bukatyne:


May you find peace and God's healing from whatever hurt men have caused you.

Amen.

virtuouswoman77:
pls how do I handle this problem of hubby that does not have self control when it comes to alcohol he drinks to much and sometimes messes the bed up with urine have talked to him still no change pls I need practice solutions that will make him stop because he is the type that doesn't take things serious unless it gets to him and this his behavior is making me regret my marriage to him

virtuouswoman77:
exactly, am scared what if he gets drunk and while coming back has an accident what will I do with my kids, the taught of me being jobless fr now how do I fend fr my kids.

amaham:

Auntie so you don't have a job? That's a more serious problem than his alcoholism. Since you can't be financially independent of him, that's why he bluffs your talk. Try get something doing fast madam before the drinking graduate to cheating

virtuouswoman77:
I believe it has been in him cos when I complained to his brother he told me that that is one habit that everybody in the family keep complainibg about him that the thought he would change after getting married to someone he loves so it has nothing to do with me which he knows is just that he hid that side of him when we were dating

bukatyne:


Why exactly do you have issues with his drunkenness?

gaius01:
I like your name, to be sincere nothing can change such conditions unless God intervene. Na prayer get you, pray and seek for somebody who will help you pray.

bukatyne:
I have read all your posts and summarized that:

1. He has self control when he is at the bar (buying with his money) or at home (also with his money);

2. He goes gaga when he sees free drinks (the way done others eat to stupor in a party);

3. He sees nothing wrong with what he does. Thus is largely because you clean up after him.

In addition to prayers (prayers is key), stop rewarding or enabling his excesses.

Whatever he does in his drunkenness, leave him there. If he bed wetted or any other thing, leave him that way.

If he is not getting the message that you would no longer condone his drinking, explore joining forces with a doctor or police or mortuary attendants.

Do something to wake him up.

God forbid his kidneys fail or liver damaged, you would be the one running around to care for him.

lilmax:
Start cheating, coming home late, stop cooking


Just lose yourself and see your husband start focusing again

Your husband lacks self control because you tolerate it


My opinion

anonimi:


I like this tough love.
Quite useful for a situation like this and similar ones.
Thanks.

CHoccolaTE:


A woman should be financially independent of her husband but a man can depend on his wife for everyday cooking, childcare, market going, running the house, cleaning up even cleaning his piss from bedsheets sef..... but a wife should not expect financial support from her husband.


Wickedness no go kill Nigerian men.

Gloriagee:
Waoh, just waoh!

bukatyne:


Happy woahing!

Let me check if it is World's Woah Day!

anonimi:


Why turn to prayer alone when there is a body of knowledge, developed by exercising God given brains in the field of psychology?

IamD18:
If only people will leave sex, cheating and money to focus on important things during courting, we won't have people in miserable marriages or high rate of divorce.

Anger management, personalities, addictions, abuse, level of mutual understanding, friendship, goals, genotype, differences, family background and histories are very very underrated in relationships these day.

Sex, money, birthday, hanging out, cruise, sexchat, cooking and gifts are the only things existing in 99.742% of relationships in Nigeria.

dorin27:
follow this advice at your own peril. What were you thinking when you typed all of these? She's asking for advice not more trouble

lilmax:
Start cheating, coming home late, stop cooking


Just lose yourself and see your husband start focusing again

Your husband lacks self control because you tolerate it


My opinion

gaius01:

Is better to turn to the giver of phycology than to the phycologist - the learner.

anonimi:
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anonimi:
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angelfallz:



So she should degrade herself to correct her husband?
Smh

anonimi:

bukatyne:


Is she trying to reinforce his drunkenness by rewarding it?

lilmax:
her husband is already degrading himself by drinking


We all know he sleeps with women too


In this subject, she's not degrading herself

Look at it this way

Cheating: exploring

Coming home late: enjoying herself

Not cooking: doing better things with her time


One thing I know here is, if the roles were reversed, her husband won't even think twice before moving with other women, or even kicking her out


She in the marriage to enjoy herself, not to take care of a BIG BABY


reading her situation alone irritates me

gaius01:
You are missing it, don't mistake things. What your pix is referring to are people who perform religious rite but people who have a relationship with God are two different people entirely. I can go to church I don't want to, but because dad will rant I will just go, what am I doing? Performing religious rite. But going to church to have a cominioun, the KOINONIA, is not a religious rites it's a way of talking to the father, one on one. See I understand your ideology, and the worldly standard . most people practice Christian just because I can't join any religion. The fact is, to have a relationship with God is a conviction that has to be done by the holy spirit base on your willingness. If a person is convicted and has the relationship with God he won't be performing rite but a relationship with God which will be evident. The reason why most Christain don't receive is because they think performing religious rite will help them whenyl thier mind is not set up with God. Lastly praying is not a religious rite but a medium in which man communicate with God.

anonimi:
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anonimi:
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Dayoebe:
Honestly, it works.
He will get tired of it quickly.

anonimi:


Why go to church, mosque, shrine, mountain, beach or any specific place to talk one on one with the Omnipresent God/Father?
Does that align with what Jesus Christ said in John 4 to the Samaritan woman at the well, or how He asked his followers to pray with the template of Our Lord’s Prayer?

anonimi:


Why go to church, mosque, shrine, mountain, beach or any specific place to talk one on one with the Omnipresent God/Father?
Does that align with what Jesus Christ said in John 4 to the Samaritan woman at the well, or how He asked his followers to pray with the template of Our Lord’s Prayer?

gaius01:
oh I get your direction. the only reason Christian go to church is to receive more knowledge about God and encourage our selves.

gaius01:
Even Jesus worship in the temple, read the amp and NIV version

Luck 4:16 Mark the word "AS HIS CUSTOM" so that means Jesus do go to church on a regular basis.

anonimi:


Again, you don’t have to go to church to receive more knowledge about God, as presented by Jesus Christ, except you don’t have a Bible and/or cannot read.
What you get in the church, any church, is the pastor’s one way of interpreting the words and works of Jesus Christ about God.
No more no less.
Do you know why Apostle Paul praised the Berean Christians for consistently cross checking the Bible to validate or invalidate what they were told in church?

anonimi:


You don’t know the difference between a discussion/meeting and worship/sermon?