[size=11pt]It was just this evening, I watched the movie Nimbe, and I saw in the movie the reality of how an average Nigerian Home looks today. To all the Parents, reading here and elsewhere, parents must come to the cognizance that how things were done during your time is much different to the 21st Century Nigerian Youth. No doubt the 21st Century has everything in its abundance, left to many others the scale tips towards the side of Evil, but who is to blame for this reality today. Is it the Child or the Parent.
I listened recently to someone who said that "from your birth to the age of 18, you look like your parents (this includes their choices and decisions), but after the age of 18 you start looking like your decisions". Parents need to sit down and relate to their children very well, and by relate I do not mean you criticizing and finding fault in the child but building on his or her strength and helping them become stronger against their weaknesses. With the advent of the World Wide Web and high speed access to the internet at just a click away, things are actually worse in most areas.
How then do we deal with this Challenge?
1. Never Forget the place of Prayer
For the non religious, this would seem absurd but you see prayers goes a long way on the Children you have.
Parents must create out time to connect: It is understandable that the average job drains you mentally, physically and emotionally, but don't be too tired to connect to your children. Create out time to listen to them and hear them out, and in the discussion do not react angrily to everything, at times being too rash cuts the child off, and the child may never speak to the parent again. You must learn to listen your child if he or she is reported, you must not quarrel and kill the child emotionally and later ask "Oya what happened? Where do you want the explanation to come from?
2. Become Friends with your Children
You can actually be friends with your child, through you focusing on their interest and channeling their energies rightly, that child would amaze you if he sees you as a friend, for he would speak more, tell you his preferences amongst others.
3. Tell them First
I believe that if you hear something for the first time, it forms the basis of your mindset and even when you receive another different information contrary to the first information you heard, rarely do you just change your mindset.
For the Fathers is not by shouting or muscles, you should sit your children down (either male or female) with your wife and tell them about their bodies, tell them the truth and expose them to their first information on matters of Sex, Drugs and the dangers of a wrong lifestyle. If you consistently tell them it forms a mindset.
Settle issues with your spouse inside
The cases of parents shouting and quarreling in front of their children have already damage their emotional growth, and please stop pitting the Children against your spouse. The danger is this they will carry a mindset of negativity to their own families and a circle of pain and shame continues.
4.Be a Strict but Fair Parent
Naughtiness is inbreed in every child, but it can be corrected, be ready to discipline your child, constructively criticize them in fairness, do not transfer aggression or frustration on the child in your time of discipline.

Parents must understand that although we are in different timelines, experiences do count and the children can learn from the errors and failures of their parents.
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