.
After the school morning devotion at 8:30am, one of the students who was absent from the class just walked up to me and said he was so sorry for missing my class today. I asked why?
He said his Dad and Mum was having a serious fight at home early this morning and it affected his preparation for school.
I felt so humbled and wanted to cry for the boy. Then I had to forgive all the children on punishing them for missing the early class. Only God and these children know why they’ve been acting the way they do and fail to perform up to the expectations.

The fights between parents affect these children emotionally and mentally. I wish parents can stop the physical combat at home or just wait till their children are not at home if need be.

GreaterFuture1:

Few teachers would handle it like that
When I was in Secondary school, some teachers knew what I was going through yet still added to my problems and treated me badly, they gossiped me, made fun of my situation etc. (Nigerian Schools are Rubbish! especially private secondary schools). To put it mildly, That seriously affected me academically, emotionally and Psychologically

MOnkeyBabe:
what Of PhySiCal ABUse by teachers,that Shit was embarrasingyo

DuBLINGreenb:


You must have not seen the illiteracy rate of the north and the poverty rate as well

Paxxcarl:
well i grew up in a abusive home

1b8m:
I'm not the type anybody can complete, all the feats I achieved I achieved alone. If independent was a man it would be me.
I just don't understand how a woman rendered me hopeless by the mere thought of life without her. That's the point, how did that happen?

angelfallz:


i strongly reject this claim.