djon78:



Chai bad choices dey Terrible
And there would have been a correct man somewhere
That would have given her a good marriage
But she chose death
Chai

Why do we always see these kind of things
Women making terrible choices
That will haunt them


I remember
How a relation of mine
Was regretting
When she married one of those sweet tongue guys
She was working a high earning job
Was the one almost running there home with her funds
It was later she opened up to family members
Was regreting that there was another good guy
Coming her side
But she rejected him to face the kind of unhappiness she was facing
We only encouraged her
She don marry
And kids are now involved
She should just manage anyhow


Making the right choice in marriage
Is bliss and peace

BigDick70inch:



My Oga..

Men like dat wont let the kids be in custody of their estranged wife even after separation/divorce..

Infact..they had rather allow the kids suffer with them than releasing them to the wife..

Except..the kids are old enough to decide who they want to be with in court..

Maybe..the court might grant the mum the chance to check on once in while..while they remain with their father..

BigDick70inch:

she even went as far as askin me if she was still attractive..

I just told her on a scale of 1 to 10..her beauty is 0.1..

Tho..she kept calling me and telling me..how I was the only guy that ever loved her..

I just had to block her...

BigDick70inch:


My ex too..is somewhere struck in marriage to a guy that beats her often..

Honestly..



Have always..knew bein a good guy disgust girls so much for a very long time..infact girls will drain u emotionally once they sight one..

My ex left me immediately I left for uni..
I never bother cos I wasnt even feeling the relationship..but still I was pretendin to love her so much..as not to hurt her..

Immediately..she called to tell me it was over.. I replied her its fine..

But she should..take her time to look for a guy that will love her right..

Years after..the girl called tellin me how her husband kept maltreating her..

she even went as far as askin me if she was still attractive..

I just told her on a scale of 1 to 10..her beauty is 0.1..

Tho..she kept calling me and telling me..how I was the only guy that ever loved her..

I just had to block her..

oldtimersince06:
I had to create a new account to post this.

So, my husband has beaten me 3 times prior to yesternight. I had said if it happens again, I'm going to leave. Last night, he punched me in my face severally and pushed me hard that I sprained my knee.
My concern are my kids. My older child loves his father so much, while the younger one loves me so much. The kids love each other. Do I take my younger child and leave this marriage and separate my kids, or do I leave them with their dad or do I take both of them and trust my older child will be fine without his father?

He has apologized severally this morning but I'm done. He is emotionally abusive on a good day. I can't count the no of times in a day he insults me. He threatens to Kill me and kill himself. My dad doesn't talk to him any more. Let me tell you why.

He didn't have a car at the time, and would go with mine. He was meant to pick the kids up, while I was also waiting for him to pick me up from work. At about 7:30 pm, I called him again asking for when he would get to the kids school and he told me he was busy(Busy here means busy drinking). The school kept calling me, the teachers need to go home. 8 pm, I picked an uber and went to pick them. My phone died and I couldn't charge it till I got home. As I turned my phone on, his call came in and I apologized, that I had picked them up but my phone went off. He said he was in the school and was looking for the kids. I kept on apologizing. He promised to deal with me on getting home. He then called my mum and was shouting at her on phone(he does this regularly). My dad stepped in. He tried to understand the issue. He told my dad, that I disrespected him and that if it was his subordinate in the office( He's in the para military) that disrespected him, they would kill the person and nobody would find the dead body. My dad then said, but she's your wife and not your subordinate. He shouted at my dad and dropped the call.

I go through a lot of emotional stress on a daily basis. I need to leave for my sanity. He's a great father.What do I do about my kids? Matured responses please.

Ishilove:
Dem never born the man that can do this ish to me. You pick up the phone and shout at my parents? Unthinkable.

LedRock:
Se as this one dey make mouth online, for real life her husband fit dey bit am pieces. This is the way they come online to form strong woman but their husbands are using punches to reset their lousy mouth.

Ishilove:

Lol. Na you get your mouth. I don talk my own

oldtimersince06:
I had to create a new account to post this.

So, my husband has beaten me 3 times prior to yesternight. I had said if it happens again, I'm going to leave. Last night, he punched me in my face severally and pushed me hard that I sprained my knee.
My concern are my kids. My older child loves his father so much, while the younger one loves me so much. The kids love each other. Do I take my younger child and leave this marriage and separate my kids, or do I leave them with their dad or do I take both of them and trust my older child will be fine without his father?

He has apologized severally this morning but I'm done. He is emotionally abusive on a good day. I can't count the no of times in a day he insults me. He threatens to Kill me and kill himself. My dad doesn't talk to him any more. Let me tell you why.

He didn't have a car at the time, and would go with mine. He was meant to pick the kids up, while I was also waiting for him to pick me up from work. At about 7:30 pm, I called him again asking for when he would get to the kids school and he told me he was busy(Busy here means busy drinking). The school kept calling me, the teachers need to go home. 8 pm, I picked an uber and went to pick them. My phone died and I couldn't charge it till I got home. As I turned my phone on, his call came in and I apologized, that I had picked them up but my phone went off. He said he was in the school and was looking for the kids. I kept on apologizing. He promised to deal with me on getting home. He then called my mum and was shouting at her on phone(he does this regularly). My dad stepped in. He tried to understand the issue. He told my dad, that I disrespected him and that if it was his subordinate in the office( He's in the para military) that disrespected him, they would kill the person and nobody would find the dead body. My dad then said, but she's your wife and not your subordinate. He shouted at my dad and dropped the call.

I go through a lot of emotional stress on a daily basis. I need to leave for my sanity. He's a great father.What do I do about my kids? Matured responses please.

oldtimersince06:
I had to create a new account to post this.

So, my husband has beaten me 3 times prior to yesternight. I had said if it happens again, I'm going to leave. Last night, he punched me in my face severally and pushed me hard that I sprained my knee.
My concern are my kids. My older child loves his father so much, while the younger one loves me so much. The kids love each other. Do I take my younger child and leave this marriage and separate my kids, or do I leave them with their dad or do I take both of them and trust my older child will be fine without his father?

He has apologized severally this morning but I'm done. He is emotionally abusive on a good day. I can't count the no of times in a day he insults me. He threatens to Kill me and kill himself. My dad doesn't talk to him any more. Let me tell you why.

He didn't have a car at the time, and would go with mine. He was meant to pick the kids up, while I was also waiting for him to pick me up from work. At about 7:30 pm, I called him again asking for when he would get to the kids school and he told me he was busy(Busy here means busy drinking). The school kept calling me, the teachers need to go home. 8 pm, I picked an uber and went to pick them. My phone died and I couldn't charge it till I got home. As I turned my phone on, his call came in and I apologized, that I had picked them up but my phone went off. He said he was in the school and was looking for the kids. I kept on apologizing. He promised to deal with me on getting home. He then called my mum and was shouting at her on phone(he does this regularly). My dad stepped in. He tried to understand the issue. He told my dad, that I disrespected him and that if it was his subordinate in the office( He's in the para military) that disrespected him, they would kill the person and nobody would find the dead body. My dad then said, but she's your wife and not your subordinate. He shouted at my dad and dropped the call.

I go through a lot of emotional stress on a daily basis. I need to leave for my sanity. He's a great father.What do I do about my kids? Matured responses please.

crackhaus:

Na wah o, make you sef try learn how to dey lie small small for these women abeg... especially about their looks or weight

0.1, shuuu...

djon78:






Can you imagine
Sometimes I think na manipulation blinds them
And the funny thing is that the kind of men they end up with treat them like scum
Don't give a hoot about them


But in the end
And from my experience
Women don't really like nice guys
And it's not even advisable to be a nice guy
Women like a man that is firm, no nonsense type
But you mix it up with humane feeling and empathy sometimes
But being a nice guy na no no for me
You turn to a door mat

djon78:






Can you imagine
Sometimes I think na manipulation blinds them
And the funny thing is that the kind of men they end up with treat them like scum
Don't give a hoot about the


But in the end
And from my experience
Women don't really like nice guys
And it's not even advisable to be a nice guy
Women like a man that is firm, no nonsense type
But you mix it up with humane feeling and empathy sometimes
But being a nice guy na no no for me
You turn to a door mat

Mindlog:


As far it is Lagos state, it is not about the nan letting the ex-wife having custody or checking on the kids once in a while at his discretion. Attached is a scenario I posted in August

BigDick70inch:


Well I everythin I typed on here is from experience bro..

Stay in Abule egba side of Lagos..

A divorce issue once happened to one of relatives sometimes ago..infact cousin to be precise..

Parent got separated through divorce..but then the kids were in custody of their dad while they were granted the chance to spend vacations with their mum..

Believe me bro..
Those kids really suffered ehn..the man re-married and left the kids to the new wife..cos he was always busy with work..

So the woman enough opportunity to maltreat the kids..

Nigeria woman..cant just seem to treat kid not birthed by them nicely..

Well..i dont know if the had changed now tho..

BigDick70inch:

Lol..
No need flattering her anymore nah..
Afterall..i no day after the pussy again..

Funniest thing be say..she dey even disturb me say she wan come my house Oo..i told her if she comes I will Bleep her and that didn't even bother one bit..

Even..when she was a virgin I didn't make attempt to Bleep her..is it now that she has dis gorilla-like shape that she will interest me huh??

I just unblock her..sometimes when am so bored to listen to her woes and block her again..

edoman2016:

When he is beating you in your home, can't you scream so that your landlord or other tenants in the compound bail you out?

Modupetemmy1:
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many people will ask you to leave but believe me they are tolerating what is more worse than yours in their marriage.

Gloriagee:
How can you be so sure? Are you in everyone's marriage? Staying or leaving is the OP's choice after weighing a number of factors but don't start forcing your opinion on her like you're the unseen spectator in every home.

yettymuse:
How y’all allow a man hit you still baffles me.

You don’t know the power you carry as a woman!

Some of you take so much all in the name of marriage. You still need opinions from a faceless forum before you make a decision. It’s very clear that most women don’t know what they want.

What do you want to hear?
Stay for your kids and watch war room!

Modupetemmy1:


Emabinu ma

oldtimersince06:
I had to create a new account to post this.

So, my husband has beaten me 3 times prior to yesternight. I had said if it happens again, I'm going to leave. Last night, he punched me in my face severally and pushed me hard that I sprained my knee.
My concern are my kids. My older child loves his father so much, while the younger one loves me so much. The kids love each other. Do I take my younger child and leave this marriage and separate my kids, or do I leave them with their dad or do I take both of them and trust my older child will be fine without his father?

He has apologized severally this morning but I'm done. He is emotionally abusive on a good day. I can't count the no of times in a day he insults me. He threatens to Kill me and kill himself. My dad doesn't talk to him any more. Let me tell you why.

He didn't have a car at the time, and would go with mine. He was meant to pick the kids up, while I was also waiting for him to pick me up from work. At about 7:30 pm, I called him again asking for when he would get to the kids school and he told me he was busy(Busy here means busy drinking). The school kept calling me, the teachers need to go home. 8 pm, I picked an uber and went to pick them. My phone died and I couldn't charge it till I got home. As I turned my phone on, his call came in and I apologized, that I had picked them up but my phone went off. He said he was in the school and was looking for the kids. I kept on apologizing. He promised to deal with me on getting home. He then called my mum and was shouting at her on phone(he does this regularly). My dad stepped in. He tried to understand the issue. He told my dad, that I disrespected him and that if it was his subordinate in the office( He's in the para military) that disrespected him, they would kill the person and nobody would find the dead body. My dad then said, but she's your wife and not your subordinate. He shouted at my dad and dropped the call.

I go through a lot of emotional stress on a daily basis. I need to leave for my sanity. He's a great father.What do I do about my kids? Matured responses please.

oldtimersince06:



Thank you. I will get in touch wit them tomorrow.

Eketem:


Any update?